Etiquette is a habit of providing a pleasant experience and thinking of others, and table manners can be applied to all kinds of etiquette. If you have basic manners, you can appear in any occasion and any place in a dignified manner, and the people around you will think that you are a person with good taste and thinking of others, and manners are one of the important conditions to be loved by all people.
So how do we develop good table manners and rules for our children? Manners are definitely not something that grows on you naturally at a certain point. It can only be taught through someone else, and it is only the parents who are full of love to teach it to their children. When teaching your child manners, it is very important to do so with a loving heart and gently. It's best not to remind him of this and that when he's still hungry, and it's better to do it when the parents and the child are more relaxed after eating.
The 12 most basic table manners that children should master
1, enjoy every meal we have with a grateful heart.
This gratitude includes for the various seasons of nature that bring us a variety of seasonal delicacies, for the people who cultivate these foods, and for those foods that give us nourishment and energy. This kind of gratitude, more than the way we hold our chopsticks, more than the way we sit for meals, should be passed on as a family culture.
2. Invite the elders to take their seats first and serve them the food first.
Respecting the elderly is a traditional Chinese virtue, and when children are young, parents should do a good job of demonstrating this by inviting the elders to take their seats and giving them food first. Before the elders have moved the chopsticks, the younger generation should not eat up first. When a parent hands a bowl to a child, the child should take the bowl with both hands to show respect for the elder.
3. Don't leave your seat before you finish eating
In addition to washing your hands before meals, it's a good idea to let your child get into the habit of dealing with the problem of going to the restroom before eating, so that he or she can enjoy the meal with greater peace of mind and relaxation.
4. Sit up straight and maintain an upright posture.
This not only looks good, but is also good for digestion.
5, hold chopsticks correctly
In fact, it only takes 1 hour for a mom to teach her child to use chopsticks, and just one use of chopsticks alone can make a person look educated. Our old ancestors invented chopsticks, a prop that can be used for a variety of foods, and contains a deep traditional cultural essence of responding to change with no change and responding to complexity with simplicity, which is something we must pass on.
6. Don't bang on the chopsticks or make a lot of noise while eating.
7, avoid rummaging around in the plate
Don't use a spoon or chopsticks to rummage around in the plate in order to pick the dishes you like to eat, some people even transfer all the dishes they like from the plate and leave the unpalatable ones for other people, which is a very rude behavior and seems to be more selfish.
8, eat as much as possible do not make noise
Educate children chewing rice as much as possible to close their mouths, drink soup slowly and wait for the soup to cool down before drinking, do not come up to Siri holler to drink.
9, do not eat while doing other things.
Eating time is a time for the family to get together, and it's also the best time to strengthen parent-child communication, and children will have a lot of things they want to share with their parents, so please cherish this time. Remind your children that they are not allowed to play with toys during mealtime. Try to create a quiet environment during meals as well, and don't let your child watch TV while eating. At the same time, we should also remind mom and dad not to answer their cell phones for long periods of time during meals. After all, in such a busy modern society, it's actually a blessing for a family to have a meal together in peace and without any interruptions.
10, thank the person who prepared the food after the meal.
11, if you want to leave the table first after eating, greet your elders with, "I'm done eating."
12. Help clear the table, clean up the dishes or help wash the dishes after the meal.
Table manners should be trained from the beginning
For most parents, the Chinese New Year is a time when they have many more opportunities to eat with family and guests than usual, and this is an excellent opportunity to educate their children about table manners. Every parent wants to be appreciated by their friends when they take their children out, but it's important for parents to do their homework up front, and to start paying attention to their children's table manners from the beginning of the week, so that when they get to certain occasions, they don't end up with some undue embarrassment.
Ways to develop table manners:
1, dining together. The more children eat with their parents, the more they will learn proper etiquette.
2. Don't ask for it fast. Teach one or two manners systematically over the same period of time.
3. Reasonable goals. Each child is an individual. Parents should try to understand their children's abilities as much as possible; what works for one child may not work at all with others, and be aware of age differences.
4. Be flexible. If your child is very out of sorts one day, take it easy and delay it until the next day.
5. Be lively and fun. Children are imaginative and love to play the role of characters in life, sometimes it is good to set up a nice meal, invite them to dress up for the feast, and teach them to behave in a way that is appropriate to the identity of the character they are playing.
6, often drill. Parents take their children to restaurants to eat in public to familiarize them with the etiquette they usually learn.
7. Positive teaching. Children tend to resent things they are forbidden to do. Instead of criticizing them after they do something wrong, tell them what to do beforehand.
8. Make the most of opportunities. On holidays or festive occasions, take the opportunity to teach your children the principles of dress, dining, and coping.
9. Explain why. Try to explain to your children at all times why you want to follow the rules of etiquette, as this will help them to develop a sense of self-awareness.
10. Set an example. Teach your children to learn from those who do it well, and you can do so with the help of videotapes, books, pictures, and so on.
As parents, we can not always follow the children, and can not keep them all their lives, but I believe that the accumulation of these details of happiness, such as table manners, will continue to improve their happiness index, but also can achieve a better life for them.