Of course, the most important thing in chatting is to learn to listen.
Everyone wants to talk more about themselves in the chat topic, but everyone has good people. When others talk about themselves first, you also want to get more attention from others. Rochefoucauld said, "Everyone only cares about what he wants to say, not what the other person is saying, which makes us a bad listener."
Therefore, when chatting with others, we should first draw closer to each other and relax, so as to make the conversation pleasant instead of preaching to each other.
Since we want to talk about the topic, why can't we be a loyal listener? When all the friends around you are willing to find you, today shows that your listening is very effective.
On the contrary, this routine will win the hearts of others more easily, and everyone will be very willing to make friends with you.
You only care about yourself, and you can't hear the other person's point at all. It is easy to go astray when talking, and both sides feel very uncomfortable. It's really embarrassing to give in to each other.
This will make others' emotional intelligence low, so you must learn to listen patiently.
Because sometimes people may ask about you from your parents, or your relatives accidentally let it slip, and sometimes the more parents know, the more anxious they will be, so needless words are still in their stomachs.
In reality, many friends, including me, have been cheated by others, which is normal. Some Jianghu people say that "sows wear breasts one after another". These are some of my own countermeasures to share with you.
1, don't want to answer, can't say, don't know how to answer, are "I don't know", "I don't know about it", "I don't know the details", polite smile, etc. Don't be vague, or more than half of you will be accused of lying and your face will be ugly.
2. Establish a sense of privacy. For example: I see you have been busy all day, and you must have a lot of income, right? A: Just so-so. I can hardly eat. Personal income, family situation, work core information, sensitive relationship, contradictory position, address, etc. All belong to advanced privacy. If others mention it, you should be vigilant immediately and protect your privacy. As for the others, we don't care if we talk about Syria.
3, clear each other's personality, is to pay attention to people, or real people, or genius, what you say, just have a bottom in your heart.
4. Know people, don't judge people, talk about things.
5, the situation is unknown, it is not easy to show attitude and position.
6. If you get to the bottom of it, ask the other person and change places. Otherwise, you'd better shut up and go. Like what happened with Chou-heung the night before yesterday? I haven't asked you yet. What have you been sneaking out in the middle of the night recently? Don't tease me, I'm asking you. I have something to do anyway. I have to go first.
7. When watching a movie after a play, it is not beautiful to study the dialogue between the creators.
8. In daily life, observe how others are extremely pulled in some complicated interest relationships and near-far relationships. I'll come back after watching too much.
9. Fear of no talent; Talented people are also afraid of meeting people who are not talented; People without talent don't know much important information, and a truly talented person is also guilty.
10, speak with conscience, no one is afraid.
You're scared. Afraid of the consequences of not answering truthfully.
Treating symptoms is an obsessive-compulsive disorder. The solution is practice. Practice for a few seconds before you answer. Second, practice answering other than answering (1. Why do you ask? 2. Hahaha haxxxx. I'll tell you. 3. deliberately say an obviously wrong answer and turn the scene into a joke. 456. In short, if you want to slow down, think more, and practice the root cause, you need to consider the nature of interpersonal relationships. Besides being kind, you should be smart. Even if others are 90% smart, you should at least pass. The cause should be the threat of moral criticism from childhood. Parents and teachers tell you that if you don't do something, it's immoral (then they can hurt or even abandon you at will).
Therefore, morality in all things is the essence of your education and your inner fear. To root out the problem, the healthier the body and mind, the looser the interpersonal relationship and financial situation, and the easier it is.
1 1, slowly try not to make things clear, and stop here.
12. Analyze the real purpose of others' speeches or questions, so as to make countermeasures or answers. Don't be afraid of being beaten. It doesn't matter if you are beaten once, it is the cost of acquiring knowledge and the necessity of growth. If we meet again, we have to "water" him like water.
Since ancient times, the true feelings can't be kept, and only routines have won people's hearts.
I don't know. I love my love and don't talk nonsense with other useless people. I feel relaxed, simple and happy! It's not just Beishangguang, all places don't believe in tears!
Learn these 20 suggestions, and from now on, be a smart person and you won't be wronged!
When talking to people, talk less. Don't say irrelevant words, don't talk endlessly, speak too fast and keep a sense of rhythm. If you don't talk much, you should speak to the point. Observing people with strong gas fields around them often cherishes words like gold.
Emotion is invisible. Don't expose your emotions casually, let alone tell everyone about your difficulties and experiences. You can only add some talk to others after dinner. No one helped you because of your difficulties.
It's normal if your colleagues are cold to you. If your colleagues are particularly kind to you, be careful.
Walking, sitting and lying are very calm. Speak with a heavy heart, don't panic, hold your head high, be confident and calm.
There are no eternal friends and enemies in the world, only interests are consistent. The essence of interpersonal communication is actually the exchange of interests. If you don't understand the principle of interest exchange, you will enjoy prosperity today and suffer the consequences tomorrow.