My cousin, 3 1 year old, is the dean of a vocational and technical college with thousands of people. He is proud of the spring breeze. He has a happy family. It happened that I couldn't bear loneliness and learned from others to start a business in the sea. In the end, I lost a lot and owed a lot of foreign debts. Then there are a series of changes, such as wife's divorce, clean running away from home, overdue credit card, being included in the list of untrustworthy.
What shall we do? Since I came into contact with him, I have started my business at least ten times, but none of them succeeded. The most outrageous time was when I was doing an agricultural project, I was cheated, sold fake seeds and spent half a year in prison. Later, several of our relatives collected a fine of 80 thousand yuan, and I was sentenced to probation.
It has been more than three years since this incident, and he has not paid off the money he owes, but he is still doing projects everywhere. A few days ago, I heard that he found another investor and was going to do a project. I hope he can succeed this time.
After all, he is 45 years old and has been tossing for 15 years, and the best years of his youth have been spent in tossing. Under such circumstances, he disdained to let him work to pay his debts. Perhaps, success really belongs to paranoia and madness.
We people don't understand him or even look down on him, but don't we admire his persistent spirit in our hearts? If we were ourselves, we would have been defeated and resigned, which is also the difference that we are just ordinary people.
On the other hand, not everyone has to do this. How much do you want to earn to succeed? I think it is a very strong sense of accomplishment to take care of the family, let parents enjoy their old age and let their children grow up healthily, isn't it?
Therefore, it is suggested that every middle-aged person should not be afraid of the middle-aged crisis, don't believe in fate, but don't toss and turn easily. It doesn't matter if he works hard, but it's good not to get involved with his family.
On the other hand, although my cousin has never achieved anything, his son was admitted to an ideal university in the college entrance examination this year, which is not bad. I believe this is his greatest achievement in more than ten years. what do you think?
At the age of 42, I lost my job and began to accompany my students. I rented a house, bought bedding, bought pots and pans, bought oil, salt, sauce and vinegar ... and then bought them at buy buy every day.
One minute I found a lack of kitchen knives, one minute I found it was hot and there was no fan, and the other minute I owed money to the gas meter. In short, I watched the number in the card decrease and the deduction information increase.
I looked at fewer and fewer figures, and I was extremely scared. How do you get along like this? I will live with an empty pocket, and it is imminent to increase my income.
The next morning, I put on my long-lost high heels, put on the orange lipstick my sister gave me, and confidently went to look for a job.
The first shop I looked for sold diamonds. I talked about my sales career in detail. I just want to prove to them that I can always communicate in Mandarin and understand some simple English words.
The store manager is a local and has never been out of town. After listening to my adventure in Shanghai, I bent over with laughter and forgot that I was here to apply.
When I left, they saw me to the door and told me to come tomorrow. Oh, you came, and our Class 2 collapsed, saying that if we continue like this, our legs will be too much.
I brought my ID card the next morning, which was earlier than the appointed time 10 minutes. After a while, uncle security came to open the door and asked who I was waiting for. I said I was going to work, and he said he knew. He listened to the manager Jane.
They also say that you are humorous and will be happy to work together. I was very moved after hearing this.
The manager came, and so did my sisters. The manager took me to the back room to fill out the work list. The manager took care of my precautions when he was busy, saying that as long as I worked hard, it was possible to earn about 6000 yuan a month. I nodded again and again.
I gave my watch and ID card to the store manager. The store manager saw that my ID card was 75 years old ... She suddenly put away her smile and showed an embarrassed expression.
After thinking for a long time, she called her boss: General Li has a younger sister who is applying here. We talked to her. She is excellent and has a strong language ability. She used to cook in Shanghai, and the people who stayed in Shanghai will not be bad. She repeated it, and then asked General Li in a pleading tone.
Can we make an exception and accept her?
The answer over there is no: the beeping phone is disconnected.
The manager returned my ID card and kept saying I was sorry. I didn't know you were 42 years old.
The recruitment requirement in their store is 20 to 35 years old.
The manager said, I should have told you to switch to someone else, and I said no, because the salary and social security must be reasonable and legal, so that we can be guaranteed. The first time I applied, I was rejected because I was too old.
The next day, I considered lowering my requirements. After all, we are too old to consider high-end jobs.
Just look for it in the pedestrian street. You can buy clothes, shoes and cosmetics. It doesn't matter if someone hires me.
I walked around twice and saw a clothing store. Those clothes are suitable for people over 40 years old. I thought this local store wouldn't dislike me!
Walking confidently inside, the proprietress greeted me warmly and said, dear, who are you going to buy clothes for today?
I said I applied, and she said who did you apply for? I said myself, and she said that I only recruit people between the ages of 18 and 30. You can let your daughter try. I am so angry. I thought my daughter wouldn't do that.
In desperation, I came out, bought a spike potato and ate it on the stone pier used for traffic jams in the pedestrian street. I'm going to eat it and keep looking.
Just after a few bites, a beggar in rags took my spike potato with lightning speed. My sister, who sells fruit and boiled in Guandong, was amused by the pig's barking. I am embarrassed and don't know what to do.
The elder sister was clever and said, Sister, the prickly potato got angry after eating it, and the Guandong cooking I made can still be used to make soup, which tastes good. Please buy one and try it, and promise to come again next time.
I am a thin-skinned person, so I was told that I obeyed. I picked a big bowl of 7788, and it tasted good.
Before I finished eating, the sister selling fruit said, Sister, my grapes are very sweet, which ensures that you are cheerful, happy and everything is fine, don't you think so?
Ok, ok, who let me have a soft ear! I obediently followed and bought two bunches of grapes.
I didn't earn 1 cent, but I spent dozens of dollars.
I can't help hating myself for losing my family. I wish I were a few years younger!
Carrying grapes to find washing water, I found a hot pot restaurant by the bridge and wanted to ask them if they needed someone. Wash the grapes by the way, I'm a little thirsty.
It hadn't arrived yet 12, and there was no one in the shop. Some aunts were peeling garlic, so I asked them if they were hiring.
One of the aunts shouted that the boss's wife had applied. The proprietress came out to see me? Ask me who you are looking for. I said I wanted to come to work by myself.
I asked her what her salary was.
She said 1800 yuan Attendance Award 200 yuan, plus the bottle cap fee, there are 2,200 yuan a month.
I asked her what the attendance award said, and she said it would expire in 30 days, dear. This proprietress is a typical exploiting class, and I am a poor exploited class.
The proprietress asked me if I wanted to do it, and I could go to work immediately if I wanted to do it. I asked her about her working hours, and she said that from 1 1 to three or four in the morning, no one could rest in the private room in the afternoon. Who can stand this whole 16 or seven hours?
I asked them if they could borrow their kitchen pool to wash grapes, and gave them a bunch after washing. The proprietress said we can't eat at work, and then put it back in my bag. I said I would go home and discuss it with my daughter. 10 She is studying at night, so I have to pick her up.
Not far from the door, I heard them say that my job application was false and it was true to take the opportunity to wash grapes. I find it difficult. Running into a wall everywhere, I began to wonder if I was really useless.
I'm still unconvinced, and I'm going to make persistent efforts and continue wandering around to see where to recruit people.
There is a noodle restaurant that not only sells noodles, but also rice rolls, porridge, steamed dumplings, soybean milk fritters and steamed buns. I asked her if she was hiring.
While making steamed buns, the proprietress said: The trick is that our shop is very simple, that is, it is stuffed with steamed buns and steamed dumplings, and it ends from 4 am to 2 pm every day.
But I can't make steamed buns. She said you could learn.
I'm all thumbs, so forget it. Look at my phone. It's almost 1 point. Just sit down and have a bowl of porridge. My heel is worn out and it hurts like hell. My toes are covered with blood bubbles.
Damn high heels, crossing the street barefoot after dinner, spent 25 yuan on a pair of slippers and pattered home.
This is my job hunting career, and I'm dead.
Forced to go back to Shanghai to do housekeeping, because housekeeping must be under 60.
I'm so stressed.
The saddest thing about 35 to 45 years old is:
1, there are old and small, so you must be strong and not fall down.
2. It's a little old to say young, and it's still young to say old.
3. The company thinks you are old and the husband thinks you are stupid.
Life belongs to family and time belongs to children.
The biggest gain is the vicissitudes of life given by years, freckles and crow's feet given by depression.
Even so, we should smile at life and persevere until the rain clears and spring warms bloom.
I believe that the future can be expected, and I believe that the sun is just right!
What makes people feel sad when they reach middle age? As an ordinary middle-aged person, let me talk about my feelings.
1. The pressure of life cannot be released. I really don't know who to talk to. There are fewer and fewer friends. You can't get the truth with your heart. Nowadays, friends pay attention to the exchange of interests.
2. I lost my previous personality, became sleek and sophisticated, learned to flatter, and learned to keep a low profile and forbear. The previous edges and corners have been smoothed, from pretentious and lofty to ordinary, from full of ideals to bending over five buckets of rice.
3. Watching my parents get old day by day, but I can't spend my old age comfortably, enjoy the happiness of family, run around for a living all day, and have little filial piety to my parents.
Fear of disease, unemployment, lack of money and death. Life is only confused.
What I remember most in a month is the date of repayment, spending money, credit card and robbing Peter to pay Paul.
When people reach middle age, there are two successes. The first one is successful login, and the second one is successful exit. There is also an obvious deficiency, that is, the balance is insufficient.
These are the ones that make me feel very sad. I don't know if everyone is like me.
1, get a bonus of 1 10,000 yuan after hard work, thinking about who to ask, shopping, buying a bag and a set of skin care products.
All I can think of is to take my children to Pizza Hut first, then go to the supermarket to buy rice, noodles, grain and oil, pay off this month's mortgage and save some money.
The old man is in hospital, and he is exhausted after running. If the course of the disease is long, the leaders who ask for leave will not give a happy answer. After a long time, the post is no longer needed. In order to preserve one's dignity, resignation is a helpless move.
When people reach middle age, their ideals are still there and their bodies are unstable. Knowing that I have moderate fatty liver, ventilation and high blood pressure, I can't help but say something in the wine field for entertainment.
4. Children's grades, school districts, employment prospects, marital status, leaders' unspeakable secrets, business development direction, and intrigue among colleagues. In the dead of night, these fragments kept breaking in my mind and finally exploded. Insomnia, doubt, anxiety and depression. Not long after I fell asleep in the morning, the alarm clock rang. In the morning, I have to put up with a headache and get up to make breakfast for my children.
I am afraid that I will get sick, lose everything and become a drag on my family. Don't laugh at middle-aged men soaking Lycium barbarum in a thermos, which is a kind of protection for the body. From leaders who have the energy to deal with the power of life and death to leaders who have the ability to keep the position of their units, a healthy body is the first factor to settle down. This is not the same concept as eating collagen to keep youthful appearance.
6. But unlike those who have been poor together, when I was young, I could only read the surface meaning. However, when people reach middle age, mortgage, car loan, children's tuition, medical expenses for the elderly, and daily household expenses, money is the talk of words, and they will fully understand what "a penny is worth a penny". You can save money if you don't spend it, but you must always think about spending it for your family.
In the dictionary of adult life, there are no easy words!
Before I was 36, I had my own company, a hotel and a city. I am proud of the spring breeze, have a good career and love, travel all day, spend my spare time between the company and the hotel, get along with my relatives and friends, and feel the climax. However, something unexpected happened just the year before last. Due to poor management, there are great problems in product quality, which leads to the closure of the company, and the hotel is forced to withdraw its shares and transfer it in the city to make up for the vacancy of liquidity. It cost about 5 million before and after handling this matter. Life is really impermanent, people have fortunes, there is a full moon in the month, people are not as good as flowers, and flowers are not as red as flowers. Now it's been two or three years, and confusion has become history. Once family, friendship and love left me one by one, and now I have become a victim, forming a Peach Blossom Island, closing myself off, not asking for others, and declining the gossip of outsiders. Alas. Now I am a cripple, mentally and physically. I will be 40 years old soon, and I don't know if I can get another miracle for the rest of my life.
I was born in 1982, and I am 39 years old. Now there is a house and a car, and the deposit is basically zero. I have a child whose parents are in the countryside and need support. What makes me feel sad and guilty is that I have been working outside for a long time, but I can't take care of my family and be filial to my parents. The two old people are getting older and older, so I can only take time to go back and see them for a few days every year, and I can't let them enjoy the family happiness surrounded by my children. This is my greatest pain and sorrow!
My family is in the countryside, and my parents are out-and-out farmers. They face the loess and face the sky every day, and they reap with sweat. They did their duty honestly and tried their best to make me a college student.
When I was a sophomore, my father bought a tractor to pull goods to earn money. Because of the threat from the local underworld, he was seriously stimulated and suffered from schizophrenia. He tried to kill himself. For a long time, his family was very upset, and he couldn't live at all. He was in a state of high tension all day, afraid that his father would kill me and my mother.
Seeing this scene with my own eyes, I suffered a great mental shock, and the situation at home plummeted. I once wanted to run away from home, and my study was also affected. At the worst time, I even asked my mother to divorce my father and let him go. But in the end, it was my mother who took on all this and cheered the family up again. In addition to taking care of my father, my mother often goes out to work and continues her studies with the money I earn. My father's illness gradually improved under the care of my mother. After I was admitted to the university, I also earned some money in my spare time and gave some to my mother.
After graduation, I went to work in other places, worked diligently, and my salary gradually increased. I helped my family build a new house in the countryside and bought a house with a loan in the city. When I got married, I didn't ask my parents for a penny. Over the years, I have established my own small family, had children and bought a car.
Busy at work, out of town. My small family needs to be taken care of. I seldom have time to go back to my hometown to see my parents. I only go back for a few days occasionally during the Chinese New Year. I am the only child in my family. My parents live alone in my hometown and take care of my elderly grandmother. I can only pay more money at ordinary times to comfort my heart.
I remember once, when I came home, I forgot whether I was going shopping or going out on business. My mother always said, ask your cousin how to do it. I'm tired of hearing it. When I get excited, I say, I have to do my own thing and always bother others! As a result, my mother said something I still remember: who do we depend on when you leave? There are many things we have to trouble your cousin and his wife! Hearing this, my heart ached, but I still couldn't take my parents to enjoy the rest of my life.
Every time I go back, every time I watch a video, I feel that my parents are old and I envy others. I can cook something delicious for my parents in front of my elderly parents, have a drink with my father, go out with my parents occasionally, and even enjoy my mother's scolding.
May mom and dad be healthy, make more efforts to make money, go back to see their parents more, and take their parents to their side as soon as possible to be filial to their parents!
I am 77 years old and I am 44 years old. Divorced and single, my son and his father, I have a house, a little savings, a stable job and income, and I am not interested in getting married again.
I feel sad: after nearly twenty years of marriage, the home I worked so hard to build is out of my control. If I say no, it will be gone. ...
Divorce was agreed in 2020, but as early as 20 16, my husband was found to have cheated. In recent years, I have been reflecting on myself. I have always regarded my family as the most important part of my life. Why didn't I keep it?
It is true that the social environment is related to men's personality and lack of family responsibility, but I also have many questions:
1. Traditional ideas make me feel that married women have found a home in life, and caring for their husbands and educating their children has become the main theme of my life, not personal growth. So over the years, I have devoted most of my energy to children's growth and trivial housework, only satisfied with a stable job and income;
2. Love is just a routine operation for young people when they are in love. Married, the husband is a family member, it should be rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and live in a down-to-earth manner. So you ignore the emotional communication with your lover, but what you think doesn't mean that others think so. If you don't provide it, others will ask.
After marriage, I still have the old idea that men are outside and women are inside. So the children and the family are doing everything silently, thinking that I should take on more and support my husband's career. In fact, one's wishful thinking makes the other person feel that this family doesn't need him, and he doesn't have a sense of existence, so people go looking for a sense of existence. ...
The failure of marriage is the biggest sorrow in my life, but it also sobers me up: it's time to find myself lost for many years and change my lifestyle. The rest of the day, I just need to be responsible for the person who gave birth to me and the person who gave birth to me, be the protagonist of my life, strive for what I want, realize what I want, and stop making wedding clothes for others [lighting safety lights].
When you open your eyes, there are people who depend on you, but there is no one you can rely on …
1, fewer and fewer friends.
When people reach middle age, they know more and more people, but they know people all over the world. There are several intimate people, fewer and fewer friends, and even fewer sincere friends.
When you are young, you can talk all night, you can talk about your friends' absence, and everyone goes their separate ways for life.
When people reach middle age, there will be fewer fair-weather friends, and everyone has seen through it. Whether such a friend is good or not, everyone is tired of living, and no one wants to perfunctory anyone.
A thousand dollars is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find. When you are depressed, you only need to worry about yourself and have no real friends to share.
With intimate friends, sometimes I don't want to tell my friends what's on my mind and increase my friends' troubles.
2, eventually become what you hate.
When people look back at middle age, they don't become what they want, but mostly what they hate.
The sleek sophistication that I once hated appeared on myself.
I admire those who can stick to their ideals. No matter how they get along, they can live up to their ideals, because I can't.
I hope, as the song goes, that I am still that teenager, and I haven't changed at all. Time is just a test, and the faith I planted in my heart has not weakened at all. The boy is still the same face as before, no matter how many difficulties and obstacles he faces, he will not shrink back.
3. Some truths are understood too late.
Some things are taken for granted when you are young, and you don't understand the truth until middle age. Sometimes it's too late, sometimes it can be made up.
When I was young, I loved playing, but I didn't know how to make money early. Don't choose comfort when you are young, you won't be comforted when you really need it.
When I was young, I thought that if I treated everyone wholeheartedly, I would get real friends. Now I understand that we can't satisfy everyone, and we can't get real friendship and relationship by trying to please everyone.
When I was young, I thought that if I worked hard, others would know your efforts. Now I get it. The chirping bird got the worm.
When I was young, I thought face was the most important thing. Now I can put it down for a lifetime.
I owe my family too much.
The pressure of life and the troubles of work make it too little to spend time with parents.
Because I didn't work hard when I was young, I still have to run for my life now, and I can't give my family the life they want.
When people reach middle age, what makes me sad is that job hunting is discriminated against by age, gender and identity. But I tell you from my experience, don't be discouraged and face it bravely. As long as you are not covered with sorrow, as long as you are brave enough, good luck will come to you.
1, 35-year-old applied for a job as a hotel waiter and was discriminated against by age.
I have been unemployed since 1995 and have been working outside for a living. Because I have to raise my son and can't work in a big city, I work in my hometown. I used to do some small businesses, but the money I earned was only enough for food and clothing. It was very hard, so I was going to find a relatively stable job and cook a hot meal for my son at school early in the morning and late at night.
My hometown is a small county with few employment opportunities. The easiest job to find is that of a hotel waiter. I was born in 1968. In 2003, I was 35. I went to a restaurant to apply for a job with four excuses. It's already morning, and it's not time for lunch. The male boss greeted me warmly, thinking that I was a customer who came to eat.
I said to him, "How much does it cost to recruit waiters in your hotel for a month?" . The boss said, "350 yuan a month." I said, "How many hours do you work a day?" The boss said, "From 8: 30 in the morning to 9: 30 in the evening." I thought for a moment, the working time is 13 hours, earning 350 yuan. Although I am a little tired, 350 yuan is enough for my son and me. Although I can't cook for my son at night, I can let my son go to my mother's house for dinner.
I made up my mind and asked my boss, "Do you want a waiter?" The boss looked me up and down and asked, "Who wants to be a waiter?" I said, "I want to do it." He said, "How old are you?" I said, "I'm 35 years old." The male boss said, "No, we only recruit people under 32. You are too old. " I said, "I am three years older than you said. You can use me for a day first, and if you can, you don't need me. " The boss said: "I also work for people. The boss told me that the biggest recruit can't be over 32 years old."
I am 35 years old and apply for a job as a hotel waiter. This is the lowest job, and I am discriminated against by age.
At the age of 2.35, I applied for a job as a worker in a cold noodle factory because I was discriminated against as a single mother.
Hutongkou, on the window of a small shop, posted a recruitment notice saying that she wanted to be a female worker in a cold noodle factory. I called according to the phone number in the recruitment revelation. As soon as the phone was connected, I said, "Are you a cold noodle factory? I want to go to work. What is my monthly salary? "
The woman who answered the phone said to me, "How old are you?" With the last experience, I said I was three years old, and I said, "I am 32 years old." The other party asked me, "Are you married and have children?" I said, "I have a son." She asked me again, "How old is my son? Who is your family? " I'm still thinking. I'm looking for a job, not an object. Why are you asking about my family? But the other person is asking me, and I can't help but say. I briefly talked about the situation at home.
I said, "I am divorced and live alone with my children. My son is 9 years old. " The woman changed her tone and said indifferently, "Then you won't be invited." I was curious and asked, "Why? I am quite capable. " The woman said, "You have children, but you don't have anyone. The child is ill today, and there will be a parent-teacher meeting tomorrow. If you ask for leave, who can not ask for leave? All of us don't recruit women who are married and have children. "
God, single mothers are discriminated against when looking for jobs.
3.36-year-old, employed as a supermarket tallyman, was discriminated by sex.
The first supermarket in the town opened with a big poster on the door. There are five or six kinds of workers recruited: store managers, cashiers, tally clerks, security guards and so on. I felt that I was suitable to be a tallyman, so I boldly pushed open the glass door of the supermarket and walked into the store. I saw the security guard and asked, "I want to apply as a tallyman in your supermarket."
The security guard didn't ask me any questions or wait for me to say the second sentence, so he just said to me, "No." I asked inexplicably, "Why can't I? Too old? " I think it's ok to be a tallyman at the age of 36. The security guard said to me, "tally clerks don't recruit women." I asked the security guard, "Why not have a woman?" The security guard said, "Our supermarket tallyman is a handyman, doing everything and unloading goods at night. Women can't do it. "
On the gate of the soy sauce factory, there is a sign that says "Looking for overtime". I went to apply for the job, and this time my age is definitely no problem. I don't have to work hard to work overtime, but people don't recruit women. They said to me, working overtime in the middle of the night, a woman, why?
The newspaper wanted an editor, not over 32, but I finally got the job when I was 36.
I was 36 years old that year, and I felt very young. I had the spirit that newborn calves were not afraid of tigers. I called the newspaper boss and said I wanted to apply for an editor. Boss, listen to me. He is 36 years old. He said gently, "Sorry, we only recruit people under the age of 32, and you are not an undergraduate."
I got up the courage to say to my boss, "Isn't there another inspiration in your recruitment: can you relax the conditions for people with special talents?" The boss smiled and asked me, "What special talents do you have?" I said, "I can write. I can write a 2000-word prose story or a 200,000-word novel. My novel is serialized in a magazine. To edit, writing novels is a special talent. "
After listening to my words, my boss became a little interested in me and asked me to send him a magazine serializing my novels the next day. I sent the magazine to my boss. The next evening, it was snowing all over the sky in the town, and I suddenly got a call from my boss. He said, "I read your article, come on-"
I think when people reach middle age, they should bravely face age discrimination, gender discrimination or identity discrimination. Even if you fail 1000 times, get up 100 1 times, struggle, struggle, and eventually you will find your own way.
Question: What makes you sad when you reach middle age (35-45 years old)?
My answer is: when people reach middle age, they are discriminated against by age, gender and even my status as a single mother. But in any case, we should not be discouraged and face it bravely. Even if you fail 1000 times, you should get up 100 1 times, and struggle again. As long as you are not covered with sorrow, as long as you are brave enough, good luck will come to you.