In other words, don't do everything too well, but give each other appropriate steps. Especially men! Love face very much! Give him enough face in front of everyone. Interpersonal communication influences each other. You give others face, and others will give you face in return. Therefore, if you want to have face, you must leave enough face for others.

Many people have studied the theory of action and reaction. This theory points out that when you apply a great force to an object, the object will react and give you an exactly equal force. This principle can also be applied to the process of starting from physics. Actually, that's it. When you respect others more, others will respect you more. In other words, if you know how to save face for others, you will save face for yourself.

The following short story may illustrate this principle.

Xiaoyu and a colleague went to Manhattan on business. Because there was still a little time before their first date that morning, they could have a leisurely breakfast. After ordering, Xiaoyu's colleagues went out to buy newspapers. Five minutes later, he came back empty-handed. He shook his head and muttered curses.

"What's the matter?" Xiao Yu asked.

He replied, "I went to the newsstand opposite, took a newspaper and handed the guy a ticket of $ 10." Instead of changing the money, he took the newspaper from my armpit. I was wondering, he began to teach me that his business is by no means changing money at this rush hour. "

They discussed the episode while eating. Xiaoyu's colleagues think that people here are arrogant and unreasonable, and they are all "bad guys". He won't let anyone change tickets for 10 again. After dinner, Xiaoyu accepted the challenge and asked his colleagues to watch him at the hotel gate. He crossed the road.

When the newsstand owner turned to Xiaoyu, he said smoothly, "excuse me, sir, I wonder if you can help me." I am a foreigner and need a copy of new york Times. But I only have one ticket for 10. What should I do? " The newsstand owner handed Xiaoyu a newspaper without hesitation: "Hey, take it and come back with change!" " "

Xiaoyu happily returned home with a "victory product". His companion shook his head, and then he called it "the miracle of 54th Street".

Xiao Yu said smoothly, "The reason why there are different effects lies in the method."

That's exactly what happened. In this game, the change of newsstand owners lies in the different attitudes of buyers. Only by respecting others can we get the guarantee of cooperation, and only in this case can we establish fairness and trust and exchange facts, attitudes, feelings and needs with each other. With this kind of free interaction and * * *