(a) If they really can not drink, do not open the first mouth, end of the bowl of rice clamped vegetables at the same time to eat
(b) If you are sure that you want to drink, do not pretend to be a inkblot, the next is the rule
Rule 1: Although "deep feelings of a mouth; feelings of shallow lick a lick" but never put this phrase hanging on the mouth when you drink
This is a very good idea, but it is not the only thing that can be done.
The first rule: although the table "deep feelings, a mouthful of boredom; feelings shallow, lick a lick," but when you drink, you must not put this sentence hanging on the mouth.
Rule number two: keep your head down, keep your head up, and don't get carried away.
Rule 3: Leaders drink with each other before it's their turn to toast.
Rule number four: you can honor one person, never one person to honor many people, unless you are the leader.
Rule number five: you honor others, if you do not clink glasses, how much you drink depends on the situation, such as the other side of the amount of alcohol, the other side of the attitude of drinking, never drink less than the other side, we must know that they are honoring people.
Rule number six: If you are honoring someone else, if you clink your glasses, I'll drink it all, you can do whatever you want, and you'll be able to show that you've got a big belly.
Rule 7: their position is humble, remember to add more wine to the leadership, do not blindly to the leadership on behalf of the wine, that is, on behalf of the leadership, but also in the leadership really want to find someone on behalf of, but also pretend to be because I want to drink rather than in order to give the leadership on behalf of the wine and drink. For example, if the leader is not able to drink, you can stop the person who is ready to drink to the leader by making an aside.
Rule 8: Hold up your glass of wine (beer glass) with your right hand and your left hand on the bottom of the glass, remembering that your glass is always lower than the others. If you are a leader, be smart and don't put it too low, or how to tell the following to behave?
Rule 9: If there is no special person present, clinking wine is best according to the clockwise order, do not favor one over the other.
Rule 10: clink glasses, toast, have to say, otherwise, why do I fucking drink your wine?
Rule 11: the desktop does not talk about business, drink well, business is about the same, we have a clear mind, or people will not be open to drink with you.
Rule 12: Do not pretend to be crooked, say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing, do not plead, consciously punished is the hard way.
Rule 13: If, purely if, in the case of not enough wine, the bottle is placed in the middle of the table, so that people can add their own, do not be stupid not garbage to go one by one to pour the wine, or else the back of the people do not have wine how to do?
Rule number fourteen: there must be a mulled glass of wine at the end, so don't leave your glass empty.
Rule 15: Pay attention to the drink do not misspeak, do not say big words, do not lose posture, do not spit, chopsticks flinging, do not finger pointing, drink soup poof sound, do not fart hiccups, can not hold back to go to the toilet to go, no one to stop you.
Rule 16: Don't put "I don't know how to drink" on your lips (if you drink), lest people call you hypocritical, believe it or not, you can really tell if you can drink.
Rule 17: the leader and you drink, is to give you face, no matter how much the leader wants you to drink, their first dry as a toast, remember ah, hands, cups to low.
Rule XVIII: Peanuts are a good thing for drinkers. Keep a clear head, booze is rare, a cup of yogurt, a cup of hot water, a hot towel all seem to you care.
If you can not drink
1, do not take the initiative, the implementation of a defensive strategy;
2, the table put two large cups, a cup of white wine, a cup of mineral water, take the small cups of dry cups, drink water diligently, to the table hosts and guests basically drink 8 points drunk, you can water instead of wine, the initiative to take the initiative;
3, after the dry cups, do not swallow right away, look for opportunities to Use a napkin to wipe your mouth, spit the wine in the napkin;
4, after the seat first eat some fat meat, starchy food padding, drinking is not easy to get drunk;
5, to master the rhythm, do not drink too fierce at once;
6, do not drink several kinds of wine mixed, especially easy to get drunk;
7, the leader of the dish, do not turn the center of the table disk, the leader of the dish you Turntable is a taboo on the table;
8, drink to six drunk, in front of you in the vinegar dish in the vinegar drink, and then let the waiter to add;
9, each time a toast, poured full, and then pretended not to hold the wine cup, try to drink before spilling out some of them, so that each time you can drink into a lot of less;
10, before drinking a good half a cup of tea in front of the drink, drink the wine don't swallow, and hasten to pick up the tea cup, drink water work. up the cup of tea, drinking water to spit the wine into the wine glass, spit full of water on the line, it works!
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Etiquette at the banquet
1, all happy with the same music, avoid whispering
Most wine banquets have more guests, so you should try to talk more about topics that most people can participate in and be recognized by most people. Because of personal interests, different knowledge, so the topic try not to be too biased, to avoid the only one, south of the sea, God Kan boundless, the phenomenon of running away, while ignoring the crowd. Especially try not to whisper with people close to the ear, giving others a sense of mystery, often produce "just you two good" jealousy, affecting the effect of drinking.
2, aiming at the guests, grasp the big picture
Most of the spills have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When you go to the banquet, you should first look around at the expression of your demeanor, clear the main priority, do not drink simply to drink and drink, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, and do not let some of the clamor of the drunken people to stir up the host's meaning.
3, language appropriate, witty humor
Sprinkle the table can show a person's talent, common sense, cultivation and social grace, sometimes a witty and humorous language, will leave a deep impression on the guests, so that people invariably have a good feeling about you. Therefore, you should know when to say what words, language is appropriate, witty humor is very key.
4, persuade moderation, do not force
At the table often encountered the phenomenon of persuasion, some people always like to wine field as a battlefield, trying to find ways to persuade others to drink a few more cups, that do not drink to the amount of is not real.
"To drink to the hero", on the amount of alcohol can also be, the amount of alcohol is small on the difficult, sometimes overly persuasive, will be the original feelings of friends completely destroyed.
5, toast in order, the main and secondary clearly
Toast is also a discipline. In general, the toast should be age, position, guest and master status in order, before the toast must be fully considered the order of the toast, clearly divided into primary and secondary. So that with unfamiliar people drinking together, but also to first inquire about the identity or pay attention to others how to address, this point in mind to have a number, to avoid the embarrassment or hurt feelings of the situation.
Toasts should always be made in the right order. Have to ask a guest at the table, he should naturally be doubly respectful, but be careful, if there is a higher status or older people, should not only be able to help you to help people respectfully, but also to honor the elders first toast, otherwise it will be very difficult to make us all embarrassed.
6, look at the color, understand the heart
To be appreciated at the table, you must learn to look at the color. Because of socializing with people, we have to understand the hearts and minds of people, so that we can play a good role at the table.
7, the front gradually shot, sitting on Tarzan
The banquet to see the occasion, the correct estimate of their own strength, do not be too impulsive, try to retain some of the power of alcohol and talk about the proportion, not to let others look down on their own and do not over-exposure of their own, to choose the appropriate opportunity to gradually radiate their own front, in order to sit on the Tarzan, do not give others to produce the "ability to this point" of the idea that makes everyone not dare to underestimate your strength. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Generally speaking, the seating order is "ShangZhouZhunDong", "face to the door is honored". If it is a round table, is facing the door of the host guest, the host guest left and right hand side of the position, the distance from the host guest, the closer the location of the host guest, the more honored, the same distance from the left side of the right side of the honor. If the Baxian table, if there is a seat facing the door, the right side of the door is the main guest. If not facing the door, the right seat of the side facing east is the chief.
If the feast, the arrangement of the table and the table between the chief of the front center, the left side of the order of 2, 4, 6 seats, the right side of the 3, 5, 7 seats, according to the identity of the host and the guest, the status of the affinity of sitting.
If you are the host, you should arrive early, and then wait by the door position, and for the guests to lead the seat. If you are an invitee, then you should follow the host's arrangement to be seated.
In general, if your boss is attending, you should guide him to the main seat and ask the highest-ranking client to sit on the left side of the main seat. Unless the person you are entertaining is at a very high level of leadership
2 - Ordering
If time permits, you should wait until most of the guests have arrived, then circulate the menu to them and ask them to come and order. Of course, as an official banquet, you will be worried about the budget, therefore, to control the budget, the most important thing for you is to do more homework before the meal, and it is more important to choose the right grade of inviting the guests to the place, so that the guests can also greatly appreciate your budget. Moreover, generally speaking, if you are to pay the bill, guests are not too good to order, will let you make the decision. If your boss is also in the banquet, do not because of respect for him, or that he is experienced in socializing, banquet eat a lot, and let him / her to order, unless he / she took the initiative to ask. Otherwise, he will feel less than decent.
If you're the one who's going to the banquet, you should know that you shouldn't take too much initiative when ordering, but let the host do the ordering. If the other side of the hospitality requirements, you can point to a less expensive, and not everyone taboo dishes. Remember to ask for the opinions of the people at the table, especially "Is there anything you don't eat?" or "What do you like better? or "What are your favorites?" Make everyone feel taken care of. After ordering, you can ask, "I don't know if the food I ordered is to your liking," or "Would you like something else?
When ordering, be sure to have a good idea of what you're ordering. When ordering, according to the following three rules
A look at the composition of the staff. Generally speaking, per capita a dish is a more general rule. If it is more men's meal will be appropriate to increase the amount.
Two look at the combination of dishes. Generally speaking, a table dish is best meat and vegetarian, cold and hot, try to be comprehensive. If more men on the table, you can point some meat, if more women, you can point a few light vegetables.
Three look at the importance of the feast. If it is an ordinary business banquet, the average dish is acceptable at about 50 yuan to 80 yuan. If the object of this banquet is more key people, then it is necessary to point on a few enough portion of the dishes, such as lobster, swordfish, anchovies, and then to the upper specifications, is abalone, shark's fin powder, and so on.
There is also a point to note is that when ordering food should not ask the waiter the price of dishes, or haggling, which will make your company in front of the customer looks a little small, and the customer will also feel uncomfortable.
Attachment: Chinese food ordering guide - three excellent four taboos
A standard Chinese meal, usually, the first cold dishes, followed by hot fried, followed by the main course, and then on the snacks and soups, if you feel a little tired of eating, you can point to some desserts after the meal, and finally on the fruit plate. Take into account the dishes of each program in your order.
Priority dishes
I. Dishes with Chinese characteristics. When entertaining foreign guests, this one should be given more importance. Like fried spring rolls, boiled dumplings, steamed dumplings, lion's head, Gongbao chicken, etc., are not delicacies and delicious, but because of the distinctive Chinese characteristics, they are respected by many foreigners.
Two, there are local characteristics of the dishes. For example, Xi'an's lamb steamed buns, Hunan's Mao's braised pork, Shanghai's braised lion's head, Beijing's shabu-shabu, when you entertain foreign guests there, I'm afraid these specialties will be much more appreciated than the same old raw seafood.
Third, the restaurant's specialties. Many restaurants have their own specialties. Serving a specialty of the restaurant shows the host's care and respect for the person being invited.
When arranging the menu, the dietary taboos of the guests must also be taken into account, especially the dietary taboos of the guest of honor should be given high priority. These dietary taboos are mainly four
1. Religious dietary taboos, not at all negligent. For example, Muslims usually do not eat pork and do not drink alcohol. Domestic Buddhists eat less meat food, it refers not only to meat, but also includes onions, garlic, leeks, mustard and other pungent odor food. Some Buddhists who believe in Goddess of Mercy in the diet is especially forbidden to eat beef, this point to entertain Hong Kong, Macao, Taiwan and overseas Chinese compatriots should pay particular attention.
2. For health reasons, for some foods, there are some contraindications. For example, heart disease, cerebrovascular, vascular sclerosis, hypertension and post-stroke people, not suitable for eating dog meat, hepatitis patients avoid eating lamb and turtle, gastroenteritis, gastric ulcer soup and other digestive disorders are not suitable for people to eat turtle, high blood pressure, high cholesterol patients, to drink less chicken broth and so on.
3. Different regions, people's dietary preferences are often different. For this, in the arrangement of the menu to take into account. For example, people in Hunan Province share a general preference for spicy food, less sweets. People in Britain and the United States usually do not eat pets, rare animals, animal offal, animal head and claws. In addition, when entertaining foreign guests, as little as possible to point to the raw hard to gnaw dishes, foreigners in the meal will be less likely to bite into the mouth of the food and then spit it out, which also need to be taken into account.
4. Some professions, for some reason, in the dining often have their own different special taboos. For example, national civil servants are not allowed to eat in the performance of official duties, not allowed to eat and drink in the official banquet, not allowed to exceed the national standard dining, not allowed to drink hard liquor. Another example is that drivers are not allowed to drink during their work. If this point is ignored, there is a possibility that the other party to make a mistake.
3 - Eating dishes
Chinese people are generally very concerned about eating, but also very concerned about the appearance of eating. As workplace etiquette is more and more emphasized, the business dinner table to eat and eating appearance is also more elaborate. The following Chinese food as an example, to teach you how to be polite and courteous at the table, get it right.
Chinese banquet into the beginning of the meal, the waiter sent the first wet towel is to wipe the hands, do not use it to wipe the face. On the lobster, chicken, fruit, will send a small water Meng, which floated twisted lemon or rose petals, it is not a drink, but hand washing. To wash your hands, take turns wetting your fingers and gently rinsing them, then dry them with a small towel.
When dining, pay attention to civilized manners. Don't try to persuade a foreign guest to eat again and again, but introduce the characteristics of Chinese food to the other party and let them know if they want to eat it or not. Some people like to talk to others, even for the other side of the food. Foreign guests do not have this habit, if you are polite again and again, it is possible that people will be disgusted: "said not to eat, you have to force me to do what?" By analogy, when attending a banquet held by a foreign guest, do not expect the host to repeatedly give you food. If you wait for others to give yourself a dish, then you have to Russian stomach.
After the guests are seated, do not immediately take food. And should wait for the host to greet, by the host to raise the cup to signal the beginning of the guests can start; guests can not grab in front of the host. The food should be civilized, should wait for the dishes to turn to their own front, and then move chopsticks, do not rush in front of the neighbor, a clip should not be too much food. To chew and swallow slowly, which is not only conducive to digestion, but also the requirements of table manners. Never stuff large pieces into your mouth and wolf down your food, as this will leave an impression of greed. Don't be picky about what you eat, don't just fixate on your favorite lei to eat, or rush to pile your favorite dishes on your plate. Eat elegantly, don't touch your neighbor when you are eating, don't put the dish on the table, and don't splash the soup over. Don't make unnecessary noises, such as "gurgling" when drinking soup or "blaring" when eating vegetables, which are all vulgar. Don't eat while chatting with others. Don't spit out bones or fish splinters from your mouth on the table; cover your mouth with a napkin and use chopsticks to remove them and put them on a plate. Don't eat dishes that have been dropped on the table. Don't play with the chopsticks or use the chopsticks to point them straight at others during the meal. Don't pick at your mouth with your hands. Cover your mouth with your hand or a napkin when picking your teeth with a toothpick. Don't let the dishes make any noise.
At the end of the meal, you can wipe your mouth with a napkin, napkin or a small towel from the waiter, but you should not wipe your head, neck or chest; you should not burp or belch uncontrollably after the meal; and you should not leave the table before the host has signaled that the meal is over.
On the toast
1. The host honors the guest of honor.
2. The accompanying guest toasts the guest of honor.
3. The guest of honor returns the toast.
4. The guests honor each other.
Remember: a guest must not be noisy toasting, that is very rude, but also very disrespectful to the host.
4 -- pouring tea
The tea mentioned here applies to both customers to visit the company, also applies to the business table.
First of all, the tea set should be clean. After the guests into the house, first let sit, after the preparation of tea. Before the tea, be sure to wash the tea set, especially the tea set is not used for a long time, inevitably stained with dust, dirt, more carefully with water to wash and brush again. In the tea, pouring tea before the best use of boiling water to scald the teapot, tea cups. In this way, both hygienic and courteous. If no matter whether the tea is clean or not, haphazardly pouring tea to the guests, this is not a polite performance. People see the teapot, teacups on the stains on the stomach, how still willing to drink your tea? Now the general company are disposable cups, before pouring tea, pay attention to the disposable cups set on the cup holder, so as to avoid hot water scalding, so that the guests can not end the cup to drink tea.
Secondly, the tea should be appropriate. First of all, the tea, generally appropriate. Tea should not be too much, nor too little. Too much tea, tea flavor is too strong; tea is too little, brewed tea has no flavor. If the guests take the initiative to introduce themselves to like to drink strong tea or light tea habits, then in accordance with the guest's appetite to tea. Pouring tea, both large and small cups, should not be poured too full, too full is easy to overflow, the table, stools, floor wet. Careless, but also scalding their own hands and feet or guests, so that the guests and hosts are very embarrassed. Of course, should not pour too little. If the tea only cover the bottom of the cup to the guests, it will make people feel that it is in a show, not sincere.
Again, the end of the tea to be appropriate. According to the traditional habits of our people, as long as the two hands are not disabled, are using both hands to the guests of the tea. However, now some young people do not know the rules, with one hand to the guests of the tea. Tea with both hands should also pay attention to the ear of the cup, usually with one hand to grasp the ear of the cup, the other hand to hold the bottom of the cup, the tea to the guests. There is no cup ear of the tea cup after pouring full of tea around the hot, hands are not good close, some comrades regardless of three or seven, with five fingers pinch the edge of the cup in front of the guests to send. This tea method can prevent scalding accidents, but it is very unsightly, and not hygienic enough. Please imagine, let the guest's mouth lick the master's finger marks, good?
Add tea. If your boss or client's cup needs to be filled, it's your duty to do so. You can signal the waiter to add tea, or let the waiter to leave the teapot on the table, by yourself to add the better, this is the best way to cover up when you do not know what to say. Of course, when you add tea, you should add tea to your boss and customers first, and then add it to yourself at the end.
5--Leaving the table
The general cocktail party and tea party time is very long, about there are in more than two hours. Maybe after a few rounds, recognize some people, you soon want to leave. At this time, some of the skills of leaving the table in the middle, you can not help but understand.
Commonly, a banquet is carried out when the enthusiasm, because some people want to leave, and cause the results of the crowd dispersed, so that the organizers are anxious to really jump feet. To avoid the consequences of such a scene, when you want to leave in the middle, do not talk to everyone in the circle of goodbye, as long as the quiet and around two, three people say hello, and then leave can be.
When you leave a cocktail party, you must apologize to the host for inviting you, and you can't just disappear in a puff of smoke.
When you say hello to the host, you should leave right away, and don't drag the host to the front door for a long chat. Because the other side of the day to do a lot of things, there are many guests waiting for him (her) to greet, you take up too much of the host's time, will cause him (her) in front of other guests rude.
Some people participate in the wine party, tea party, when halfway ready to leave, will be one by one to ask her to recognize each person want to go a piece. As a result, the original lively scene, by her so a drum, all of a sudden will be early dispersed. This kind of trouble is the most difficult to be understood by the host of the banquet, a person with manners, can never make this clock mistake.
I hope this helps! And I wish you success!