Learn to be independent, refuse to rely on this year just after the "black June" baptism of high school students, in the envy of all people into the ivory tower of the university. However, here is the temple of knowledge, but not the dream of paradise; here, opportunities and challenges co-exist, here success and failure; here you have a lot, the same lack of a lot of ...... When asked to go to college feelings, almost all of the new students answered in unison: freedom. Indeed, after three years of high school life, freshmen are like birds flying out of a cage. You feel that there is a big sky outside, and college is a whole new world in your eyes. Why are completely opposite views valid with professors? Why does the homeroom teacher only show up once in a while? Why is it that all the assignments are given, but only what to do, but not how to do it? After a month of being a college student, Freshmen finally realize that the sky is so wide open in college, where you don't have to follow your teachers and parents like you did in high school, where you can think for yourself and must learn to think for yourself. Recognizing this, many of them have thrown themselves into a colorful life as if they were fish out of water. College gives every new student a new sky, here, you can choose what to learn, how to learn, you can choose what to do, how to do; here, you can know what life is, and learn how to live. Flying in this sky is happy, but does every new student have strong wings? People have to learn to grow up on their own. If ideals are the feathers on the wings, then food, clothing, housing and transportation are the skeleton of the wings. It seems that the new students have full wings, but they are not strong enough to lift their wings. Because their wings are still too soft and not yet full. Speaking of chemical experiments in the science talent, but do not know easy to lose color of the clothes to be washed separately; speaking of literature in an orderly manner of talented women in the arts, in the crowded dining hall struggling to move. One morning and one evening is the time when students feel the most emotion. Wake up early, always miss the mother's stern voice, because the alarm clock always can not play the proper effect, late so that the teacher quickly recognized the faces of some students; night, some homesick girls often secretly weeping ...... If the above situation is still not common, the economic problem may be the majority of students face a major problem. One student wanted to be "independent", so he went to the old car market and bought a new bicycle at a very low price, for which he was excited for a few days. However, his excitement has not yet passed, the chain box cover fell off, the body showed spots of rust, the pedal axle groaned, when he went back to find the boss, but found that "the old has taken the yellow crane to go". The overdraft is an algebraic problem that some high math achievers can't figure out. People always have to learn to grow up on their own, in fact, freshmen the first real test is how to live independently, and your first wealth will be to learn how to live independently, learn to be independent, refuse to rely on. Here is the article about "refusal" (very long) Refusal is also a manifestation of wisdom Since I was a child, my way of doing things, thinking habits seem to be taught to me by my parents, so gradually I am also accustomed to accepting, and will be refused to ignore. In the eyes of common people, rejection is a very bad word. Because it represents a kind of rejection, a kind of disconnection, a kind of hostility. But in the eyes of the wise, the proper use of rejection is a sign of wisdom. Guan Yu refused Cao Cao's reward for his high rank and salary, and returned to Liu Bei through five passes and six generals to gain the reputation of loyalty and righteousness; Mao Zedong refused Chiang Kai-shek's plan of ruling the country by river and pursued the poor enemy bravely, so that the unification of the country could be realized; Pushkin refused the luxury and corruption of the life of the aristocrats in a quiet village and left a lot of immortal poems. There are many other examples of great people who became great precisely because they were good at refusing. But in the corners of history, there are also people who failed because they did not know how to refuse. Xiang Yu, the king of Western Chu, accepted the divide the world with Liu Bang through the divide as the boundary, laying a hidden danger for his own future failure; Li Zicheng attacked Beijing and became the emperor, because he could not resist the temptation of money and beauty, which made the birth of the peasant regime died early; in the present day, some officials can not refuse the money and favors, which led to a big mistake, and was sent to jail. From this we can see that people who do not know how to refuse are stupid. Not knowing how to refuse will lead people astray. Learning to refuse requires a heart of stone. In its New Year's message to civil servants, the German government warned: Beware of the plain water handed to you; it may be the beginning of your corruption and degradation. Perhaps you will think that the German government is too serious and too harsh, so much so that it is not close to the heart, even a cup of water handed by others are not allowed to drink, which is not too disbelieving to others? But the fact is really like this, many officials with tens of millions of dollars in bribes, the beginning is also to accept some small favors from others. Later on, they became more and more daring and their greed grew stronger and stronger, jeopardizing the country and the people as well as putting themselves behind bars. From this, we can see that the German government is prescient and smart. Learning to refuse requires a brain that is good at distinguishing between right and wrong. Someone once asked Li Ao why he did not go online. Li Ao replied: The information on the Internet is too complicated, some are useful, some are useless, and some are harmful, so we need a brain that is good at distinguishing between right and wrong. We can only improve our ability to distinguish between what we should accept and what we should reject. As Lu Xun said in "Fetishism": we should use our brain marrow, release our vision, and take it by ourselves! Learn to reject, can make you prevent the slightest step, to avoid bad habits and behaviors that harm you; learn to reject, so that you from passive to active, full use of their brains to obtain knowledge. In short, learning to refuse is a manifestation of wisdom. Refuse temptation What is temptation? It can be a child's favorite lollipop, it can be the most addictive game for students, but the adult world of money, power, reputation, it can be ...... For people who have the mind, there is a temptation to exist with desire. So temptation is born of human desire, as long as we live in this world, there will always be many, many temptations around us, from time to time to tease and strike our heartstrings. But can we just accept the temptation? No. We should firmly reject all unfavorable and even harmful temptations! If Liu Bang had not refused the temptation of money and beauty after attacking Xianyang to build up his good image and defeat Xiang Yu, there would have been one less great feudal dynasty in Chinese history. If Li Bai had gone against his usual wishes in exchange for a smooth career, there might have been one less great poet in Chinese poetic literature who was bold and spontaneous. If Socrates had accepted the request to give up his philosophical studies in order to be spared from death, then the world would have had one less great philosopher who adhered to his beliefs. If those great scientists had accepted the temptation, they would not have been able to make such great achievements, and the whole human civilization would not have made such great progress. Therefore, refusing temptation is an extremely valuable quality, which is of great significance both to the individual and to society as a whole. Refuse temptation, can make your mind to keep a pure and quiet. The world is too colorful, to maintain a peaceful heart in such a changing world, it is not easy. However, a philosopher once said, "All evils are due to human desires." So by eliminating desires, the heart will naturally be tranquil. And to eliminate desires, one must resolutely refuse temptation. So reject the temptation, for the sake of the tranquility of the heart. Rejecting temptation will enable you to move forward with greater determination. After all, resting in tranquility is not the ultimate goal of human beings, and those who want to become Tao Yuanming are only a minority. People will always have their own ideals, and always want to struggle to realize their ideals. And when we have achieved something in the process of striving, we are greeted with flowers and applause, what will we do? Some people just quickly pass through this beautiful scenery, stride forward and finally achieve success. And some people are so enamored with it that they can't help themselves. Why do they have different results? That's because the former firmly rejected the temptation, while the latter indulged in it. Their different attitudes toward temptation determine their final success or not. So, reject the temptation, so that we can keep moving forward and will not stop in the middle of the road. So, reject the temptation, don't sigh for losing that little temptation, they don't bring you anything extra. But if you reject them, you will find that what you get back will be a brighter everything! Say "No" to Temptation The increasing richness of life brings us more and more temptations. Some people are overwhelmed by the great temptation, into the "quagmire" difficult to extricate themselves; while some people are not willing to give in to temptation, bravely to temptation to say "no". Temptation comes from money, from vanity, from enjoyment, from its mystery. Perhaps you can make a fortune by telling the secrets of your company. Maybe you just need to bow your head to the enemy, you can get the supreme power; maybe you just need to reach out your hand, you can enjoy the great spiritual enjoyment brought to you by the white powder; maybe you just need to ...... but at the same time of saying the secrets, you also betrayed your own conscience; at the same time of bowing your head to the enemy, you also lost your own personality and dignity; at the While reaching out to drug traffickers, you also dragged yourself into the bottomless abyss ...... Therefore, in the face of temptation, we resolutely say "no"! Zhu Ziqing said "no" to the U.S. relief food when he was living in extreme poverty. Tao Yuanming is not accustomed to the poor style of officialdom, resolutely "not for five buckets of rice," and resolutely put down the official seal, to the mountains to live a life of seclusion. Wen Tianxiang, facing the lure of the Jin soldiers, was not at all moved by it and insisted on resisting to the death with the enemy, leaving behind the ancient saying of "Life has no death since ancient times, leaving the heart of the danwei to shine through the sweat of the blue". Bruno refused to give up the truth, and preferred to be burned at the stake to make the truth known to the world, making a great contribution to the development of science for all mankind, and becoming the greatest hero in the hearts of all mankind. Although the refusal means that life will be lost, although the refusal means that life will be burned, but yielding means the loss of personality, the loss of national dignity, the loss of sacred truth, so they chose to say "no". But life is full of people who shrink back from difficulties and lose the courage to conquer. In their eyes, this temptation is like a "life-saving straw", and they would rather give up their personal dignity than hold on to it. After the Xinhai Revolution, the 2,000-year-old feudal monarchy finally came to an end, but the fruits of the revolution were stolen by Yuan Shikai. Sun Yat-sen led the Chinese people out of their misery, while Yuan Shikai led the Chinese people into the abyss. The only difference is that Sun Yat-sen was able to resist temptation while Yuan Shikai could not. Faced with the promise of the Western imperialists to make him emperor, Yuan Shikai threw himself on the side of the counter-revolutionary, dreaming of riches, wealth and enjoyment, and eventually ended up with the reputation of a "big traitor". "Wealth and wealth cannot be obscene, poverty and lowly cannot be shifted, and the mighty cannot be subjugated." Since ancient times, people have sung the praises of those who do not yield to temptation, and spurned those who give up their dignity for the sake of temptation. Then, do not be obsessed with the money to bring the rich, do not get drunk on the power to bring the noble, learn to say "no" to temptation! Refuse temptation, do back to their own A father in the education of his son said: "When you feel that do what you want to do, rather than accept a piece of sugar to do what you do not want to do is more meaningful, I will feel immensely gratified. That, my son, will show that you've grown up, because you've learned to say no." Yes, there are always too many temptations in our lives, and only by learning to refuse can we maintain our principles and our true colors. If we do not know how to refuse, others can take advantage of your weakness, lure you to sell their dignity and conscience; if we do not know how to refuse, in today's materialistic society, you will lose yourself, in charge of the demon of money will erode your beautiful heart, you may become a machine to chase fame and fortune; if we do not know how to refuse, we will be a small loss of big, when you beautifully taste the small fruits of the hand, but no longer see the fruitfulness of the fruitfulness, but the fruitfulness of the fruitfulness of the fruit, but the fruitfulness of the fruitfulness of the fruit, but the fruitfulness of the fruitfulness of the fruit. But you can not see the fruitful tree and you are only a stone's throw away ...... In short, in order to control their own destiny, we must say "no" to temptation! At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Guan Yu held Xiapi for Cao Cao's army trapped, in order to protect Xuan De's family, about three things are allowed to surrender; not surrender to Cao Han, to protect his brother's family, once there is a sound of the late master will follow. Cao Cao in order to enlist his heart, the title, treat it like a guest. Guan Yu was not moved by the high rank and salary, and when he learned of Xuan De's news, he hung up his seal and sealed his gold, and rode thousands of miles to find him. To this day, people still worship it as a god, the ritual worship. The reason for this is that Guan Yu is not confused by fame and fortune, to maintain their own righteousness of the nature of the sky impressed people's hearts. China's civilian educator Yan Yangchu young in Hong Kong University admission examination topped the list. The president of the University of Hong Kong, Monty, told him that he would be awarded the Edwardian Scholarship of the United States, provided that he joined the American nationality. Imagine, this than the amount of considerable scholarship is enough to let the peasant born Yan Yangchu out of the poverty of life, and the American nationality, the same can help Yan Yangchu in times of turmoil to obtain protection, more focused on the pursuit of further study. However, in the face of this great temptation, Yan Yangchu was not moved. He righteously told the principal, "No matter how large the number of this scholarship is, I will not exchange it for Chinese nationality!" These words of Yan Yangchu fully embodied his deep patriotic feelings, but also showed his noble quality of not wavering in the face of temptation. Confucius has a cloud: "Zhi does not drink the water of the stolen spring, and the honest person does not suffer food in contempt." In other words, in the face of temptation, we should be more vertical position, to maintain their own principles and colors!