Emotional intelligence includes three dimensions: 1, emotional management ability, and the ultimate goal: freedom. Advanced goal: fully express your love and hate in words. Principle: don't hurt people, don't hurt yourself, and don't break things.
2. The ultimate goal of interpersonal skills: harmonious interpersonal relationships. Advanced goal: adjust interpersonal communication to a level conducive to physical and mental health. Basic qualities: empathy, kindness, and basic trust in the world and others. 3. The ultimate goal of problem-solving ability: gratitude for all advanced goals: anti-frustration ability, responsibility ability, basic ability: concentration, respect for the environment and others.
When many people talk about high emotional intelligence, they will say, "Look at that man, he is very easy to come and especially talks." . But I don't think the superficial glibness and the means and tricks that others can see are really high emotional intelligence.
The most important thing in interpersonal communication is sincerity and trust. Some people are introverted and stupid, but they are sincere. Such people will also have real friends. Because everyone knows his principles and bottom line, his behavior is simple and predictable. As for those who are ostensibly eloquent and please others, everyone can feel that he is out of interest rather than sincerity. They don't know what his heart looks like, so they will guard against him, let alone make friends with him.
The person I know with high EQ is Bo Huang, who left a deep impression on me. He is not only good at acting, but also flexible in answering the questions of the host in the face of some media interviews. Whether it is ordinary personal problems or deliberately making things difficult, he can respond indifferently. This is an actor I admire very much. On the other hand, there may be a person with high emotional intelligence around us. Maybe you just think that his words and deeds are inconspicuous, which means that he is low-key, but there is no specific standard for emotional intelligence.
However, her sister's emotional intelligence is high, and she is also human. Maybe the way she behaves makes people feel that her life is easy and there seems to be no trouble. But she is human after all, and she must have her own troubles in her heart. It's just that they keep their troubles in their hearts and don't confide in others easily. Therefore, everyone will feel tired when they are alive. After all, everyone is mortal, not a saint.