Toys are children's favorite, and most children are crazy about toys. It is normal to like toys. Think about myself. Now I also play computer, camera and lens. Is this also a toy for adults? Killing this psychological need is killing the fun of life, and getting satisfaction is a happy process. Which man is not excited about getting a luxury car, and which woman is not satisfied with wearing a beautiful dress?

Therefore, Xiao Rong Momo likes toys, and I am very supportive and willing to help.

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Second, it is very necessary to respond positively and meet moderately.

I will not only actively respond to their desire for toys, but also moderately satisfy them, but this does not mean that I will have no principles. Good toys can develop children's intelligence and help them grow up. In fact, their toys have never been broken since childhood. At that time, what I bought and what my children played, but as children grow up, when they have the ability of self-judgment and self-choice, they will take the initiative to ask for toys.

Taking the initiative to ask for toys is a positive growth phenomenon, and it is also a manifestation of children's enthusiasm for life. Just like parents, let children know what toys can be bought and what toys are not necessary, and help them learn to screen. For example, many toys that Xiao Tao wants are of the same type. There are already many deformed toys at home, but every time he sees something different, Xiao Tao still wants them. At this time, I will explain the truth and refuse decisively, but the children have seen it several times or appreciated it several times and don't buy it. It's really boring.

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Three children are possessive of playing.

Besides, there is another reason why I don't buy toys for my children. Many of the toys that Xiaorong Momo bought were just a novelty, or they just threw them aside after playing for a day or two, and then encouraged them to play, but they were too lazy to play. At this time, I feel very sorry. First of all, I spent a lot of money. Second, the value of toys is not reflected. Buying it back is also a waste!

Many children don't want toys, not because they really like them, but because they are purely possessive. Xiao Tao often wants to buy a new toy when he sees it, but he won't cherish it if he really buys it. I often lose interest after playing for a while, and then pester him to buy a new one.

Although the fewer children you buy, the more you want them. But in this case, I usually encourage Xiao Tao to only look at toys, and I will actively respond to take him to play, but I won't buy it. What is the result? Looking at most toys, children are not interested, and their desire to buy is not so strong. So I gave up slowly, and I'm glad I didn't buy it.

On the contrary, toys that children have been longing for but can't get can be rewarded to children under certain growth and progress. That kind of accident, surprise and cherish is incomparable to any happiness. Of course, we must also grasp this degree, otherwise children will only make progress for rewards, and the educational effect will be counterproductive.

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Buying too many toys will make children more naughty.

So in reality, there is no need to buy too many toys. Xiao Tao has enough toys. His family alone is full of two big boxes, not to mention his grandfather's family also has two big boxes. These furniture are all-encompassing, ranging from bottles and cans, wool dolls, various deformation toys, educational toys to advanced electric or remote control toys.

In fact, children don't need so many toys, and he doesn't like so many toys. For example, I found that among these toys, Xiao Tao really likes only three or four that can really play. Sometimes, when I see old toys, I just browse them and throw them away. Why buy too many toys? Not only is it wasteful, but children throw it away after playing for a while, which can't reflect the value of toys, and it will also make children's desires expand infinitely. No wonder it's getting harder and harder to manage!

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Fifth, use less substitutes to satisfy children.

In addition, in the face of children's demand for toys, many parents like to use substitutes to satisfy their children, which is worth trying occasionally, but not often. Mom often uses this trick. For example, Xiao Tao wants an electric toy, of course, there is no need to buy it. So, in order to calm Momo's crying, her mother replaced it with another cheap or valuable toy. But the result is the same, and the child is still very naughty after that.

This is the performance of adults without principles, and it is the performance of meeting children's unreasonable demands in disguise. The child is "smart" If parents often do this, children will understand that although they can't get what they want directly, they will always get something, so they will continue to make unreasonable demands.

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6. Formulate principles and follow them carefully.

Therefore, parents should have principles and earnestly abide by their children's unreasonable purchase of toys, so that it is easy to discipline their children and let them understand things without forcing them.

Many children are willful and ignorant because of their parents' weakness and lack of methods. When a child cries, his heart hurts immediately. Children want to pick stars, and they can't wait to help them. They don't ask right or wrong, they don't ask reason, they only care about their satisfaction and happiness. Finally, he was exhausted by the arrogant child, but when everything was satisfied, the child was not happy. At this time, parents really need to reflect on themselves. What are the causes and effects? What did they do at first? Dig your own hole and trip your own feet.

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Encourage children to change toys.

If the child is older, parents can give him some pocket money to help him spend it, or plan the money for buying toys. If the money is gone, they can't buy toys. In this case, children will be more thoughtful about buying toys, and they will definitely buy them out of sincere love, not buying them indiscriminately.

Also, a few days ago, I found out that Xiao Tao and his classmates privately changed a cartoon of Plants vs Zombies into a deformed letter! My first feeling at that time was that Xiao Tao lost! This deformed letter costs about 10 yuan, and I wonder if anyone wants this two-dollar comic book with a broken cover. However, Xiao Tao is very happy. When he got home, he said to me happily, "I changed with my classmates!" " "I didn't criticize him at that time, but encouraged him." That's good. You can exchange toys with your classmates that you don't like. "But remind him at the same time," your deformed letters should be able to change a few books. You just changed one, so don't change it in the future. "By the way, you can change to play, and then change back when you have had enough!" Although I am stingy, it is true, and I really hope that Xiao Tao can discuss it with me when changing others in the future, otherwise he may change his gold into someone else's junk.

However, this is a good way to play with new toys without buying them.

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It is precisely because of the basis of the above theory to guide practice that Xiao Tao's practical jokes, no matter how fierce and annoying, are quite calm, and I decided not to continue like this. I want to cut it off immediately. Many people may think that mothers should first understand that parents' parenting attitudes should be the same. Actually, it's not necessary this time. Think about it. There are many people who love children. If there is no mother, there may be grandparents, and there may be relatives and friends. They will buy toys for their children at will. Then, I think as long as I can stick to my own practice, I can get Xiao Tao's understanding.

So, when Xiao Tao cried and asked me for toys again, I solemnly said to him, "I don't want toys anymore. I won't buy them for you. Who will buy them for you? If Dad doesn't think it's necessary, put them away first, and you can't play!" Because dad recently found out that you asked for toys indiscriminately, which made you more naughty. After buying them, he only played for a while and then threw them aside. How sensible you used to be. You see, you are clamoring for toys every day. I have told you all the truth. Why don't you understand? " When Xiao Tao heard that I wouldn't let him play with toys, he started crying. I immediately said, "You don't have to cry. If dad thinks toys are good and it is necessary to buy them, you don't have to say that dad will buy them for you. " But Xiao Tao still felt wronged, but after crying for a while, he accepted the reality.

What happened afterwards? Xiao Tao no longer asks for toys from her soft-hearted mother. Anyway, like I said, he won't be allowed to play with the toys he wants. After the implementation of the policy of "all toys bought indiscriminately will be confiscated", Xiao Tao, who is sensible and happy, came back. He is still full of longing and expectation for toys, and he no longer wants toys every day. Only occasionally do I rationally discuss how this toy is, how that toy is, and whether it is worth buying. Of course, going to the supermarket to see toys is still his favorite, but he won't ask for it. Instead, he pestered me at home and said, "Dad, let's go to the big market to see toys!" " "Just have a look. I don't want to buy it anyway. Being with children is a pleasure. At this time, I will like it.