June 28, 2021? Rainy Monday
My daughter has been busy in her new home since returning home. She has no time to collect express delivery, tidy up the room, and organize housework. Went to the old town to see my grandparents. This child has the deepest relationship with her grandparents. She was raised by these two old people since she was a child, so she is very affectionate. In the past two days, things in the new house have been very busy, so my daughter specially invited her grandparents to come to the house and cook for them.
In the afternoon, the old people took the bus to the gate of the community. After my daughter picked them up upstairs, she took them around their new home. Grandpa saw the floor-to-ceiling glass on the balcony and was afraid that we would fight. I broke the glass and thought it was too unsafe. Looking down from the height of the 18th floor, it really seemed like I was in mid-air, which gave people a feeling of emptiness. My daughter explained to her grandpa that the glass was tempered glass and that it would not be easily broken. Broken, Grandpa felt relieved. My daughter asked her grandparents to sit in the living room, close the curtains, and show them the movies that the elderly like to watch. The projector has a large screen and the sound of the speakers can be turned up so that they can hear and see. Then my daughter started preparing dinner.
Food is the most important thing for the people. Chinese people are very particular about food. When we travel, one of the most important things is to eat local specialties. When we come back, food is the most talked about. If we eat well If it is not to your taste, even if the place you go to is picturesque, you will still have regrets. It can be seen that eating has the highest status in our hearts. In particular, my father is very particular about food throughout his life, and he especially likes to cook. Whenever he goes out to have a drink, he likes to study the recipes of various dishes, so that he can cook them for us when he comes home.
However, now that the pace of life has accelerated, we have been eating out for fast food and takeout for a long time. Eating seems to be just to fill our stomachs, not to enjoy delicious food. I have been studying outside for the past two years. For those of us who are busy further education students who just want to fill our stomachs, the taste of fast food and takeaways is no different from ordinary meals, and we have no time to slowly experience the joy of delicious food. I cooked for my daughter during the holidays. Unfortunately, my cooking skills were not good enough and I was not talented enough. Therefore, after a few days of cooking, I lost interest and gave up on this troublesome task.
However, after my daughter came home, she learned how to cook from the Internet. The egg custard, cola chicken wings, cold spicy tofu, steamed mussels with garlic vermicelli, and pork ribs and winter melon soup impressed my parents. I enjoy a wonderful feeling in ordinary life. Compared with treating the elderly to a hurried meal in an outside restaurant, it is really sentimental and meaningful. My daughter spent a lot of time and effort on this meal. She went to Ximaile Supermarket which was a little far away from home to buy vegetables. After returning home, she washed the vegetables, steamed them, etc. It was really time-consuming and labor-intensive, but it was actually worth it. .
My parents' health is getting worse year by year, and the complications of diabetes are increasing. My father's ears can no longer hear clearly, and his legs have lost strength. My mother's eyes are getting blurry and blurred, and she is already shaky when walking. She needs our support to walk outside. She is getting older. I just hope that our children can eat with them more, so that the family can be happy together. Eating and drinking happily is the happiest thing.
My parents suffer from diabetes. They control their sugar consumption and eat sugar-free meals, but they cannot control their drinking. As a doctor, I have tried to persuade them many times, but they never listen. They like to drink with meals. Wine, so I won’t talk about it later. Tasting food and wine is their favorite. If they are not allowed to drink it, isn’t it depriving them of the joy of life? So, I just followed their wishes, let them go, and sometimes bought them some good wine. Drinking may be bad for their health, which makes me feel a little regretful, but I won’t blame them because blaming and complaining have no effect. It’s better to give them a good mood, which is more effective than medicine. Therefore, I also I won't deliberately control their drinking, as long as they are happy.
I think this is the best concern for parents. It does not require too many words, but allows the elderly who like good food and wine to experience the very beautiful parts of their lives from the taste and truly enjoy the most moving parts of life.
You don't need to give them too much money. Their pensions are increasing every year, and they can live a very prosperous life. What they need is that we cook for them with heart, eat and chat with them. We grew up eating the food they cooked. Now that they are old, their teeth have fallen out, their tastes are numb, their physical strength has declined, and their bodies are weak. We also need to cook some food for them so that they can feel the filial piety and care involved.
In the past two years, I have traveled all over the country and eaten delicious food from all over the country. In my memory, what I really love is not the expensive delicacies from the mountains and seas or the exotic dishes in the big restaurants, but the meals cooked by my parents. I often dream about these. My father spent his whole life studying and cooking various delicacies and put all his efforts into every meal. I always think that the spicy and sour potato shreds and sour radish shreds and roasted mutton he made are particularly delicious. This is Because there is a kind of seriousness, enthusiasm and care for the family. I think this is what I remember most about the food my parents cooked. Sometimes the best care is not necessarily words, but may be cooking a delicious meal.
The quality of life starts with eating, and eating must not be hasty or perfunctory. What's more important is that the family eats together. "Taste" means three people eating together and slowly enjoying the happiness brought by food and wine together. This is the real taste of life.
My parents were actually very lonely in their later years. This is because the children have their own world, and the parents feel that they are incompetent and idle at home. At this time, they will feel very lonely and lonely. Moreover, after many years of retirement, they have gradually drifted away from their old colleagues and friends, and when their peers pass away one by one, they will feel even more lonely. At the same time, the world is developing too fast. The arrival of the information age makes them who do not know computers or smartphones seem to be living in another era, which seems a little out of tune with this rapidly advancing world.
Therefore, we should spend more time with our parents, eat with them more, praise our parents more, let our parents come out of their own homes and walk around our homes more, let them do something within their ability, fill in the Fill their life time and space, let them live a more fulfilling life, and let them feel the care of their relatives.
Our greatest filial piety to our parents is to accompany them more, make them happy and laugh, and at the same time constantly improve ourselves, achieve self-transcendence, and sublimate the value of our lives, then our parents will be proud of us , pride, this is a true filial piety.