How Middle School Students Walk Out of Psychological Shadow

Tell a story about a boy in our class.

One day, I was preparing lessons in my office when the door opened quietly. I looked up and saw a boy standing in front of me, stunned and silent, which scared me. After a while, the boy suddenly said to me: Life is boring!

This boy was transferred from other places to the middle school attached to the National People's Congress. When I first came here, I probably didn't adapt to the teaching methods and my academic performance was not good. Later, he wrote a short article and recorded his psychological course. He wrote:

I remember my mother didn't say a word when I got home on the anniversary in 2000. I don't know why, so I tried to ask her. At that time, she said something I had never heard before: "I have been to school, and your grades are probably inferior." You'd better do less of those things at school in the future! "

I was too shocked to speak. At that time, my parents seldom commented, and often just said "study hard" and sent me to the back room. I don't expect anything. The "inferior students" have dealt a great blow to them, and now it is the last one, more like a blow.

The mid-term results are generally ideal, and I am fortunate to be in the top 50 of the grade. The class teacher was also surprised. Inferior students naturally should not be like this. After the second exam, I did badly. I am always absent-minded in exams every afternoon. I failed in the exam several times, but it wasn't the last time. To my surprise, I came last with a total score of more than 300 points.

The psychological pressure of the last exam score can be imagined. Psychological science believes that it is normal for everyone to be depressed at times. But long-term depression will lead to depression and despair, and the problem will be serious.

The boy said:

I grew up weak, like quiet and hate sports. I am not good at sports, and I am willing to contact the disadvantaged groups. I am very sensitive and care about the world. No matter what grievances, I always secretly cry. Later, I stopped crying gradually. Maybe that's maturity. My former friend once said, "He is obviously in pain, but he still insists on shouting, as if to tell everyone that he is strong, brave and indifferent." This is really the best portrayal for me. Later, in the face of the new environment, I was constantly frustrated by the outside world, and my mood was always depressed. Although occasionally in the leading position, but also constantly doubt themselves, too tired to breathe. I am paranoid, often ambitious, don't care much about the consequences, and I am on the verge of collapse. ...

This student is usually unsmiling, a little withdrawn, and always has a deep expression. Another characteristic of him is that he is often absent from class, which easily evaporates from class. In the words of my classmate, it is "three years in high school, whenever you glance at his seat, the probability of seeing him is the same as that of throwing a coin upside down, and it is absolutely random." I saw him in the first class this morning, and no one can be sure whether I can see him in the second class. I may not see him in the afternoon, or I may appear again before training. It is really a wandering track. "

The boy said:

Most of my haunting habits are unknown and I am too lazy to tell others, so I often appear in unexpected places at unexpected times, but I have no malice to people. If you come without a trace, you are called a "ghost" among your classmates. It is also famous for teacher Wang Jing's description-"You seem to be floating." 200 1 teacher's day (September 10) before the September1incident in the United States, I missed class for half a day, and the next day, a terrible tragedy came. My views in the class debate are extreme, probably because I look like bin Laden and my nickname is "bin Laden".

This boy has one advantage. He especially likes to take part in some scientific and technological activities in the school. However, I learned from the boy that his parents opposed his participation in these scientific and technological activities. This boy feels that his favorite scientific and technological activities are not without participation, nor are they without participation; As for the teacher, it is not to arrange him, nor to be uneasy. Students have special skills, but they can't play them out. They were at a loss and depressed.

I was very angry when I learned about the boy's depression. After the student left, I called his father and asked him to come to school. Generally speaking, I seldom call my parents when I have a student problem, but if the student's problem lies with my parents, I will never be vague. An hour later, his father came. I was rude to his father and asked, "Do you know how to raise a child? Your children are excellent and have their strengths, but their psychological situation is worrying! Can you give him a relaxed environment? Think about it, which is more important, academic performance or good health? ! "

His father listened silently and cried. In fact, this child's parents are excellent, academically successful, and they have taken great pains for their children. The boy's father confided in me some of their difficulties as parents. I said, we're adults. If we don't do this, who will bear the burden? I discussed with his father, and finally reached an understanding of * * *, encouraging the student to participate in those scientific and technological activities that he likes properly, and teachers and parents should work together to get rid of the psychological burden.

Then I chatted with this boy, hoping that he could understand his parents' difficulties more. I said to him: I am also a parent. It is one thing to stand from the students' point of view; From the perspective of parents, that is another matter. Facing the reality of current exam-oriented education, children are under great pressure and parents are under great pressure; It is difficult for both students and parents. Who knows the difficulties and efforts of parents!

The boy nodded. He admitted that sometimes he neglected his parents' efforts. He later described such a thing:

In 2002, the national physics preliminary contest for middle school students was held in Zhengzhou. On the night I went to Zhengzhou, I set off for Beijing West Railway Station. Suddenly it rained heavily, and my heart was cold. I covered myself in a quilt on the train, but I didn't fall asleep all night. When I arrived in Zhengzhou, I began to get sick and spent another sleepless night.

I was already dizzy during the theoretical exam. My father has always followed me and assumed the role of a team teacher. Every time I took part in a competition, no matter how busy I was, he always took the time to send me to the examination room and built a barrier to isolate me from the noise and calm me down. Time is running out, and I really dare not look at his vicissitudes of life again. Working for me for no reason made him more tired. I dare not even tell him the feeling of my headache, for fear that he will worry about me unnecessarily again.

"It's getting late, go in!" Father said quietly. I nodded and said goodbye to him.

I looked down from the classroom window on the third floor and he was still standing there, as if waiting for something. I saw it was raining again, but the only umbrella was in my bag. I was in no state in the examination room, and I delayed a lot of time on a question. I got zero on that question.

In the autumn rain, I walked back to the station. My father asked me how I did in the exam, and I just shook my head. I think he will understand. He didn't ask again, but advised me to think about tomorrow.

Do an experiment the next day. When I was about to enter the examination room again, my father suddenly remembered something and quickly ran up and stuffed me with a thermos cup: "Have some tea, it will wake me up."

The fragrant and warm air is scattered in the air, smoked in the autumn wind, smoked on my face, and there seems to be traces of tears flowing on my cheeks. ...

Aware of his parents' concern, the communication between the boy and his parents is much better than before. He can also often take part in some favorite scientific and technological experiments and win national awards. In 2002, middle school students in China and Japan held distance education exchange activities. There were 15 students in Class 2 of the Middle School Attached to the National People's Congress, including this boy.

When boys play their strengths, they become more and more confident, gradually get rid of some unnecessary psychological pressure and have a cheerful personality. He came from behind in his studies. He won the first prize of physics and chemistry in the Beijing Division of the National Middle School Students' Discipline and won many awards in the Science and Technology Innovation Competition. Later, he was sent to Peking University Institute of Mathematics.

In the spring of 2005, the Love Society of Peking University organized a donation activity to help students in poor areas. The head of the love club is this boy. He used more than 10,000 yuan earned as a tutor to help a group of children in poor schools. On the eve of June 1st, I invited these children to visit Peking University again. I was very happy and gave some sponsorship.

Liu Pengzhi, president of the High School Attached to the National People's Congress, is a member of the Beijing Municipal Political Consultative Conference. She once submitted a proposal with member 15 CPPCC: a proposal on establishing psychology teaching, research and consultation centers in primary and secondary schools. President Liu Pengzhi said: According to the survey results of middle school students in China published by the famous psychologist Mr. Wang Jisheng for many years, 32% of middle school students have psychological problems. These psychological problems are mainly manifested in ten aspects:

1. There is great pressure to study.

2. paranoia. I always feel that most people are untrustworthy and self-righteous.

3. hostility. Often quarrel with others or have a tendency to violence.

4. Sensitive interpersonal relationships.

5. Depression. I feel that my studies, future and future are hopeless, and I am listless all day.

6. Anxiety. Be agitated in my heart.

7. Self-compulsion. Do it when you know it's unnecessary.

8. Not adapted.

9. Emotional instability.

10. Psychological imbalance. I feel aggrieved that others are better than myself or have won more honors than myself.

The psychological problems of students can be said to be serious. According to my observation, even in the National People's Congress High School where excellent students gather, there are no fewer students with psychological problems 1/3.