The psychologist Adler once said a very popular saying.

"Happy people use their childhood to heal their whole lives, and unfortunate people use their whole life to heal their childhood."

A person's life is greatly influenced by his family of origin. Some people are depressed throughout their lives because of the shortcomings of their original family; some people are able to brave the wind and waves and move forward no matter what adversity they are in.

And what kind of family can raise children who will live a happy life?

It is difficult for children born in these three types of families to be happy. Have a Happy Mom

A few years ago, I saw an interesting photo online. A father and son were holding two dolls, one big and one small. The father said to the child: "What's yours is yours, give the big one to mom!"

The child doesn't feel aggrieved at all. On the contrary, because of his good role model, he also respects his mother.

It can be imagined that the mother will be happy from the bottom of her heart the moment she receives the gift.

On the contrary, in countless families, the father lies on the sofa playing with his mobile phone, and the mother has to get up and go to the bathroom to do housework after putting her children to sleep.

Such a mother cannot be happy no matter what, cannot get the consideration and respect from her father, and cannot convey happiness and beauty to her children.

The prerequisite for a happy family is a love that can be passed on. I have a father who is willing to accompany me

I have two good friends with children of the same age, both in grade 4 this year. But the two children have completely different personalities.

The father of one child works out of town all year round and cannot see his daughter once or twice a month; the father of another child has been with the child since he was born. He does many things personally and is involved in raising the child. Various matters.

The previous child had extremely poor communication with his parents. Recently, in order to avoid his parents’ nagging, he even learned to lock the door.

The thing that saddened her mother the most was that she fell down and broke her arm when she went to stay at her grandma’s house during the summer vacation. When she talked to her mother on the phone, she didn’t mention it at all. The injury.

Silent silence has become a daily routine for the parents and their 10-year-old child.

Although the other child has gradually grown into an older child with his own friends and little secrets, he still does not hesitate to share the joy of school with his parents. Because my father has always been actively involved, he has already demonstrated correct communication, how to make friends, how to vent emotions, and how to deal with problems if we are reasonable. There is a smoky family atmosphere

Some people say that whether a woman is happy in a marriage depends on whether there is smoky smoke in their kitchen.

In fact, the same truth applies in the field of raising children.

Only in a family with fireworks can children truly feel happiness.

There is a friend who bursts into tears when talking about her childhood. When she was a child, her parents often left her at home alone because of their work. Because she didn’t have time to cook, she often left a packet of biscuits as her dinner.

She once half-jokingly said, "I never tasted the taste of hot food when I was a child."

When she grew up, she was particularly attached to the feeling of home. The first time I met my boyfriend's parents, I almost cried over a hot meal.

Later she had a child, and the most satisfying thing for her was to prepare meals for her children every day. She said, "This is what a happy home should look like."

Huang Lei, who is a good cook, once said this about the meaning of "home cooking":

"The kitchen contains happiness, and food brings joy. The secrets of taste and taste, and the memories of love and affection brought by every carefully eaten meal become the most beautiful traces in life."

A seemingly ordinary home-cooked meal can indeed leave the key to happy memories for children.

There is a line in "Chinese Baby" that has spread all over the country:

"My favorite dish is the tofu mixed with green onions

One I am pure and innocent, and I am not adulterated

My favorite shoes are my mother’s Melaleuca soles

I can stand firm but walk steadily and make my way in the world."

I hope that every child will have his own tofu mixed with spring onions in his memory when he grows up.