Why middle-aged divorced men prefer kannika nimtragol (Figure)
Recently, 47-year-old Mr. Sun came to the Marriage Service Center to register for marriage. When filling out the form, he expressed the hope that the other person would be around 33 years old. The staff reminded that the age gap between men and women is too big, the success rate is low, and it may also hurt feelings by losing money, but Mr. Sun insists on being a "gentleman".
Mr. Zhang, 52, earns more than 200,000 yuan a year. His blind date experience is very representative. On the one hand, he asked the woman to be younger, on the other hand, he played drums every day: Is the woman so much younger than himself?
A year ago, Mr. Zhang, who had been divorced for many years, met a 33-year-old woman in the marriage service center, and they had a good chat. Mr. Zhang led "Kannika nimtragol" to Hainan, during which he only swiped a card and spent more than 10,000 yuan on shopping for "Kannika nimtragol".
After the tour, the more Mr. Zhang thought about it, the more uncertain he became: "Little Wife" is so young and can spend money. Is it for my money? After pondering for a few days, Mr. Zhang proposed to break up. When dating again, Mr. Zhang still couldn't let go of the "gentleman" complex, still insisted that the woman was under 38 years old, and worried that the other party valued his money, so he repeatedly failed.
Liu Dage, a 49-year-old middle-aged married man, has been in business for many years and has strong economic strength. He is bent on finding a younger girlfriend and drives a car worth hundreds of thousands every time. The girlfriend he is looking for is younger than himself 16 years old. She has been together for three or four months, and she is very harmonious. She has plans to get married.
Two months ago, Liu had a little business problem. For working capital, he took the house book to apply for mortgage. Hearing this, my girlfriend looked ugly and left a sentence: "Are all your businesses loans?" Then walk away. Afterwards, my girlfriend told the matchmaker that looking for "Mr." just didn't want to have twists and turns in life in the future. Since the other party can't give him a stable life, he can only break up.
According to the staff of the center, the age gap between men and women is too big, and the relationship between marriage and love is easy to be unstable. Being a man's occupation, income, health, family, etc. Appear, and the woman's sense of security is affected, often choose to break up.
According to the director of the Marriage Service Center, among the registered members of the center, there are more than 2,000 middle-aged second-married men, about 70% of whom require the woman to be younger than themselves 10 years old, and some even hope that the younger the woman, the better, and the difference of 20 years is acceptable.
According to professional analysis, most middle-aged second-married men have a certain career foundation and wealth accumulation. Many people think they are successful people, who are in an advantageous position in marriage and love, and are full of confidence when asking about the woman's appearance and age. Some people even think that finding a "little wife" is an important evidence of their success. However, "gentleman" is not suitable for everyone. According to the statistics of the center, the age gap between men and women is too big, and the success rate of marriage and love is only 1% to 2%.
An analysis of the reasons why middle-aged divorced men prefer little wives;
First, the ex-wife is always a reference.
No matter whether a man kicks his ex-wife or is kicked by his ex-wife, he will get back together because of loneliness after divorce, and will consider the face project in the process of choosing a spouse. For example, when a divorced woman chooses a remarriage partner, she will consider finding a man who is more handsome, richer or better-natured than her ex-husband. Then, when a divorced man chooses to remarry, he will consider marrying a younger and more beautiful woman than his ex-wife. That is to say, although every divorced man and woman no longer have love entanglements with their former lovers at the moment of divorce, they will refer to each other and find a better object invisibly.
Second, it is still for the sake of face project.
Middle-aged men with frustrated feelings will have such an emotional misunderstanding. They usually think that when they remarry, the younger their wives are, the more they can show their abilities, especially for divorced men who have made some achievements in their careers. They are too poisoned by such emotional misunderstanding. On the one hand, they will feel that young women look energetic and attractive, on the other hand, they will feel that they have a lot of face. However, they ignore the generation gap in the process of getting along with others and blindly use money to please each other instead of attracting each other with true feelings. In fact, marriages accumulated only by money are very fragile.
Third, it shows the truth of a man's heart.
Men, whether married or divorced or unmarried, will glance at beautiful young girls when walking in the street. Many married men may even think "how did I get married so early" and "it's good to be single" in an instant, but they know that there is no chance in this life, so they will soon nip evil thoughts in the bud. Divorced men are different from unmarried men because they have the right to pursue love. To this end, expressing your love for young and beautiful women is a conditioned reflex in an instinctive state. This also reflects another phenomenon: married women are trying to stay young and beautiful in various ways.
Fourth, there may be considerations about the life of husband and wife and having children.
Man is a visual animal as well as a sensory animal. Therefore, men prefer young women in pursuit of a perfect couple life or in order to have children. There is a saying that "youth is capital, and beauty is making money". Therefore, young and beautiful unmarried women have become eternal hot commodities in the marriage and love market. Therefore, divorced men or unmarried men usually go to bring disgrace to oneself in pursuit of a beautiful girl, which is not difficult to understand.
There is an old saying in China that "a good horse should have a good saddle", that is, young girls don't care about the second marriage of middle-aged divorced men or the age gap between middle-aged divorced men and themselves, so young girls will naturally look for money in men's pockets. You know, all love has a purpose. But then again, two people's lifestyles, leisure styles, cognition of things and other aspects are difficult to synchronize. Dare to ask, is this marriage model really happy? Therefore, no matter what kind of marriage mode, we must put feelings first, otherwise excessive money-colored transactions will be mutually destructive. Therefore, for divorced men, in the process of marriage reorganization, age should not be overemphasized, but should be biased towards true love.