How to deal with people, speaking skills 1 1. About success
1. Success equals the goal, and everything else is the annotation of this sentence.
Success is not because of speed, but because of pace.
3. Success means doing simple things repeatedly. The reason why someone is unsuccessful is not that he can't do it, but that he is unwilling to do these simple and repetitive things. Moreover, the easier it is, the harder it is for people to do it.
4. The difference between people, at first, only lies in the different ways of thinking.
Destiny is in our own hands, not in others' mouths.
6. It is necessary to struggle painfully before success. Without enough painful struggle, there will be no powerful "wings".
7. Success is due to attitude, and failure is also due to attitude.
8. Make a little progress every day. One of the quickest ways to succeed is to make a little progress every day.
9. It's not impossible, but we haven't found a way yet. There must be a successful way.
10. If the mountain doesn't come, I'll go. If things can't be changed, we will change ourselves.
1 1. I am the root of everything. Things don't change people, people are just influenced by their own views on things.
12. Make up your mind to succeed. To succeed, you must have a strong desire for success, just as you have a strong desire for survival.
13. I am who I think I am. We are who we think we are. Ideas determine behavior, and behavior determines results.
14. God helps those who help themselves.
15. Great! This kind of thing happened to me and gave me another chance to grow up. Everything has a cause and effect, which helps me.
Second, about habits.
1. 95% of people's behavior is due to habits, and habits determine fate.
2.2 1 day to form a habit.
It's hard not to succeed if you form the habit of success.
Third, about communication.
1. Deal with the mood first, then deal with things.
2. Criticism makes people know what is wrong, but often people don't know what is right; Praise directly tells people what is right, even though they may not know what is wrong. Therefore, praise is certainly more direct and effective than criticism.
Fourth, about being a man.
1. Be a man with your heart and do things with your brain.
2. The highest state: don't do to others what you don't want.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) about team.
1. We are one person.
The fastest runner in the team is as fast as the slowest runner.
Six, about leadership
1. An unwise leader has a characteristic that he can't sleep all day, but his subordinates sleep soundly. Excellent leadership is just the opposite: subordinates can't sleep all day, but they can sleep soundly. "
If you can lead yourself well, then leading others well is a piece of cake.
Seven, about management
1. The manager is a coach, not a referee.
2. The biggest difference between "criticism" and "coach" is that criticism accuses the other side of its shortcomings; The coach pointed out the opponent's shortcomings and taught him how to do it.
3. Be a coach, not a critic.
We are not afraid of the employee leaving, and we are afraid that he will leave without learning well.
Eight, about training
1. Skills are more important than instilling knowledge, and casting character is more important than training skills.
2. Training is not labor reform, but entertainment.
3. Good training is not to let students acquire knowledge, but to let students decide to change.
4. Training is not a "meal", you can't eat with it, and training is not a "medicine". Don't expect to use it to treat diseases. Training is a kind of "health care product", and its function is to promote enterprises to maintain a strong body.
Nine, about teaching methods
1. We don't teach with words, we play with our hearts.
2. Sensibility opens the door and rationality changes reality.
3. Games are children's work, and work is adults' games.
This game is very popular because it can make people enjoy it.
5. One of the future trends: gamification of work and gamification of learning.
X. About time management
1. Do the most productive thing every minute.
2. Do important things as urgent things.
How to deal with people, speaking skills 2 should follow the principle of interpersonal communication;
1. Fully respect each other's inner secrets or privacy;
2. When talking, look at each other;
3. Don't reveal the contents to others after hearing the secrets of the other person's heart;
Don't criticize others behind their backs and save your face.
On the basis of observing the above four principles, pay attention to the following points:
(1) Admit your "true self" and show it to everyone, that is, honestly admit your image in the eyes of others. Psychological research shows that people don't like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and has some minor shortcomings is the most popular. So you don't have to care too much about your own shortcomings, and you have to have enough confidence in it.
(2) Always consider the problem from the perspective of others, often cooperate with others, and share the results with others; Provide opportunities for others to help others achieve their goals in life; When others encounter difficulties and setbacks, lend a helping hand and give help.
(3) Open-minded, willing to accept others and accept yourself. When others make achievements, we should seize the opportunity to give praise and congratulations. This kind of praise will bring happiness to the praised person and cause positive emotional reaction. Emotions are contagious, that is, they will also infect people around them and bring happiness to them. "Happiness" will melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make interpersonal relationship harmonious.
(4) master communication skills. When communicating with others, you should pay attention to listening. Smile when you listen, and it is best not to do anything else, and give appropriate feedback in terms of expressions, gestures, nodding, etc. Especially when the other party has grievances and dissatisfaction to vent, it can better show a person's quality and cultivation level; Pay attention to being subtle, humorous, concise and vivid when expressing ideas. When giving advice and pointing out mistakes to others, we should pay attention to the occasion and use peaceful words so as not to hurt others' self-esteem. When talking with people, you should have your own emotional input, so that you can be emotional.
5] Strive for more communication and exchanges. Don't avoid communication because of some misunderstandings, but take the initiative to communicate with you and participate in your discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust.
[6] Absorb the advantages of others and be more understanding and tolerant of your own shortcomings. Don't care too much about trivial disputes in life, forget them, forgive them and reconcile them. The so-called "big things are smart, small things are confused", and limited energy is spent on the main things.
One is to take time to participate in group activities. This can cultivate our various hobbies, make friends with them, exchange information, exchange ideas and experiences with each other, and achieve the purpose of extensive exchanges and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
How to deal with people speaking skills 3 1, urgent, speak slowly.
In case of emergency, if you can calm down and think, and then calmly make things clear, you will leave a stable and impulsive impression on the listener, thus increasing others' trust in you.
2, small things, humorously said.
In particular, some kind reminders, said in a joking way, will not make listeners feel stiff, they will not only accept your reminders, but also enhance their intimacy.
3. If you are not sure, speak cautiously.
If you don't say what you are not sure about, others will think you are hypocritical; If you can say it strictly, people will think you are a trustworthy person.
Don't talk nonsense about things that didn't happen.
People hate people who make much ado about nothing. If you never speculate or talk nonsense, others will think you are mature, educated and conscientious.
Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do.
As the saying goes, "Without Jin Gangzuan, don't make porcelain". If you don't easily promise what you can't do, it will make the listener feel that you are a person who "keeps his word" and is willing to believe you.
6. You can't say hurtful words.
Don't use words to hurt others, especially between close people. Don't say anything that hurts others. This will make them feel that you are a kind person and help to maintain and enhance their feelings.
7, sad things, don't say it when you see people.
When people are sad, they all have the desire to talk, but if you talk to others, it will easily make the listener feel too stressed, suspicious and alienated. At the same time, it will give people the impression that they don't think about others and want to pass on the pain to others.
How to deal with people, speaking skills 4 1. Speak slowly in an emergency;
2. Major events should be made clear;
3. Small things, said humorously;
4. Uncertainty, caution. Say;
5. Don't talk nonsense about things that didn't happen;
6. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do;
7. Hurtful words can't be said;
8. Disgusting things, saying that they are not people;
9. Happy things, depending on the occasion;
10. Don't tell everyone about the sad thing;
1 1. Mind other people's business;
12. Do your own thing and listen to your inner words;
13. Let's talk about what we have done now;
14. Let's talk about the future first;
15. You don't have to say anything if you know someone. Leave three points for others and some words for yourself.
16. Don't be harsh on others, leave three points for others and some tolerance for yourself.
17. Don't sell yourself short, leave three points for others, and leave some meaning for yourself.
18. You don't need to show your advantage. Three points for others and one for yourself.
19. You don't have to invite all the merits. Leave three points for others and some humility for yourself.
20. Don't take all the reasons away, leave three points for others and a little tolerance for yourself.
Being a man and doing things is an art, but also a science. No matter how smart and capable a person is, no matter how good his background is, if he doesn't know how to behave, then the final outcome will be failure. Being a man without doing anything is disabled; Being able to do things, but not being good at being human, is easy to make mistakes and even hit a wall everywhere. A successful businessman once said, "Be a man first, then do things. If you do well, you will do things by the way. "
How to be a man and do things-We should learn, experience and think about Wang Fuzhi's "Six Rans" and "Four Views" in the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties.
The so-called "six natures":
First, get rid of yourself. When you are alone, you should be detached from fame and fortune, especially in the current market economy and commodity economy.
Second, people are awkward. When you get along with others, be kind to others. No matter how others treat you, you should be kind and think positively.
Third, nothing is clear. Indifferent ambition, quiet and far-reaching, good at being alone, like to be calm, always keep your true colors and never lose yourself in the crowd.
Fourth, act decisively. Don't be in a dilemma, procrastinate, hesitate, make up your mind, make up your mind.
Fifth, I am proud and indifferent. When making achievements, don't be arrogant, be a low-key person, think more about other people's feelings and keep a normal heart.
Sixth, be frustrated and calm. People can't be proud every day, and there are times when life is frustrated. Don't complain when you are frustrated. Take it as it is, life can't always be at a low point.
The so-called "four looks":
First, big things are hard to see. When you encounter a big and difficult thing, it depends on whether you can face it bravely, avoid it, and take it bravely.
Second, adversity is rewarded with good. When you encounter adversity or prosperity, it depends on your mind, whether you are open-minded enough and whether you can afford it.
Third, look at self-restraint under anger. Whether you can calm down like water when you meet a happy or irritating thing depends on your self-restraint and whether you can bear the burden of humiliation.
Fourth, the group will stop and meet. By yes, I mean whether to stay or not. When it comes to staying or not, it depends on your knowledge and whether you can make a correct judgment. If you should go, you should stay.
In the process of self-cultivation, we should learn from others. Dale Carnegie said, "Everyone is the object of your study. Because whether you know each other or not, everyone is more or less worthy of your imitation. The most important thing is that you should study their lives, actively learn from their experience and apply it flexibly to your own life; Otherwise, it is easy to take detours and even hit the wall. " Only by being a good person and being a good person can we be right, go far and fully reflect our own life value; Only by doing things well, doing good things well and doing difficult things well can we create impressive results.
How to deal with people's speaking skills 5 1 Looks are not annoying, and if you don't look good, you will be talented; If you have no talent, always smile.
2. temperament is the key. If you can't learn fashion, you'd rather be simple.
3. When shaking hands with people, you can shake hands for a while. Sincerity is a kind of wealth.
You don't have to take "I" as the subject of everything.
5. Don't borrow money from friends.
6. Don't "force" guests to look at your family photo album.
7. When fighting with others, please sit next to the driver first.
8. Insist on saying nice things about others behind their backs, and don't worry that these nice things won't reach the ears of the parties.
9. When someone speaks ill of someone in front of you, you just smile.
10. Drive your own car and don't stop to say hello to your colleagues who ride bicycles. People will think you are showing off.
1 1. Visit your colleague when he is ill. Sit naturally in his hospital bed and wash your hands carefully when you get home.
12. Don't let everyone know the past.
13. Respect people who don't like you.
14. Things are not people; Or be ruthless about things and have feelings for people; Or do first and do second.
15. Self-criticism always makes people believe, but self-praise is not.