I am not an introvert by nature, but an acquired environment. When I was a child, my parents divorced, which led to my introversion and inferiority. I am afraid to communicate with people, but I am extremely sensitive. An unintentional glance from others will make me uncomfortable all day.
I didn't feel much influence at school. After all, I can still save a little poor self-esteem by my grades. Once you enter the society, you can imagine how many walls such characters will encounter and how many setbacks they will encounter.
So I have a little foundation in school. My first job is foreign trade, which meets my requirements. After all, I don't need to communicate with people face to face, just send an email and make a phone call, and anything can be done online.
Unfortunately, however, it didn't take me long to leave this job that I thought was the most satisfactory, and the reason turned out to be that I didn't socialize. Because I have no social life, I don't know how to express myself when I encounter difficulties, I don't ask for other people's opinions, and I don't know how to relieve the pressure in my heart.
A social phobia star discovered for the first time that no social interaction can really kill people.
It took me a month to think about life, the present and the future, only to find that once I can't get past this hurdle, there is no future in all aspects of my life and I can only take care of myself in my own world. How can I tolerate such a life? After learning from the painful experience, I decided to force myself to change.
So, I started the work of shopping guide, right! It is the kind of promotion that can be seen at any time in the supermarket and is often looked down upon by people. At first, I played hide-and-seek with my clients. It's not just that my eyes are dodgy and my voice is too low, but that I'm afraid that once someone approaches, whether it's a customer or not, I will instinctively avoid and run away. I was relieved to see my competitors ask questions.
In this way, my grades naturally came to the bottom, but it also aroused my strong self-esteem. After all, I have never failed so much when I was studying, so my inferiority and pride were aroused. So I began to bite the bullet and force myself to communicate with customers. No matter whether I speak well or not, I must speak. After some training, I seem to have lost my self-confidence, started to have confidence in communicating with customers, and customers are more willing to accept my suggestions. In this way, I slowly recovered my confidence and my whole state changed.
Now, I am still active in the front line of sales, and communication with people has become a daily need, and the pleasure and sense of accomplishment gained from it are increasing day by day.
In fact, sometimes, what hinders our progress is never the education level, personality quality and appearance, but our determination to overcome ourselves!
I am a waiter. Hotel waiter, before I was super self-abased, it is no exaggeration to say that the leaders of my first job didn't like me because I was sensitive and timid. Later, I slowly changed myself and couldn't laugh. I bit chopsticks every day after work. I can't chat, so I slowly learn to chat with guests, and I slowly chat well with many guests. I am now an internship manager in a small restaurant. Now I am out of cowardice, inferiority and sensitivity, but I have to learn to take responsibility. A hotel is really a place that can change people. If you are willing to study, I believe you can.
Hello, I'm Li Haixia, a psychological counselor.
You mentioned that if you are introverted, which industry is generally more suitable for people with social phobia?
First of all, no matter what kind of industry you are engaged in, you must know yourself first. Customer: The personality you mentioned can be divided into four kinds in psychology.
Bile is sanguine, mucinous and depressive.
These four personalities refer to people's temperament.
People with bile are emotionally unstable.
Bloody people are extroverted, enthusiastic, energetic and sociable.
People with mucus are slow, introverted and stable.
Patients with depression are sensitive, introverted and silent.
You can look it up online to find out your more accurate personality type.
There is no good or bad personality. As you mentioned, if you are introverted, you are generally sensitive, sensitive and talented in art. In addition, introverted people are better at thinking.
So there are many suitable occupations, such as writer, psychological counselor, painter, dancer, artist, teacher, accountant, IT and so on.
As for social phobia, we all live in this world and inevitably need some social support, so I suggest you still need to get through it. Maybe you don't need to be a versatile communicator, but normal social interaction is also very helpful for family happiness and career success.
Because no matter what kind of occupation we are engaged in, we inevitably need to deal with others.
If you need to get through in this respect, you can send a private message to the teacher in the background.
If you don't want to overcome social phobia, you can consider some jobs with less contact with people.
I think I have some social phobia. I don't like dealing with people, and I don't like maintaining so-called interpersonal relationships. Although my job needs to deal with people more or less, it is more about doing a good job than maintaining any interpersonal relationship. So I suggest that you can do some work that doesn't need to interact with others. Cheng is an example. He writes code quietly and may not say a few words for a day when he is busy. For example, in research work, it can of course be done independently or by several people.
In the workplace, just for work, you don't have to care too much about whether you are introverted or not, and you don't have to consider too many interpersonal relationships. Practical, unsociable. Come on!
Writers don't have to be in contact with strangers. He only needs literary talent to write a good article. A painter draws his own little world on paper with a brush every day.
Calligrapher, to become a qualified calligrapher, needs a long period of precipitation and a deep foundation, which is very suitable for introverts.
Programmers, the main job is to constantly modify the program on the computer, relying on their own skills to eat, personnel relations are very simple.
From the topic analysis, social phobia belongs to the social interaction syndrome at the psychological (spiritual) level. In the process of communicating with others, people will feel panic, fear and even nervous. Back to the purpose of this topic, if we simply consider it from a shallow level, such girls can engage in manual operation, office clerk, data archivist and other jobs, and may have less contact with people. But from the fundamental analysis of the problem, I personally suggest that this problem should not be "how to do it", but should focus on "how to (reduce) girls' social phobia". As we all know, today's society is a new era of rapid economic development, with all kinds of information blending and intensive contact between people. Whether at work or at home, the only subject of subjective information dissemination-people-is the center and center of gravity of the whole social development. In short, if people want to live better, "socializing" is essential. Solve social phobia, personal opinion: 1) Find out the social phobia in formal self-awareness and face it squarely; 2) Correct your attitude and tell yourself to face it boldly and overcome it; 3) Take the first step boldly. Get out of the self-world, get in touch with the natural environment and animals, observe the changes in the world and feel the beauty of life and society; 4) Contact with the elderly, women, children and social vulnerable groups. These groups often give people a sense of security because they are socially vulnerable groups. Get close to them and communicate with them. Take care of them; 5) Talk about your situation and worries with parents, lovers, friends and other close friends as much as possible to form a benign activity of personal information and the outside world; 6) Feel the warmth and love of the outside world. Participate in public welfare activities and organizations, and feel all kinds of "truth, goodness and beauty" moments in the social crowd. At the same time, strive to give your love, help those in need, and make yourself needed in the crowd. I think that following the steps I mentioned can alleviate social phobia to some extent. Finally, I want to quote a famous saying of romain rolland: See the world clearly, and then love it!
If you can't overcome or improve your personality, it may be difficult to do a lot of extroversion or communication work! ! ! It is ok to do some professional skills, design, technology and research and development, even if there is little communication, you can still achieve something! ! Of course, if you can overcome your personality, you will certainly make a difference, because introverts are actually richer and more knowledgeable about human nature, but they are not good at expressing and using it! ! !
Generally, girls with this personality, I would advise them to do the following work. For example: administrative clerk of company planning department, planning specialist, customer service clerk of customer service department, finance department, accountant, cashier and so on.
Hello, my friend, I suggest doing sales work!
You will ask! Why do you have to deal with people if you have social fears?
Remember, whatever you do! Everyone needs to communicate with others. You can make money just by playing saxophone! The client is here, so you should come up! Question: How much does the boss earn a day?
So do what you are afraid of, overcome your fears, change yourself and learn to communicate with others, and you will be competent for all kinds of work.
Introverted girls can consider the following jobs:
1, scientific research:
Scientific research needs less communication, and the demand for interpersonal communication is not great. The colleagues we usually face are mostly technical houses, mostly academic exchanges, so it is easier to communicate at ordinary times.
2. Administrative category
Administrative work is generally done by the rules, step by step, and does not require too much interpersonal communication, so introverted people are more suitable for this industry.
3. Factory assembly line staff
As long as the factory assembly line employees do things as required, they don't need to say too much and don't need to get along with their colleagues around them. Social needs are relatively low.