In career counseling, I found that there are four stages of the age of people to receive counseling in particular.

People in these four stages have their own age-specific career development confusion, and every time they miss one, the direction of their career development may deviate from their most suitable career goals, and if they miss all four, they are basically set for life. Unless something special happens, it is difficult for them to realize their own potentials.

The first age stage 18-22 years old

This stage belongs to the university during the study period, the more close to graduation, many people began to have career anxiety disorder, the common phenomenon is to go around the part-time internships, randomly casting resumes, interviews, or simply continue to study to ease the pressure to enter the social work.

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To be honest, during the college years is the best time for a person to receive knowledge, they should have been like a sponge to absorb the nutrients of knowledge, if you miss this stage, and then later on such a systematic study of the opportunity will be not much.

But the current situation in China is that we have started to develop children's potential in kindergarten, and we have drained their curiosity for learning in middle school, and then they are busy falling in love, eating, drinking and having fun when they enter the university, and then they have to graduate and look for a job, so they don't have the time to think about their future career development and where they want to go in their life.

Even if there are a few people who are aware of this, but not before entering the community to gain experience, these issues rely on his own mind to think, it is probably not well thought out.

If you go into professional practice with a hazy sense of what you want to do, a detour is inevitable.

So, in the university stage is to do career planning counseling the most ideal moment, as the saying goes, "white paper is good for painting", a good painting, first of all, the layout is reasonable, in order to do a good job, the line of the pen does not mess.

This layout belongs to the bottom of the sketch in the painting, to some extent, will determine the next five to ten years or so of career development in an orderly manner, to avoid taking unnecessary detours.

The second age stage 25-28 years old

This age stage is currently doing career counseling for the most people, but also career planning is the most critical, the most favorable, the most effective period.

Mainly because they have experienced the experience of the workplace, personally felt the hardship of the profession, experienced the lack of enthusiasm in the workplace of the bitterness, always feel the helplessness of the power to nowhere to make, so in this age stage of the people who want to change their own status quo the most strong will, and the degree of positive cooperation is higher.

People are sometimes like this, in addition to a small number of conscious people, the vast majority of people do not come to that time will not go to take the initiative to think about some of the problems.

Once you've suffered and hit a wall, and have the inner will to make some changes, you'll usually want to get up and ask for help.

At this stage, they don't lack energy and time, they lack a clear goal, and as long as this goal is what they want, they will work hard to get it.

Choice is more important than effort, and the key is to see where to take the next step.

At this age, there is still a chance to dial back the curved road in front of you, as long as you can stabilize your impatience, calmly and rationally analyze your own personality and the posts suitable for personality development, you still have a chance to see the hope of career development again.

If the career exploration during the university period belongs to the layout, then at this stage is to enter the outline and framework of the stage.

Once this pattern is set, all the next efforts will be centered on the design issues within the entire structure. This stage of developmental exploration will shape the course of your career for the next ten to fifteen years or so.

The third age stage 30-35 years old

This stage is the second largest in the number of career counseling, in this stage, many people have been through many years of hard work to a certain level of positions, so their most common problems are generally how to break through the career bottleneck (career ceiling), how to improve interpersonal communication, emotional intelligence, stress reduction in the workplace, emotional management, overcoming burnout, how to manage subordinates and other complex workplace issues. management of subordinates and other complex workplace common problems.

To this stage, it can be said that their psychological maturity, the view of many things has formed a set pattern, some of the old habits have been formed, they already know that in the field of work on the work of the ability to rely solely on the work is not enough, interpersonal relations is also the key to determine the success or failure of the career.

If career planning is done at this stage, it can be said that there are too many factors to be considered, and it is necessary to synthesize and consider the potential of various career redevelopment, career experience, inner needs, family issues, learning ability, personal career preferences, life thinking and so on.

The process is a bit like artistic creation, finding that thread in the jumble of clues, then straightening out the knotted threads and reassembling them into a new pattern.

So it's at this stage that a good counselor can really see the power of finding the breakthrough in what sometimes seems like less relevant information.

This breakthrough point requires a holistic approach that considers all of the above resources, seeks to maximize matches and assesses the potential for actionable development.

This process is somewhat similar to the coloring and detailing of a painting, in which most of the space in the painting will be filled in one by one, and each section will be highlighted and viewed, ultimately forming an organic whole with the whole picture and conveying the author's feelings and thoughts.

The author finds doing counseling at this age to be the most exciting and challenging, a bit like treasure hunting, sometimes finding walls on all sides and not knowing how to push through the blocked path.

But as long as you are careful and find a hidden button to open, you will suddenly feel the four sides of the world open up, and you will be able to put the finishing touches on your life.

Sometimes there is a kind of "one minute on the stage, ten years of work under the stage" feeling, all the usual preparation seems to be for such a moment to come, looking at their own works to present, I think and those masters of the arts to look at their own satisfied with the work of the heart of the inner joy of the feeling of complacency is the same.

Fourth Age Stage 38-42 years old

The Chinese say, "Forty is not confusing," but in my experience, there are many people who are confused at forty.

At this age, it can be said that the career development of the late stage, unless there is a big change in life, many people even if they find that they are not suitable for the general can only go on.

However, in the author's opinion, this stage is actually far from deciding the fate of the career.

People at this age generally have a stable job and income, but are prone to "burnout" and "meaningless life" syndrome, such as always feel that the work is not interesting, feel indescribably tired, life is also The fact is that the company has been able to develop a number of new products and services in the past few years, and has been able to develop a number of new products and services in the future.

There are a few people who still have the energy to make a difference and try new opportunities in other fields, and many people are pursuing stability and starting to get by.

If an individual mentally endorses this state of affairs, this is actually irresponsible of oneself.

Using the viewpoint of career development, this stage has only reached the middle stage of life, there is still a long way to go in life, how can we travel halfway to give up efforts like this?

The real meaning of career planning lies in the process of overall planning of life through career development, so it is important that you are with a kind of what kind of mentality to look at their own life, how to give their own meaning of life under a reasonable definition of the thinking process.

"Career is silver, life is gold", if you don't have a correct evaluation of your own life, then even if the career development is smooth, or not realize the true meaning of life and the meaning of life.

Doing counseling at this stage is a test of the counselor's comprehensive quality and humanistic heritage, because each visitor has their own life experience and experience, there are more fixed values, the discussion is not a general career issues, more about the values of life, if you do not usually have a deep thinking about life and the spirit of self-exploration, to do this kind of counseling The difficulty of doing this kind of counseling is very great.

Aristotle, the ancient Greek philosopher, also said: A life without thinking is not worth living.

If a person goes through life without or with insufficient ability to think about the issue, it really is a bit of a wasted life.

This process is in fact the painting before and after the completion of the white, Chinese painting in the ink writing is very much on the white, the purpose is to allow people to leave the space of free reverie, has a meaningful meaning.

White space is empty, the picture is there, so empty is the extension of there, empty is also greater there, all the meaning in the blank space can be maximized.

At the stage of middle age, career and life are like a picture scroll that seems to be finished, but is not finished. A truly wise person will never fill the space of the picture scroll because he knows that the part of the space that is not filled is the most valuable and the most memorable, and that the unfinished place has a greater possibility and imagination of space for development.

Thinking about the meaning and value of life is in fact a process of exploring the "Tao", while the previous three stages are the process of exploring the "Technique", each of which is independent of the other, but also interconnected, and the absence of either one is a pity.

This is just like the South Korean Go master Lee Chang-ho, who has won many championships, but cannot replace the Japanese-Chinese Wu Qingyuan's status as a Go master.

The difference between them is the difference between the peak of gaming skills and the realm of understanding and perception of the game.

The young man, by showing his inner state of vigor and physical strength, fights for his social status by competing on the chessboard.

An older person relies on a mindset of letting go and an equanimity that transcends victory and defeat, and realizes the ups and downs of life and one's own limitations from the chessboard.

One focuses on superior skill, which is the "tool". The other focuses on the spirit of excellence, which is the "Way". This is the way of inner harmony.

Many things in the world are actually similar in the highest sense, depending on whether we have the ability to realize.

Career and life are no exception. The development of career does not allow us to see the pursuit of an ideal and potential development of the self, and the exploration of life does not also allow us to see their own limitations and frankly face the imperfect self?