If the average age of first marriage of urban women in the post-80s generation is 25 years old and that of men is 27 years old, assuming that the average interval between first marriage and first childbirth is 2 years, if the only child leaves home at the age of 18, the average age of couples who enter the empty nest family life is 45-47 years old, and they will live in the empty nest family for 15 years before entering the old age stage. So, how should these middle-aged empty-nest parents get rid of the empty-nest crisis?
Families about to enter the middle-aged empty nest should make a conscious transition before their children leave home and adjust their life focus, such as establishing their own social life circle and expanding their hobbies. Some retired parents can play cards and dance in their spare time and participate in some training for the elderly; Parents who are still working should shift the focus of "children around them" to work as soon as possible, communicate more with neighbors and friends, participate in trips and parties organized by the unit, and get out of the empty nest crisis in middle age as soon as possible.
Solving the problem of empty nest families is a comprehensive problem, which requires the joint efforts of families, communities, society, government and individuals. 1. First of all, you should be good at arranging your own life and be mentally prepared for your sudden physical discomfort. You can greet your children, relatives and friends, neighbors, community workers and colleagues in advance in order to get help in an emergency.
2. Secondly, we should enhance our psychological self-reliance. The effective way to overcome loneliness is to find spiritual sustenance, enrich new life content and enhance the meaning of life. There are many ways to find spiritual sustenance, such as strengthening interpersonal communication, pouring out one's anguish and troubles to friends, expressing feelings and broadening one's horizons. Take part in various cultural and sports activities to enrich your later life. Actively participate in social interaction, help neighborhood committees do what they can, and integrate themselves into society.
3. Third, there must be an advance, that is, when the child reaches the age of "leaving the nest", he should be fully psychologically prepared and gradually reduce his attachment to the child. 1. Families should help the elderly as much as possible.
2. Spouses should care about their wives, not only in daily life, but also care about their mental health and give them more spiritual comfort.
Children should help their elderly parents arrange their daily life and keep in touch with their parents. Caring for parents spiritually, often going home to visit, giving a helping hand and listening to their demands and needs. Even if you can't go home, you should always call to say hello, strengthen communication with each other and alleviate the difficulties of elderly parents.
4. In the way of living, young people and old people should live nearby to shorten the space distance between them. "A bowl of soup" has been accepted by more and more people, that is, it is appropriate to send a bowl of soup to the elderly when the distance between children and the elderly is not too cold. Children and parents live in the same community, the same building, or even different units on the same floor, which is beneficial for adult children to take care of their elderly parents. 1. Vigorously develop community services, tap the potential, and improve the community's self-help and mutual aid capabilities.
2. There are many "empty nest" elderly people in developed countries, which is related to the relative perfection of community service industry in developed countries. Old people live in their own homes, and their health care needs mainly depend on family attendants. This can not only save money, but also keep the life of the elderly away from the community and facilitate the contact between the elderly and their children and relatives.
3. China should also vigorously develop community services, including:
Organize door-to-door services of relevant community departments, deliver goods to the door, set up family beds, give priority to shopping, set up dining tables for the elderly, and go to the door for haircuts to facilitate the lives of the elderly.
4. Special care should be given to the elderly in empty nest families who are in poor physical condition, poor mental state, unable to take care of themselves, and their children are far away from home, such as implementing a daily visit system, installing emergency help facilities at home, and inviting psychologists to come to the door for consultation.
5. Build a social welfare service network, build an old-age service center and an old-age care center, and provide care sources such as nannies, hourly workers and volunteers.
6. Establish a sound community service system, set up convenient and fast community medical institutions, establish health care cards for the elderly, set up family beds and provide on-site services.
7. Improve the living environment of the elderly, fully consider the special needs of the elderly in the design of transportation and home facilities, develop equipment that can enhance the self-reliance of the elderly, and popularize emergency bells, emergency call systems and other equipment to prevent accidents for the elderly.
8. Advocate and develop cultural and sports activities for the elderly and enrich their spiritual life. Mobilize the elderly to care for and help empty nesters in cultural and sports activities.
9. Give full play to the role of community party organizations, and the residents' party branches are responsible for the empty nesters within their jurisdiction to visit every party member and understand the needs of the elderly every day. 1. Mobilize social forces to help empty nesters.
2. Mobilize shops, hospitals, restaurants and other service units in the community to sign a cooperation agreement on "helping the elderly in empty-nest families" through contracts to ensure that the care and service work is implemented to people and services to households.
3. Set up a special housekeeping company in the community to provide transportation and companionship, canteens and legal services for the elderly. Provide housework, family health care, home delivery, regular visits, telephone confirmation, emergency system and other services for the frail elderly at home.
4. Give play to the role of volunteer organizations. Through young volunteers and children participating in social practice in the community, they can chat with the elderly and increase their contact with society.
5. Set up professional psychological consultation stations, spots and service hotlines for the elderly to eliminate the psychological pressure of the elderly in time. Strengthen the aging work, especially the grassroots aging work;
1. Set up special institutions for the aged, carry out statistical surveys, master the information of empty nesters, establish files for empty nesters, provide institutions for empty nesters to reflect problems, and coordinate relevant departments to solve the problems of empty nesters in a timely and effective manner.
2. Take the elderly living alone as the focus of empty nesters' work, and adopt a one-stop system of responsibility, contact and care (such as telephone contact or entrusting neighbors to take care of them, and visiting the masses regularly and regularly) to implement their safety protection measures.
3. Develop and improve old-age care institutions, arrange empty nesters with real difficulties to stay in old-age care institutions, and implement socialized old-age care. Lonely old people who have no children, no source of livelihood and can't take care of themselves completely in daily life are adopted by social welfare institutions such as nursing homes. Establish a number of hospice care hospitals for the elderly and expand hospice care services for the elderly in ordinary families.
4. In public opinion, vigorously carry forward the glorious tradition of respecting the elderly of the Chinese nation, and encourage and support children to care for and care for their elderly parents. Commend the exemplary children who honor and support the elderly, and condemn the abuse, discrimination and even abandonment of the elderly. Call on all walks of life, units and neighborhoods to pay more attention to empty nesters. Encourage young people to help the elderly and encourage the elderly to help each other.
5. Bring the problem of empty nesters into the agenda of the government's aging work, make long-term plans, fundamentally solve the life and psychological problems of empty nesters, meet their needs, improve their quality of life, and promote social stability and unity.