The theme that my father wants to share with you this week is "I", and this process is actually the process of my father's study. I will share my father's study notes with you by writing to you.
Psychoanalyst Freud wrote in the book ego and id: there are three "I" in our personality: id, ego and superego.
Id: Id is the instinct and thought under the latent (non-) ideology. Id is the original self, which refers to the original self, including the basic desires, impulses and vitality needed for survival. The purpose of id is to follow the "happy principle" and is the source of all psychological energy; It ignores social morality and external behavior norms; Its only requirement is to get happiness and avoid pain; Its goal is to seek individual comfort, survival and reproduction; It is unconscious and not perceived by individuals. For example, as a baby, you can cry and eat at this stage.
Ego: Ego belongs to the category of consciousness and is a perceptual system formed by external influences. Ego is between id and superego, representing rationality and wit, and has defensive and intermediary functions. Under the guidance of "realistic principle", we should not only be satisfied, but also avoid pain. Self-responsibility and contact with reality are the arbiters of id and superego, which can not only supervise id but also satisfy superego, and are the basic foundation and way of id activity. In the future, through continuous study and experience, under the influence of family, school and social environment, you will gradually form a "self" that faces up to the reality of life, meets the needs of society and acts according to common sense and logic. Dad expects you to get formal instruction, correct guidance and positive inspiration in the process of shaping yourself.
Superego: superego is a "moralized self" internalized by social norms, ethics and values. The superego follows the "principle of perfection" and has three functions: one is to restrain the impulse of the id, the other is to monitor the ego, and the third is to pursue the realm of perfection.
For the relationship between ego and id, Freud's metaphor is: id is a horse and ego is a coachman. The horse is the driving force, and the coachman guides the horse. The ego wants to control the id, but the "horse" of the id may not obey, and the two will be deadlocked until one side gives in. If an individual suffers from excessive pressure from ID, superego and the outside world and is anxious, the ego will help start the defense mechanism. Its defense mechanism includes: in self-control and coordination activities, it will involve and show five kinds of self-criticism, self-expression, self-awareness, self-centeredness and narcissism. And all this, dad looks forward to exploring with you in the future. ?
In Freud's theory, superego is the internalization of father image and cultural norms. Internalization refers to a unified attitude system that is consistent with others' ideas and viewpoints, and the new ideas that one agrees with are combined with one's original views and beliefs. This attitude persists and becomes a part of a person's personality. Because of this, my father deeply feels that his responsibility is great, and whether I am confident enough, what will be given and internalized as a part of your personality in the future is beneficial and powerful to you, and my father is still exploring. To this end, through continuous learning and understanding, we can also find the existence of the true self.
True self: This is the first concept put forward by Jung. It is the self that transcends the individual, also called ego, and it is also called self-nature in Buddhism. The true self is a self-sufficient existence, which is to feel the unity of all things. The purpose of the true self is not only for the survival of individuals, but also for the development of the whole mankind. By exerting my deepest potential and this unique talent, I have made contributions to the world and created a better future. The true self is a realm for all of us.
Yuan Yuan, about the other after this "I", whether it is ID, ego, superego or true self, represents a secondary level. Dad learns these things in essence in the hope of guiding him to be more correct and sharing good knowledge and ideas with you at a secondary level. The way to find "me" in life is like climbing a mountain. If you climb to the top or even the top, you can enjoy and feel the beauty and realm of "other mountains are short in the sky". . But no matter where we climb to find "me", we should not forget, appreciate and appreciate the "beauty" along the way, because happiness exists not only when we find the end of "true self", but also in respecting the ID and shaping ourselves. ?
Yuan Yuan, in the days when you are going back to Shenzhen, Dad is looking forward to staying with you day and night to help you move from the initial "ID" state to the conscious "self" state, and this process is expected to wait for Bloom with thoughtful care, careful companionship and careful protection!
Dear Yuanyuan, we love you!
Love your father.