Carnegie said, "A good first impression is the ticket to enter the room." There is no denying that the quality of the first impression on others directly affects your popularity in the eyes of others. Arthur, an American psychologist, pointed out in his research on first impressions that the impressions people get at the beginning of meeting are often consistent with those they get later.

in our daily life, we often encounter such a situation: on some occasions, we suddenly feel that our clothes are awkward, out of place with the people around us or the environment, and we feel embarrassed when we raise our hands and cast our feet. What is even more worrying is that some people are usually judged by others after meeting others for the first time, and they are unconsciously labeled as "this person is very unfriendly" and "this person is very straightforward". This is an idea that people take the other person as a contrast with their existing experience, and take their physique, appearance, clothing and so on as the benchmark. If we don't have a good first impression of each other, it will be difficult to correct our conclusions to each other.

Actually, the first impression doesn't refer to the impression gained by observing the other person all the time during the first meeting, but the result of the impression left in the first few seconds. Don't underestimate the performance of these few seconds, which has a very important impact on your work effect.

There is a technical term in psychology called "first effect", which means that the moment you meet for the first time can determine whether you win or not. If the first impression you give others is smart and steady, then even if there is a fierce dispute between the two sides at the next meeting, the other party will merge the first impression and think that you are a person he approves of. On the contrary, if the first impression is that you are dressed casually, have no temperament and have a sloppy work attitude, even if you talk sincerely at the second meeting, the other party will definitely think that you are opinionated and arrogant.

the first impression is a person's appearance, and others treat you or you treat others the same. If the first impression left to others is bad, it is very difficult to recover it. Therefore, we must pay attention to getting more impression points when making initial contact with others.

When we first arrive in a new environment, everyone feels nervous and unfamiliar, but as long as we grasp the characteristic that everyone loves preconceptions, we can start with the strategy of "establishing a good first impression from the beginning" and make effective communication with others.

If you want to leave a good impression on others, you must first know what elements make up a good impression and what will spoil it. Most people want to make a good impression on others, but it backfires, usually because they don't know what others like and what actions they should take.

Lv Qian is a "white-collar worker" in the computer industry, with strong working ability. But she has a bad habit. In her life, she is informal and wears a tattered jeans all day, giving people the impression of fooling around.

once, she went to a company for an interview, and she still wore that outfit. As soon as we met, the person in charge of recruitment frowned. The two sides talked a few words and ordered the guests to leave: "I'm sorry, what our company needs is people with serious work attitude and life attitude!" "

Lv Qian's interview ended in failure.

Of course, to make a good first impression, you should not only pay attention to your charming appearance, but also cultivate your behavior and reveal your unique temperament from it. Let yourself be radiant and full of vitality. This is grace. Manner is the externalization of temperament, which is a kind of spiritual freedom and freedom, and it is more attractive than a delicate face.

Mr. Dong Qinghe, a lecturer in psychology at Waseda University in Japan, once said, "There are 51 or 61 basic words to describe an impression on someone, but only five or six to describe the first impression, because the first impression can only be described by extremely superficial words. Such as annoying, intelligent, beautiful, gentle, motivated and so on. "

It's not difficult to win five or six good comments. You can enjoy the results of enhancing your first impression with a little effort. So, how can we make a good first impression on each other?

(1) Give full play to your strengths

The feet are short and the inches are strong. If you give full play to your strengths, others will like being with you and be willing to cooperate with you. Therefore, when dealing with people, you should be confident and give full play to your strengths as much as possible.

(2) Adapting to different occasions

People who know how to communicate with others will change their performance due to different occasions. The unchangeable state will make people look lifeless, so they will not leave a good impression. Whether you talk to people intimately or make a speech, you should change from time to time on the premise of keeping your words and deeds consistent.

(3) Relax

If you want others to like you, you should make others feel relaxed when they get along with you. This kind of atmosphere can only be created if you are relaxed and comfortable. Therefore, when something happens, you should try to relax your mind. Learn to be humorous, and don't always look grim or act depressed.

(4) Be good at using eyes

Whether you are talking to one person or a hundred people, you must remember to look at each other with your eyes. When you enter a room full of people, you should naturally look around and take care of all the people with a smile. This will make you look relaxed.

Man struggles upwards, but water flows downwards. Most people have a forward-looking mentality, all advocate valuable things and admire people worthy of admiration. If you give others the first impression that you are a mediocre person, others will find it unnecessary to waste time with you. Therefore, even if you are modest, don't show inferiority, meanness, self-abandonment and shame. You must be calm, confident, capable and supercilious everywhere. Give others the feeling that this person is very capable and can be my teacher. It is good for me to associate with such people!

actually, it is not difficult to get a good first impression as long as you put your heart into it. As long as we can correctly understand ourselves, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, give full play to our unique advantages and form a unique personal style, we can shape "this one" among millions of people and attract others' attention, attention and even respect with our different charm.