Happy guests: Hu Xiao and Mr. and Mrs. Jiang Xuemei

Interview time: October 11, 2116 afternoon

With the joining of Chengdu Singing Area, Super Girl became more and more popular; In Chengdu, it was Hu Xiao and his colleagues who made unremitting efforts to make dream-chasing girls Chris Lee, Jane Zhang, He Jie, Sitar tan, Ji Minjia and Baby Zhang walk on the Avenue of Stars. Today, Hu Xiao, the general director of Super Girl Chengdu Singing Area and the host of Chengdu TV Station, visited our emotional studio to tell you the romantic and sweet love and happy marriage story between him and his wife Jiang Xuemei.

The husband is a famous TV presenter in Chengdu, and the wife is the boss of a company. Such a marriage combination is enviable. With the development of their career, their marriage once faced a test. Behind the disturbing divorce rumors, they still deeply loved each other after knowing each other for nearly 21 years.

know each other and chat all night without talking about feelings

In p>1987, I was admitted to the Foreign Languages Department of Sichuan University, and Jiang Xuemei was a sophomore in the Chinese Department of Sichuan University. We were admitted to Sichuan University Radio Station at the same time. I was an announcer and she was an editor. The first time I saw her was at a meeting in the old auditorium of Sichuan University. The autumn sunshine came in obliquely from the window more than two meters high and shone warmly on her. She wore a white sweater and was surrounded by golden sunshine. She began to introduce herself: "My name is Jiang Xuemei, and I am a 86-year-old student of Chinese Department." Gentle voice, golden sunshine, girl in white. At that moment, I fell in love with her at first sight as if I had seen a fairy. I kept this beautiful feeling in my heart for two years.

Later, I became the director of Sichuan University Radio Station, and she was the editor-in-chief. In the noisy life, the two of us are always quiet. On the afternoon of April 25th, 1989, I invited her to the "Little World" Cafe in Chengdu University of Science and Technology (now the West Sichuan University) for coffee. I went around and around, and after two or three hours, I finally declared my love to her, but she refused, and I was very depressed. In order to vent my disappointment, I ran around Sichuan University. When I returned to my residence in Sichuan University Radio Station, I found her sitting at the door. It turned out that the girl's dormitory was closed, so she had to come back to me. I lit a row of candles on a big table, sat down face to face with her and chatted, but I didn't talk about my feelings, and I unconsciously put it all night.

the next afternoon, I wrote a long letter and gave it to her together with a tape I had recorded for her before. I still remember that in that tape, I recorded Chyi Chin's "The Train is Leaving" and some English songs. At noon on the third day, on the way to the canteen for cooking, she gave me two movie tickets. I asked her doubtfully, "If you give me two tickets, who shall I go with?" She smiled: "Why are you so stupid?" Turn around and float away. Looking at her back, I suddenly realized that my heart was ecstatic.

The memory of falling in love is full of sunshine

In order not to affect our study, we deliberately keep a distance. But in order to connect feelings, I often put windmills or beads in the small cupboard at the entrance of the library. She puts some strawberries or apples in it, or writes letters and cards to each other. The small cupboard for students to put their schoolbags has become our treasure. Open it with expectation every day, and I don't know what surprises the other party has created. At that time, we were used to writing words on cards or letters, just like texting now.

in may of p>1989, she went to live with her aunt. One afternoon I went to see her, but I didn't dare to go upstairs. I just sat downstairs by the flower stand and whistled GreenSleeves (greensleeves). After blowing for half an hour, she opened the window and looked down. I thought she would come down soon, but I don't know, just wait from 5 pm to 11 pm. Halfway through, I picked the biggest Osmunda flower in the flower stand, quietly went upstairs and inserted it in the door before coming down. At 11 o'clock in the evening, suddenly, the lights of several flashlights flashed at me: "What are you doing here?" I said wait for someone. Wait for who? Upstairs. Which one? I dare not say, so I was invited to the security room, because I was afraid of being locked up for one night, so I confessed. Her uncle came downstairs and took me away. The red Osmunda flower was given to her by her uncle.

During the winter and summer vacations that year, we wrote a letter, sent an express mail or sent a telegram every two days. I wrote in French: "You are my bride."

soon, she is a senior. I copied her graduation thesis word for word. Her hometown is Zigong, and her parents want her to go back. But I hope she will go to my hometown Chongqing and wait for me to graduate. Finally, we decided to let her stay in Chengdu. But it's not easy. We don't have any relationship or background, so we have to go to each unit to find it, hit a wall, find it again, and hit a wall again. Later, she managed to be assigned to a pharmaceutical factory in Tianhui Town. To meet each other, we will ride a bike for an hour and a half. At that time, communication was not convenient. In order to answer her phone call, I had to run from my residence to the next floor. Once I heard the phone ring, and I didn't have my key, so I just turned the window and went in to answer her phone. And if she wants to answer the phone, she must come out of the dormitory and run to the office building more than 111 meters away to answer it. One night, she vaguely felt that the phone rang and flew past in the dark. After answering the phone, a person went back to the dormitory in the dark, gloomy, and she was afraid. At that time, I loved so hard, but I was also very happy. Looking back now, my memory is full of sunny days, simple, beautiful and happy, just like that movie of Jiang Wen.

Getting married The whole wedding was like a party

In July, 1991, I graduated from university and went to Sichuan Economic Radio Station to apply for a program host. 1111 people applied for the exam, only me and another young man got in. What impressed me most was that I moved eight times in the first year after graduating from college.

at the end of p>1992, we thought it was time to get married. At that time, we had no idea about having a banquet or receiving a bride price when we got married. My buddy at the radio station planned the wedding. On the wedding day of September 9, 1993, a group of buddies came to our downstairs in a car borrowed from somewhere and said, "Go, get married!" " So he took me and Jiang Xuemei away. The wedding was held in a bar owned by a friend of mine. The whole wedding was like a party. We didn't even eat rice, just drank water. All 21 or 31 presenters of our radio station took turns to host the ceremony. The men said how much they admired the bride and the women said how much they admired the groom. The whole wedding was teased by everyone. After the wedding, I am very grateful to invite everyone to eat instant noodles and wine at home. My wedding is very participatory. It seems that everyone is getting married except me and Jiang Xuemei. It is estimated that Hunan Satellite TV started the program "Happy Camp" after learning from the entertainment elements, haha.

it's interesting to talk about receiving wedding gifts. Our director gave me a warm water bottle, still made of plastic shell. Dong Lin, the host of our station, gave me a Marriage Law. We still keep the list of all bride price. I miss the time I spent in Sichuan Economic Radio, and I am very grateful to those guys.

It pains me to give birth to a daughter.

In the summer of p>1994, she was pregnant. At that time, we didn't even have a rented house. The most decent furniture was a TV set, and their salaries added up to less than 2,111 yuan.

in this way, I, a big boy who hasn't woken up, became a father in a trance. She didn't have an attack until three days after the due date. When she was tired, I happily took her to the hospital. Her father carries a washbasin and a quilt, and I carry a tape recorder and stereo. From the onset to the birth of the child, she was in pain for seven hours, scratching her mother and my hands, but she didn't scream. I had to have a caesarean section. When I signed it, my hands were shaking. This is the life of the person I love most. For the first time, I was in awe of life.

When the nurse held her daughter in front of me, I was not filled with happiness like other fathers. I just felt heartbroken and the burden was overwhelming. "I'm afraid of falling when I hold it in my hand, but I'm afraid of melting when I hold it in my mouth." I bought a bunch of roses, tore off the petals and spread them all over my daughter's crib. Looking at my daughter's quiet and sweet sleep, I suddenly remembered a passage in a book: "When I looked at my lovely little daughter, I thought that somewhere in this world, a boy with open-backed pants and a runny nose would take her for himself, and I was very angry when I thought about it."

with our daughter, we moved again. I rented a house and cleaned it in Shuanglin first, then packed my luggage at Ximen, and moved to Shuanglin like ants moved. This is the first time that I feel responsible for my family as a man. It's too realistic. In the past, all I could think about was wine, moonlight, music and flowers. This move made me feel a great sense of accomplishment, because I decorated this home.

I am happy with all the ups and downs

As a father, I am getting quieter and quieter. After 1995, our love life entered a quiet period. By the time I was 31 years old in 2111, I was no longer as greedy for the excitement outside as before, but I was eager to go home, calm down and read books, and my family of three lived a pastoral life away from the noise on weekends. I used to like drinking coffee, but since last year, I have been infatuated with tea culture and Beijing opera.

Just when I was trying to take myself back, my wife devoted herself to her career. First, long-term night shift, then travel to all parts of the country on business, and travel outside for half a year. We are all eager for each other's understanding and support, but no one can convince anyone. We began to have conflicts, a cold war, and we didn't talk for a few days. This indifference has tightened the bond of marriage. Although we never quarrel, we only talk loudly, but there are still rumors outside that we are divorced. However, when we have conflicts, as long as our daughter is ill, the great contradictions can be put down, and the two will immediately unite in a family centered on her daughter. Gradually, we learned to adjust and tolerate, and the sunny days came back.

Looking back now, although it was very painful at that time, all the twists and turns and bumps were very happy, because those constituted memories and conversations between us. I even think, there must be bumps and bumps, in order to make our feelings thick, in order to know what it is like to be heartbroken for each other.

I work in a TV station and do entertainment programs. Naturally, there are many beautiful women around me. However, when examining beautiful women becomes a daily job, beautiful women will not become a fatal temptation.

We realize that we all spend our own money now, and we never quarrel about money. If you buy something big, I will pay 61%, and she will pay 41%. It's the same with buying a car and a house. But each of us has no private money, and this housekeeping model depends entirely on trust. When I wear a watch with more than 1,111 yuan, I can buy a GUCCI watch with more than 4,111 yuan for her without hesitation.

we have known each other for almost 21 years, but we still maintain our passion. I taught her to play tennis after graduating from college, and I only played with her for more than 11 years. In the Spring Festival of 2114, we flew to a Hilton Hotel in Thailand to play tennis. Last Spring Festival, it was her birthday. I booked the beach bar of a hotel in Langkawi Island, Malaysia, and celebrated her birthday with my friends. A special band played for us, and when the chef was busy cooking and opening champagne, she was deeply moved.

Jiang Xuemei talks about

"Managing Marriage with Heart"

Hu Xiao's wife, Jiang Xuemei, is the boss of Borui Printing Company. What is the unique experience of this successful woman in managing marriage? On March 3rd, Ms. Jiang told us about her "happiness story" with Hu Xiao in a telephone interview with our reporter.

The happiness of our marriage has a lot to do with the hard work of both sides. I used to be a good wife and mother, but in the past eight years, with the development of my career, I have changed a lot, and I can't take care of my family. Hu Xiao thinks I have become very hard and cold, and they almost broke up. But it is not easy to build a home hard, and we really can't give up each other.

When we graduated from college, we stayed in Chengdu for love. We can move around without buying a bed, but we must never buy carpets and candlesticks necessary for candlelight dinner. No matter how hard it is, we have never given up this love. We firmly believe that as long as two people are together, there will be bread. Almost 21 years, we have changed from lovers to relatives and become part of each other's blood. Therefore, no matter how big the contradiction is, we will understand and tolerate each other. During our cold war, I flew from Nanchang to Lanzhou, and the plane forced to land in Yinchuan due to mechanical failure. I called him in tears when I was in shock. He didn't say anything, but I knew that his heart was greatly shocked.

as a wife and the boss of the company, I have always been confused about how to balance my career and family. When our relationship was the most rigid and painful, I went to my friend who was a psychiatrist. The expert made me reflect that I really ignored him. I used to tell him that I was busy and had no time to take care of my family and spend time with him and my daughter. But in fact, these are all excuses. As long as you are willing, you can certainly find time to spend with your family. Sometimes you can't do both, but he can see your efforts. I don't have any social life now. I'll go home as soon as I'm busy with my work. We will sit in bed and chat all night. I will bring him into my work circle and let him understand me. He will also talk to me about his work and take me to the computer room to watch him cut films.

I never worry that as a public figure, he can't resist the temptation outside. In the past, he was a radio host, and I was still jealous when a female audience presented flowers, but now I won't. One is based on self-confidence, and the other is that our feelings are too deep and we will never abandon each other easily. Hu Xiao is a man with a special sense of responsibility and high taste. His love for his daughter surprised me first, then moved me. His daughter is ill, so he can hold her up all night.

A friend once said with emotion, "One bloom is good for many families, while your family has two bloom flowers, and the marriage is so happy that it is very rare."

Jiang Hu's understanding of love and marriage

Jiang Xuemei: A long marriage is really easy to make people feel tired, so we should constantly pay and create.

Hu Xiao: I think love and marriage are separated. Love is a kind of emotion, which changes anytime and anywhere for some reason. Love must be passionate, crazy and heart-to-heart to melt each other. And marriage is the art of two people getting along, not the art of loving each other. This kind of getting along pays attention to relaxation, either far or near, or close or sparse. It has been nearly 21 years since our college classmates got married, but the marriage is still stable and the feelings are getting deeper and deeper, which is rare. I'm very proud of it.