Yesterday (March 6), 77-year-old Aunt Zhang called the Express hotline and asked which nursing home in Hangzhou could accept elderly people with children in other places like her and her wife.
Yesterday (March 6th), I went to Aunt Zhang's house at noon, an old high-end residential area in the west of the city. Online shows that the second-hand house price is 46,000 yuan per square meter, and two people live in a big house of 130 square meters. The house is clean and bright. Because she is coming, Aunt Zhang asked her maid aunt to go back early (Aunt Zhang comes to do cleaning and washing vegetables for half a day every day, and Aunt Zhang cooks for herself).
Aunt Zhang wears a sweater and has short hair. She looks very gentle and elegant. All college students. Aunt Zhang's hometown is Tianjin. She used to work in finance. Her lover's hometown is Yiwu. After graduating from Nanjing University, she was assigned to Tianjin. Before she retired, she was the deputy general manager of a company. After they retired, they supported the elderly in Hangzhou, and their registered permanent residence was also moved to Hangzhou.
They have a daughter, 47 years old, who is now in Beijing. She must look after the children and help her husband manage the company. She flies back to Hangzhou twice a year.
The old couple wanted to live in a nursing home three or four years ago because of their old age and declining physical function.
Aunt Zhang was ill and hospitalized four times last year. "The elderly who are most worried about their families make two or three phone calls every day. I didn't rest assured until he lay down to sleep. I'm afraid he fell at home alone and no one knew ... "
Aunt Zhang's wife also said that for them, the most difficult moment for the elderly has come. One person lives in the hospital, and the other can't live at home.
Which nursing home to choose? Aunt Zhang asked around.
"Where is your choice? The nursing home chose us. Just like I'm going to the housekeeping center to find my aunt, I have to dress as young as possible. See you seven old eighty, the somebody else also don't come ... "
Aunt Zhang felt that it was particularly harsh to hear people say "seven old and eighty" before, but now she has to accept the fact that she will be 80 years old in three years.
Aunt Zhang took out a big pile of newspaper clippings. Over the years, she has kept all the news of the nursing home. "There are a lot of deposits, and no one can get in. A good nursing home is waiting in line with the scalp. "
Aunt Zhang took out a thick stack of newspaper clippings, all of which were news related to nursing homes, but none of them could get in.
For Aunt Zhang and his wife, money is not a big problem. Their pensions add up to 654.38+300,000 a year. Their daughter's house is upstairs and rented out. They are given a monthly rent of 5,000 yuan, so their annual income is nearly 200,000.
Aunt Zhang took out a thick stack of newspaper clippings, all of which were news related to nursing homes, but none of them could get in.
This year, they went to a pension center in their jurisdiction. I heard there was a queue before I went. By asking, it has reached more than 600. "We don't know if we can wait ..."
A nursing home in Xiaoshan said that a bed in 500 yuan costs 1000 yuan for two people a day, not including nursing expenses and meals. (so expensive? Aunt Zhang said that she couldn't remember the specific name, and I couldn't verify it. )
Kaka is in many nursing homes, and requires a local guardian, so he can call at any time. Aunt Zhang reasoned that only one nephew's son was in Hangzhou and had just joined the work. Life in a big city is not easy. He must be very busy every day, so he doesn't have the courage to disturb others.
"Sometimes I really want to fall ..." Aunt Zhang lowered her head and said something frustrating, and then she kept coughing. Now that she is ill, she can bear it, but she can't.
Usually, the old couple seldom go out, but thanks to the developed network, vegetables are ordered online, delivered to the door for half an hour, and ordered for two or three days at a time. Sometimes they don't want to cook at night, so they are called take-out. Aunt Zhang opened the iPad, found the takeaway platform, and clicked in, but she was confused. She murmured, "Why has it changed again?" Why do you think it keeps changing? "
Aunt Zhang's legs and feet are inconvenient, and she spends a long time ordering food on the iPad every day.
"You don't see that I can surf the Internet now, but I am lost slowly ..." Aunt Zhang said that every time she goes online to buy food or order takeout, she has to study for a long time and her movements are getting slower and slower.
It is true that many nursing homes require guardians to be available at any time.
There are more and more empty nesters whose children are in other places, and many of them are still far away. Will the nursing home refuse to accept it? Yesterday, we asked Aunt Zhang about it.
As children, we first consulted eight old-age care institutions in Hangzhou West Lake, Xiacheng, Binjiang and Jianggan.
Yikang Nursing Home and Boyang Hospital said that at present, they all have beds, and the elderly from other places and those whose children are not often in Hangzhou can live in them. However, they need their children or guarantors (guardians) to accompany them to go through the admission procedures when they are admitted to the hospital, and they must submit their ID cards, household registration books and physical examination reports. Guarantor and old man. The expenses include beds, nursing, daily meals, utilities, and the cost is between 2,000 yuan and 4,000 yuan per person per month.
Some nursing homes only accept elderly people with local household registration, and their children are not often in Hangzhou, but almost all of them say that there are no beds. For example, the Beijing Garden Apartment for the Elderly in Xiacheng District and Hangzhou Ai Kang Warm Home Pension Center only accept the elderly in Hangzhou. Zhao Hui Street Apartment for the Elderly said that in principle, only elderly people from Hangzhou are accepted, and the elderly in other places can negotiate according to the specific situation, but there are no beds at present.
Hangzhou Ai Kang Warm Home Pension Center and Binjiang "Sunshine Jiayuan" also accept elderly people who have lost their independence and their spouses, but they need community protection.
"It is best to have a local household registration. If you are in a foreign country, you need to temporarily store your bank card in a nursing home. Before going to the hospital, you should go to the hospital for an evaluation, such as physical condition and other information supplement. Some still can't stay. " A staff member of Binjiang "Sunshine Jiayuan" said.
There are also many nursing homes that make it clear that if there are no immediate family members or guardians in Hangzhou, the elderly can't stay.
"We don't have to register in Hangzhou, but we must have a guardian in Hangzhou. If there is an emergency in Hangzhou for a long time, we can contact at any time and rush to the nursing home in time. " A staff member of the Golden Age Senior Apartment in Xihu District said.
As a reporter, I asked the second and third welfare homes in Hangzhou, and they all said that the elderly needed a local guardian. If the old man is ill, the guardian should be ready to make a decision at any time.
"In the past, someone was supervised by the person in charge of the retirement unit, but it was rare. These old people are over eighty years old, and their guardians are all on the job. They don't want to go away for a little thing, but their relatives and friends are different. There are also some elderly people who have no children and have a relative or friend as a guardian. It was agreed in advance, provided that all the property of the single old man was handed over to this guardian. In this way, it can be good for the elderly from the perspective of family and money. " A staff member of the Golden Age said that there were many old people living in their yard, and their children were all abroad. Generally, local relatives and friends are entrusted as guardians-young enough to run and take office.