The couple also discussed with their five-year-old daughter on the issue of whether to give birth. However, the daughter was young and simple-minded, and had no problem with her parents wanting to have another child, and excitedly asked her mother to give her a younger brother, as if she thought she was adding a "toy" to her own.

But with the arrival of her brother, her daughter found that her parents' attention was focused on her brother, and her father interrupted his nightly bedtime stories, and she sometimes couldn't sleep because of her brother's cries, which she began to hate.

The daughter's psychological changes in the face of the reaction, so that the attentive Li found, in the daughter did a few times to communicate, Li and her husband did a division of labor, so that her husband to shift the focus on the daughter.

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The family of four is still getting along, but Li feels there is still a long way to go in terms of how to balance the two children's lives and education.

One, let the big baby be a good helper to the parents

When the birth of a second child, the parents' parenting focus will inevitably shift to the second baby, which will make the big baby feel isolated. If this happens, parents can adjust their attention to the big baby in time, in addition to the communication with the big baby.

Let the big baby understand that his parents' love for him has not decreased one iota, and now that he has a second baby, I hope that the big baby can collaborate with his parents to take up a share of the family's responsibility, such as when the parents are busy to look after the second baby, and help to take the bottle when you need it.

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This will make the eldest child feel valued by his parents, and will also foster a bond between the two children from a young age.

Two, eccentricity is often the beginning of conflict

Parental eccentricity is often the main cause of inducing conflict between two children. Some parents are always young as a reason to protect the second child, often the last to be criticized can only be the big baby, in the long run in the second child's mind, the big baby is not the parents like, and will not be able to produce respect for the big baby.

And the big baby will form a psychological shadow in this kind of environment, and the relationship between the children will only become more and more diluted. In a variety show "Oddball", there was a guest who talked about how when he was nine years old, his parents gave birth to his younger brother.

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As long as her parents were not around, when her brother cried, she would think that she was bullying her brother, and she blamed her every time, so to this day she still has that bad memory in her heart.

So parents have to correct their own concepts to change their behavior, often talk to the children to understand how the children's heart is how to see their parents, if the children think that the parents are biased, then the parents also need to be clear about the reasons for where, there is indeed a mistake to be admitted

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