The movie "Everything about My Mom" greatly touched my tears, which of course has a lot to do with my being a very emotional person.

Before writing this film review, I went to Douban to have a look. To be honest, I was quite surprised.

First of all, its score is only 6.4, and I thought it could be at least 7.5. Then most of the content in the comment area is critical, saying that such movies only touched themselves and have no practical significance. Is it necessary to advocate that women must give everything for their families?

Some netizens said that Xu Fan's mother Ji Peizhen spoke in a really strange way. How can she be so outspoken? Some netizens hit the nail on the head and pointed out that because this is a movie and my mother died of cancer, my daughter and mother reconciled. If it happens in real life, my mother has been in good health, I'm afraid they will never reconcile.

Fortunately, looking down again, I can finally see some favorable comments, saying that it is true, and many plots have happened to myself and my mother. Another netizen answered the question about "Ji Peizhen's way and voice are so strange". She said that her mother is a teacher, which is really her usual way of speaking.

There is another detail in the movie. Ji Peizhen, who has been talking softly, saw her daughter sitting on the ground crying and suddenly snapped at her: "Stop crying and stand up!" At that moment, the image of the teacher who was not angry and arrogant suddenly came out, so in fact, I really can't blame Xu Fan for his poor acting skills. This is the characteristic of the character itself.

02

But I still have to say that this life is really tiring. From beginning to end, what we saw was Ji Peizhen's contribution, and her return was almost zero.

When she was young, she had a job she loved. She finally got the qualification to go to the Antarctic for scientific research, only to find that she was pregnant and had to give up and become a geography teacher.

I am proud that my daughter works in Beijing, but I am also worried about her marriage. I can't wait to introduce all the quality young people of the right age to my daughter.

My husband is a complete shopkeeper at home. He didn't even help the almost-dried pot in the kitchen, and turned a blind eye to his wife's care for her mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law suffers from Alzheimer's disease, just like a child. The nanny hired at home can't help her mother-in-law. Let her coax her mother-in-law to eat every time.

She also has an unworthy brother. When she was young, she called the police and sent him to a drug rehabilitation center. From then on, she fell in love with her. After she came out, she was addicted to gambling and owed a lot of debts. The debt collector caught up with her retirement party.

Such a life, even as a bystander, feels tired for her. But Ji Peizhen, who is in it, has long been used to all this. She has been paying in obscurity and never shows her dissatisfaction. At the same time, her image has always been positive and optimistic, as if nothing can beat her, just like all traditional mothers, supporting a family.

Some netizens said that maybe Ji Peizhen once fantasized about raising flowers, taking a walk and dancing square dance after retirement, but unfortunately she found out that she had cancer before she started. But I don't think any netizen thinks it is so beautiful. Ji Peizhen will only be more tired after retiring. She needs to spend 24 hours with her mother-in-law, do housework, help her husband find a leader to coordinate the work, and try her best to take care of her daughter who is far away from Beijing.

A cancer broke her original plan. She had enough time to take care of her family more carefully, but now she may only have four months, so she decided to speed up the progress and solve her daughter's lifelong event quickly.

So the contradiction broke out at once. Being poked by her mother, her daughter became angry. She lost control and screamed at the top of her lungs. She said that she came to Beijing to escape from her mother. She was tired of her mother's care since she was a child.

At that moment, Ji Peizhen, who always thought she was a good mother, was shocked. She really didn't ask for anything in return and was content with such self-touching, but now her daughter has ruthlessly broken her fantasy. The blow may be even greater than when she learned that she had cancer.

But she pulled herself together, just like she used to be hit every time. She is always so strong, even if she is not understood by her daughter, she secretly goes to her daughter's boyfriend, the man who has a family early. When her daughter asked her again if she could mind her own business, she blurted out, "I'm afraid it's too late." Mother and daughter finally made up and hugged each other and cried.

Even a strong mother like Ji Peizhen didn't work miracles and finally left this world. The only consolation is that before she left, her mother-in-law seemed to have signs of sobriety, and her husband came out of the trauma of previous medical accidents and stood on the operating table again; My brother turned over a new leaf and finally began to live a down-to-earth life; Daughter, engaged in the work she once loved, became an Antarctic expedition member.

But this comfort makes people feel wronged. Everyone's life has improved, and those who deserve a better life will never see it again.

03

After watching the movie, I didn't think of my mother, but my grandmother.

Of course, she is not as good as Ji Peizhen, just an ordinary rural woman. But if you really write down her life, you will find that she is very similar to Ji Peizhen. Perhaps this is the life of many women in China.

Grandma only gave birth to two daughters, my mother and my aunt. To this end, she has been wronged countless times, scolded by her mother-in-law and laughed at by the villagers. She only secretly shed tears behind her back and then worked harder.

Aunt married Yunnan far away, and she was not at ease. She went to Yunnan with her grandfather to help her with her business. Grandma is very hardworking. She also learned to make her own snacks after visiting the store. She set up a stall next to the school, selling egg rolls, noodles, bubble tea and all the snacks that children like. She said that only when you have money can you be confident, so you are not afraid of your daughter being bullied. However, she still had a conflict with her aunt's mother-in-law. In order not to embarrass her daughter, she followed her grandfather back without hesitation.

After coming back, she was not idle. She continued to do business in the facade prepared by my mother. She learned to make wine and sweet potato powder. Because the upstairs residents complained that she was making wine and burning fire, she went back to her hometown with her grandfather without saying anything, and then asked us to help her sell it. Once, she called and said that she was thinking about how to make tofu, and if she succeeded, she would send us some to try.

My grandmother has only received primary education, but she loves to study hard. As long as she wants to learn, there is nothing she can't learn. However, like Ji Peizhen, she is already very uncomfortable, but she always wants to endure it. I can't take it anymore. When I went to the hospital for a check-up, it was hopeless.

When she is in the emergency room and her two daughters are far away, her husband will just cry outside: "What can I do without you?" I can't even cook. "

After grandma left, I learned a lot that I didn't know before. For example, she gets up at three or four every morning to make a fire and make wine. Once, she was too sleepy to see the fire and almost caught fire. I never understood why she worked so hard to make money. Obviously, she and her grandfather don't have to spend any money, and her grandfather still has a pension of more than 3 thousand yuan every month. It was not until menstruation cried that grandma often called her and said that she earned more money that the pressure on her two daughters was less.

At that moment, I suddenly figured it out. Maybe it is best for grandma to leave, because it is too difficult to live in this world. She died slowly in the intensive care unit, but the doctor said that the patient had a poor sense of survival. Then I think she didn't die, just because she wanted to see her two daughters one last time.

This is my grandmother. Like Ji Peizhen, she only lives for her family all her life.

04

But my mother is different, or she was like Ji Peizhen in the first half of her life, and then she changed.

Before my mother turned 40, all her thoughts were on her family. She raised three children. Although she didn't go out to work, she had a great investment vision and hoarded countless facades and houses.

Then suddenly one day, she felt that she couldn't live like this with my dad any longer, so she decisively filed for divorce. Everyone advised her that my dad doesn't smoke, drink or gamble, and he is already a rare good man. After divorcing my dad, can she find something better in the future? Some people pushed our three sisters in front of her to let her think about the children.

But my mother thinks that cold and heat are the most important things for two people all their lives, and she has never felt my father's thoughtfulness since the wedding day. She thinks this is not a normal relationship between husband and wife. As for the children, she repeatedly stressed that even if she divorced my father, she would always care about the three children, and she was still our mother.

When I was young, I also complained about my mother, and even thought that she was too naive to yearn for love after forty. But now, occasionally chatting with her in video or even looking at her through the screen, you can feel her confidence and happiness from the inside out, which can't be given to her by more than 20 years of marriage. Life is only a few decades. Who am I to ask her to work with my dad for life?

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Then I thought of myself. What kind of woman do I want to be in the future?

Maybe this is the message of this movie. It is by no means asking all women to live for their families like Ji Peizhen, nor is it criticizing this lifestyle. It just wants us to think about our life in combination with reality.

I don't want to be a housewife or a strong woman. It is difficult to balance work and family at the same time, but we can learn to "summon" the other half in marriage.

Whether it is Ji Peizhen's husband, my grandfather or my father, their roles as husbands are actually missing, so in my marriage, I hope to fight side by side with my husband and jointly defend our family.

Let dad be a home, let mom be a home. Only in this world can children grow up happily.

As a woman in the 2 1 century, she should learn to put herself first, her husband second, and her children and parents third (children and parents should consider the actual situation. When children are young, we put their children first, and their parents are old, so we put their parents first).

May we all live for ourselves!