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Mother and daughter are blood relations, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are social relations.

Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been difficult to get along, either the mother-in-law dislikes the daughter-in-law, or the daughter-in-law dislikes the mother-in-law, the two people as natural enemies. But it hasn't occurred to me that mothers-in-law used to be daughters-in-law, and daughters-in-law will become mothers-in-law in the future, so do we have to let the tragedy continue from generation to generation?

Xiaomei knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, before marrying over, also asked his mother, wanting his mother to give himself some tips, and Xiaomei's mother as a man, advised his daughter Xiaomei: let her marry over the past do not be too virtuous, virtuous women are not good life in the life with the mother-in-law on the same day you want to do the first thing, that is, to go into the kitchen and cook, intentionally to the dish more salt, and then intentionally to cook the rice to make it more difficult to get along with the mother-in-law, the first thing to do is to go into the kitchen, and to cook the rice to make it more difficult for the mother-in-law. Salt, and then intentionally cook the rice to make it less tasty, and then finally when you wash the dishes, break a few more bowls.

And clearly inform your mother-in-law that you don't know how to cook, and you can't do the housework well, so that in the future you will not be called upon by your mother-in-law as a babysitter when you cook and do the housework, and if she suspects that you are doing it on purpose, then you will mess up the things that she arranges for a few times, so that in her heart she will feel that you can't do anything well, and you will not be bothered to do things in the future.

Xiaomei followed her mother's approach and did so on the day of her marriage. When her in-laws saw her cooking, they had trouble swallowing, so they had to let Xiaomei's husband order takeout, and her mother-in-law was very upset, saying that Xiaomei was such a big person, and that she couldn't cook very well, and that's not good!

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All in all, this approach made Xiaomei's in-laws decided that she could not cook well, but a few days later, her mother-in-law was going to teach Xiaomei how to cook, saying that the kitchen is the fireplace of the family, and that the family is only popular when there is fireworks.

We are so old that we can't always accompany your little one, in the future you have to rely on your own, this learning to cook, from my son in high school I taught, you married, is also half my daughter, in the future, the two of you live, can't always be a person to do the cooking, can be shared with each other, and that is the young people, don't try to save trouble point takeout, are not clean.

And, you now also immediately began to prepare for pregnancy, I'm here, you want to eat what you say to my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law as long as she can do, to ensure that you do it, usually you have nothing to do with my mother-in-law to learn to cook, and so I went back to the countryside, this cooking thing, is you and my son, you two who have the time who do, I'm old, do not wait for you.

Looking at her mother-in-law's seriousness and patience to teach herself how to cook, Xiaomei was also quite embarrassed by her previous behavior, and originally thought that she would intentionally break a bowl after dinner today, but looking at her mother-in-law like this, a little bit too hard to bear, so she canceled the behavior of breaking the bowl, and at night she also told her mother-in-law that she wanted to teach her how to cook.

But Xiaomei's mother said she was silly, don't get into the mother-in-law's trap, which mother-in-law will not say "I will treat you as a daughter like love", but this is the words of the scene, don't take it seriously, and she taught you to cook surely did not have any good intentions, the purpose of the teach you to make you call you the future of the 365 days, you'll be around the kitchen every day, mom was I've been there before, I'm not going to lie to you.

With her mother's advice and her mother-in-law's patience, Xiaomei didn't know what to do.

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At her mother-in-law's house, was it right to "deliberately cook badly"?

First of all, we have to know, cooking is an individual acquired skills, in this skill in many families is indispensable, and intentionally in-laws cooking is not good behavior purpose, the key is still do not want to go to the kitchen, or by the mother-in-law to make the call.

But it is worth mentioning that can often be called by the mother-in-law, every day into the kitchen, certainly with the mother-in-law live together, on the contrary, such a marriage with the mother-in-law live together, in fact, not much, most of the married, are the mother-in-law's home and their own small home is to live separately.

Xiaomei's worries, more straight point of view, is not their own opinion, will be mom's advice around, an adult, and is already married, to have their own discernment and opinion, the idea of the past does not mean that it applies to the present.

Of course, it is true that there is a daughter-in-law as a nanny mother-in-law, but for mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, I have always maintained the point of view that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law to have "boundaries and empathy", and children married, is already an independent body, parents can not be too much involvement, only in the big things, to mention a little neutral advice, can help! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that.

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How can a daughter-in-law get along with her mother-in-law? Do mothers-in-law really dislike their daughters-in-law?

Variety "friends please listen" He Gui said something: "mother-in-law does not like the daughter-in-law this matter, can not say that the mother-in-law is wrong. Because the mother-in-law itself is not obliged to like the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law likes the daughter-in-law, it should be the daughter-in-law's ability, not the mother-in-law should have the obligation."

Taste carefully He Gui's words, whether it is a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, the two actually have no obligations that need to be borne by each other, so why be hostile? Do not say mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who like, who do not like, between parents and children, may not always be able to do each other like, put a bowl of water leveling, does not contain selfishness, right?

In short, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, to accept the mother-in-law and their different, to respect each other's outlook and interests, if not the principle of a variety of issues, try to tolerate each other, each other, but also learn to lower expectations, maintain boundaries, think differently, then, in the family most of the conflicts, basically can be solved.