As a civil servant, I have the responsibility and obligation to protect the atmosphere of this meal, otherwise I will be a failure in social interaction.

Second, what should I do if I encounter an episode of soup and salt? I think it's a question of "speaking skills". That is to say, in order to show that your speaking level is high, and it will not destroy the atmosphere at the scene, and even clear the embarrassing atmosphere for everyone to drink soup next.

Judging from these two analyses, the decisive factor still lies in what you say. what can I say? When I think of going out to eat with the leader, it is the same situation. The soup is salty. Come and listen to what I did at that time! !

Last February, 65438+, our unit participated in an activity in a province. Activities are very important, so three people in our department and the leaders in charge set out ahead of time to take the lead in logistics.

At dinner, we went to a small shop at our own expense and tasted local food. When serving, the waiter first serves melon seeds, sour appetizers and then soup. Food is served in the back. Because they are familiar people, although they also have leaders, they are all direct leaders, and the leaders are easy-going without many constraints. Everyone is more open. So when the waiter brought the soup to several of us, I immediately tasted it first and found that the soup was also very salty, and it felt like eating salt.

At that time, I thought, Oh, no, I introduced this snack bar. If a leader feels bad at the beginning, he will definitely have a bad impression on me. And the waiter is around, how embarrassing! What shall we do? What shall I say so as not to spoil everyone's mood? I turned to raise my voice and said to the waiter, "Waiter, please tell your boss and chef for me." Today's soup is really delicious, but it's a little salty. If it is lighter next time, I can drink three bowls. "

At that time, my colleagues and leaders heard my "reminder" and all tasted a little soup and didn't drink any more. I also seconded that the soup was salty. But our dining atmosphere is still very good. Later, the store offered to serve us more soup, but we declined because of time, and the store gave us a 20% discount.

In fact, what I said at that time had three meanings, namely: this soup is really delicious (awesome) today, but it is a little salty (critical). If it is lighter next time, I can drink three bowls (awesome). In this case, whether the waiter or the leader hears it, it is easy to accept and will be happy to accept it.

I once read a book on psychology, which mentioned a sentence of critical psychology: the phenomenon that people put this kind of criticism in two praises and let critics accept it happily is called the sandwich effect. The first layer always recognizes, appreciates, affirms and cares about each other's advantages or positive aspects; The middle layer is sandwiched with suggestions, criticisms or different opinions; The third layer always encourages, hopes, trusts, supports and helps, making the taste of the future endless. This method of criticism will not only dampen the self-esteem and enthusiasm of the criticized, but also actively accept criticism and correct their own shortcomings.

Therefore, in the case mentioned in the title, I suggest you consider using sandwich effect criticism, which may kill two birds with one stone ~ ~