What we are best at and like best determines our cognition.

Recently, I always heard a saying: it is impossible for a person to make money beyond cognition.

I basically agree with this sentence, but this sentence is not complete.

What determines a person's cognition? Isn't there such a literary saying about growth experience, family background, education methods and so on? In the road you have traveled and the books you have read, there are shadows of people you have loved.

Is that really the case? What kind of person you are, what kind of person you will meet?

Actually, it's not, but what kind of people you are willing to meet, and what kind of people you will meet within your interpersonal range. What kind of people will you meet in your circle that you like subjectively.

This is the subconscious mind deep in our cognitive world.

So what determines our subconscious?

It is the part of cognition that we like most and are used to most, which determines our cognition and also limits our cognition.

A person who is good at or likes to deal with words, if you let him do data analysis, his head will be bigger.

On the other hand, a person immersed in the digital world. He believes that everything in the world can be deconstructed by digital logic. You have to let him deconstruct in words, which is probably a very painful thing.

But it is often what a person is most familiar with and good at that will eventually limit a person's development and upward space, unless it is artificially adjusted through deliberate thinking and behavior training.

02

A person will be poisoned by what he is best at.

At the peak of that year, Xiaomouyang, especially in South China (including overseas areas), was in full swing and was one of the undisputed head enterprises in the domestic catering industry. South China is the experimental field and vanguard of the whole group, and also the bridgehead for overseas expansion.

In order to further broaden our horizons and connect with the world's advanced management experience, South China Region introduced Liu, a senior brand operation director from the French group, according to the strategic requirements of the group.

In order to welcome Mr. Liu's arrival, South China Human Resources Center provided full-time tracking service. In advance, I have a deep understanding of Liu's various work characteristics and living habits within my grasp, and according to Liu's guidance, I have equipped him with a work team in advance.

On the day of General Manager Liu's performance, the Vice President of the Group personally attended the welcoming ceremony, which was unprecedented.

At the welcome dinner that night, Mr. Liu showed us the romance of French culture.

Liu Zonghong was a heavy drinker, and finally began to pull the girl to sing and dance on the wine table. We stayed with him all the time. When Mr. Liu finally got a good sleep, we finally started to go home.

At that time, a female vice president lamented: France is very romantic.

In this way, the whole South China knows that a romantic manager Liu has come from France.

When the human resources center received the final salary confirmation from the group headquarters, we gasped: the annual salary was 2 million US dollars. The last salary confirmation list that shocked us was the general manager of Hong Kong, but compared with Mr. Liu, it was dwarfed.

General manager Liu, whose salary was shocked, and the romantic general manager Liu completely shocked us in the next two months.

He is very romantic. He visited several stores and suggested changing the decoration tonality of the flagship store immediately. He thinks that it is not luxurious enough and exquisite enough, and grassland culture should be displayed in a way similar to relief.

I also think our waiter's face value is too bad. It is suggested that the flagship store should recruit waiters according to the standards of flight attendants.

He doesn't like numbers very much, and he doesn't like cost analysis. Whoever gives him numbers will say that tonality is the core selling point of a restaurant.

He doesn't like meetings very much, and he will give orders whenever he is inspired. For a time, the brand and operation were in a hurry.

This embarrassed the group and South China. During many docking before joining the company, the Group communicated with South China in detail about General Manager Liu's work values.

He is required to upgrade brand building step by step and develop and improve products that are conducive to overseas promotion according to the three-year plan.

Finally, three months later, after very frank communication, Mr. Liu left.

Since then, the introduction of executives in South China has been extremely cautious.

How cautious? All the introduced group director-level executives will sign the contract after one month's rotation in various positions in the store-starting from welcoming guests.

Teacher Liu must be a very good brand and operation veteran, but he likes to use what he is used to too much.

A person will be poisoned by what he is best at, because it is too easy.

There is a joke circulating in the alumni association: two bunk friends who both graduated from the Department of Mathematics went to Shenzhen. 10 years later, one is the owner of a chain training institution listed on the New Third Board, and the other is a very prestigious math training teacher at k 12.

They all received the same training, were very interested in mathematics and got good grades.

At the beginning, they actually held a training class together, but one of them felt that starting a business had to worry and take care of everything, and it was too tired to cope with it by himself. I'd rather work overtime to go to class.

The other is not used to managing people by himself, but just doesn't want to give up easily. I forced myself to adapt and change, and I survived the hardships. In fact, he is a person who can't make a boring fart with three sticks, except in class.

Don't say whose grades are better and whose position is better. That seems too vulgar.

But fate did begin to rearrange when we treated the long board and the short board.

03

The logic of fate

When it comes to success, one life has two fortunes and three talents.

This kind of life may be the trajectory of our life logic.

Why is it a logical trajectory?

All your states today were decided by you ten years ago or even five years ago.

You were five years ago, and it was decided by you a long time ago.

I don't know where I read this sentence: a choice, a turn, and a look back. At first, you seemed to be casual and seemingly calm. In retrospect, it was actually the stormy waves in our lives.

Why didn't we think it was because we were young and didn't go deep into life?

More specifically, we still have some free time and some self-righteous choices.

In fact, the trajectory of life logic is quietly set in our casual.

We always spend our lives in luxury in the way we like and are used to.

And proudly call these things their own advantages.

I met a talented young man who was outstanding and brilliant since he was a child.

A "model" can be recited in the fifth grade of primary school; Poetry in Tang and Song Dynasties is more important. Feel free to come.

Neighbors praise each other, and parents are proud of it. The formal family motto is-ten years of cold window, no one asked, famous all over the world.

When other children are playing wildly outside, he sits in the room and can't get out without taking the front door. Read all kinds of books and do all kinds of papers.

I get the first place in the exam every year, and I am sent to County No.1 Middle School, the best high school in our county, which is also called Tsinghua Peking University Preparatory Class by local people.

People around us, from the old farmer to the old headmaster, are sure that he will be the pillar of Tsinghua Peking University.

He is more complacent.

What we never expected was that a section of physical education class completely destroyed him and a family.

At a physical education class class in Grade One, the young PE teacher criticized him for climbing 800 meters.

His parents only let him study since he was a child, and he never did farm work in the countryside. I don't like sports either, and I can't compare with us who chase naughty wild children every day.

The PE teacher asked him to reevaluate with the unqualified female classmates.

He refused and stormed back to the dormitory.

The head teacher criticized it at the class meeting that day, and he blushed like a fire.

I went home that night and never went to school again, leaving my parents crying and cursing.

Six months later, when the uncle next door saw him for the last time, he was startled by his appearance: his face was blue, his lips were black, his eyes were bloodshot, and he could not see the light of a boy of fifteen or sixteen in his eyes.

On that day, he left himself on the highest mountain in his hometown forever with a poem he wrote and a bottle of pesticide.

Poor mother, she has been crying every night since that night. The heart-rending hoarse cry makes people feel sad on a hot night.

Maybe you will say, this is another story about Zhong Yong.

In fact, this is a sad logic about the fate of life: when you over-amplify your own advantages and over-rely on your own advantages, you will lose yourself-when you meet new challenges and your original advantages can't cope, there will be a huge gap and confusion.

Maybe we don't have much, so we cherish what we have now.

We all know a barrel theory: how much water a barrel can hold is not determined by the longest board, but by the shortest board.

The longest board is what we already have.

The shortest board is exactly what we don't have yet.

The shortest plank may determine the most profound logic in our life trajectory.