If we want to improve our emotional relationship, topic is an indispensable key point. Only by throwing out a topic that everyone can talk about and the other party is willing to talk about can we successfully build a good conversation situation with the other party, thus further "preheating" our relationship.
The question is, what kind of topic can be used as a "connection point" for everyone to talk? If you lack experience in conversation, it is safer to choose hot topics.
This kind of topic, as long as you often surf the internet, as long as you often pay attention to all kinds of news information, as long as you take the initiative to browse this information, you will definitely know; Even if you don't look at it deliberately, you will know passively because of various push methods.
For example, the hot topic "Zheng Shuang and Rolling" recently, even if we are not interested in this matter, we can get access to this information through various channels.
Therefore, in social interaction, when you have no topic, in order to avoid the cold silence and embarrassing situation, then you can use the strategy of combining conversation content with hot topics to build your "connection point" with each other and build your own social relationship.
In marketing, there is an appreciation rule about hot topics: with the help of the spread of hot events, create a story that can be connected with this topic in series, so as to promote and guarantee the hot sale of products and enhance the value of products.
This appreciation rule, when applied to our social relations, can also add a little "value" to our conversation. This kind of topic is not only grounded, but also easy to open each other's chatterboxes, paving the way for the next conversation.
So, what can we do to communicate effectively with others by means of hot topics? Here are three tips to share.
Using hot topics to enliven the conversation atmosphere in social relations, hot topics are easier to control than talking about things that everyone is very familiar with, such as food, clothing, housing, transportation, work and life, because they contain a wide range of information, and no matter how we talk about them, they will not embarrass each other.
If we can make effective use of it in the process of interpersonal communication and discuss and share it with it, it will no longer be difficult to have positive interaction with the people we communicate with.
For example, when you are chatting with others and suddenly there is no topic, think about the hot topics these days and you can immediately build a topic:
You: By the way, do you know the Fort Detrick Biological Laboratory in the United States? At the regular press conference of China's Foreign Ministry, Sister Hua mentioned that if the United States really respects the facts, please open the Fort Detrick base and let WHO experts go to the United States for investigation.
Friend: I know! The laboratory, many people speculate that Covid-19 was "made" from this laboratory.
You: But we don't have clear evidence yet, do we?
Friend: Our doubts about the Detrick Fort base are just like the United States saying that Wuhan is the birthplace of Covid-19, and the evidence we have is "half a catty". But at least our guess is more realistic and logical.
You: I know this inference. It seems to have something to do with the United States sending people to Wuhan for the military games.
Everyone builds a harmonious conversation atmosphere by talking about hot spots, so in this process, you can have more time to think about what is the key topic to talk about next.
In short, whenever some major events happen, a lot of information will be generated and more traffic will be sent to each platform, which has become the favorite topic for people to discuss in social occasions.
Therefore, we might as well use hot topics or hot events to enliven the conversation atmosphere and find the best starting point for mutual communication.
Talk about topics that everyone can talk about in a neutral way. Of course, there can be many kinds of hot topics.
Social current affairs, entertainment gossip, national policies, etc., may all become current hot spots in a certain period of time. But not every topic, others are willing to talk.
For example, the topic of national planning policy development may not be of interest to girls. And you said some star hotspots of entertainment news, and not everyone wants to go into it.
However, when you find a hot topic to chat with, you need to pay attention to one thing, that is, how do you chat? What do you mean?
If you are a boy, you often chat with the girls you are dating about entertainment and gossip. Yes, maybe the girls can communicate with you about it, but if you are too "involved" in the way of chatting, it will give people a feeling of "Do you need to be so attentive"?
For example:
You: Do you know that XXX cheated?
Girl: I know, it's all searched in Weibo!
You: Yes, how can there be such a person in this world? They are all married, but they still come out to make love, and they are not dead. As a star, they don't care about their own image. Do you think this person is stupid?
Girl: Now in the entertainment circle, this phenomenon seems to have become a "normal state", which is really normal.
You: The question is, what do fans think? Doesn't this make fans sad? Do you have any conscience to do such a thing now after paying so much for your love beans?
Girl: It will definitely hit the fans, but the idol you choose can only be chewed hard.
You: How to bite hard? Fans put so much affection on star idols? Will you be happy if you are cheated? Nobody is happy!
Does this passionate way of chatting give people a feeling of "is it necessary to be so excited?"
The reason why hot topics are chosen is because hot topics have the "objectivity" of a third party.
In the discussion of social topics, many people have a "strong personal position tendency" about their family, life, work or things that happen around them, so when we talk about these things, we often put our emotions or attitudes into it.
But hot topics are not. The mainstream information that appears at the top of official website or major mainstream media is confirmed, objective and real.
The question is, when we talk about a topic full of publicity and objectivity, if we have such a "strong personality emotion", it will make the speaker feel "at a loss". After all, we are only discussing stars. Is it necessary to be so excited? It's not yours. Who?
Therefore, only by talking about those hot topics in a neutral way can we build a correct chat situation. Such as:
You: Have you seen the news recently? XXX seems to have cheated. How do you eat this melon?
Girl: yes, it's quite unexpected. I didn't expect him to be such a person. I'm quite disappointed in him!
You: It seems that some people pretend to be serious and honest in front of people, and they will do something unexpected in places we can't see.
Girl: Yes! In fact, it is a question of "people setting". Many stars need to build an eye-catching point for themselves by creating a personal design.
You: That is to say, people are just people, not necessarily as real as we think!
Girl: I won't deny it. However, in the entertainment circle, I believe there are still many good artists who match their appearances.
This neutral way of communication will create a very comfortable chat feeling.
Otherwise, because of talking about some public and objective topics, everyone will put their feelings into chatting and make themselves seem to be the parties, which will only make the normal chat "stale".
Therefore, we must know how to develop a closer relationship with each other through the correct way of communication and interaction. If the atmosphere of conversation is pleasant, relaxed and natural, then the two sides can even evolve from strangers to friends.
Use hot events as a supplementary content to chat with people, and you don't have to deliberately talk about some recent hot events.
Because in the process of interpersonal communication, although hot topics help us to communicate with others more easily, we should also understand that hot topics are not applicable in all situations. If you don't make a distinction, the effect will be counterproductive.
For example, it is obviously inappropriate to talk about a hot topic of laughter on sad occasions and in front of sad people; Talking about those sad and sad hot topics in front of lively occasions and happy people will also be disgusted and disgusted by the other party.
However, when we talk about some topics of our own life or work, if we know how to introduce current hot events as "supplementary content" of our own topics, then maybe we will arouse others' enthusiasm for chatting.
For example, there has been a topic of "Spring Festival in situ" before. If you talk to your friends about this problem, even if some of your friends don't have this trouble, as long as you introduce this hot spot appropriately, then I believe everyone is willing to actively participate in it to chat. After all, everyone has to spend the Spring Festival. As for how to spend it, we can discuss it with hot spots.
Therefore, we need to make a reasonable arrangement according to social occasions and objects in order to make hot topics play their due role.
Therefore, if you want to communicate with others through the way of "rubbing heat", you must know how to control the timing, and don't forget the hot events after they have subsided.
Otherwise, the other party will think that the sensitivity of our news is not strong enough, and they don't know how to keep pace with the times. Talking about such topics is just to please themselves. At this time, it is easy to backfire and affect each other's social relations.