My wallet has shrunk a lot recently, so I can't catch up with many dinners. In the past two months, I have invited the university monitor who participated in the activities in Shanghai, the university deskmate who came to Shanghai for training, and the university roommate who moved from Shenzhen to Shanghai for dinner. Although I am a little reluctant, I still have to do my best as a landlord. It's not because I'm afraid of spending money. I'm mainly thinking about what I haven't done since I graduated for almost four years. I feel embarrassed to meet them and I'm afraid they will ask.
and that's the truth. The more you want to avoid certain topics, the more people want to find out. Because the job I changed in March is a completely unfamiliar field, I really don't want to explain it to them more, and it seems that I understand more and more why many people are most afraid of class reunion or something. I haven't seen each other for several years after graduation, so it's inevitable that everyone will compare with each other. As a result, every time I see one, I really want to find a hole to get into.
The other day, the monitor of the university who had not contacted for a long time suddenly asked on WeChat: Sister Juan, are you there? I don't know why I saw such news, but I subconsciously felt that there was nothing good. She said that she studied in Britain last year and came back early after her defense. Now the school has reissued graduation ceremonies for China students in Beijing and Shanghai. She is from Chongqing, so she naturally chose Shanghai. She also said that many students in Shanghai, especially I must meet them.
So I made an appointment with her and invited her to dinner the Saturday she came. Later, she joined another classmate in our class who was also in Shanghai. She was a member of our class's cultural and sports committee. I was a member of our class's study committee in college, and we joked that the class cadres got together at once. They are fellow villagers and high school classmates. I don't know the members of the Cultural and Sports Committee very well, and I don't know that she is in Shanghai, so I have basically no contact.
thinking that they eat hot pot all day in Chongqing, I specially found a Jiangsu and Zhejiang cuisine restaurant with good comments on the public comments. At dinner, they asked me about my work. I never liked to tell others about my work, so I probably said it. Which foreigner is easy in Shanghai? The salary is not high, the monthly rent accounts for the bulk, and there is nothing to eat or anything.
Our monitor, after graduation, worked as a teacher in an IELTS training institution, and after one year, he went to study in the UK, with a tuition fee of several tens of thousands. She said that she had been playing at home for half a year, and she would not go to work until September this year when she returned to China last September. I just got a job at the beginning of the year, and I am one of the four key high schools directly under Chongqing. I get a salary of 7K+ and other benefits. This salary is really ok in Chongqing. According to her, she booked another aristocratic private school before, and the treatment was better, but she was still a little uneasy about thinking that there was no establishment after all.
Let's talk about our cultural and sports committee. After graduation, she went to Australia to study abroad, watched her friends circle run around the world, and dried all kinds of brand-name bags and lipsticks. I didn't recognize many brands. It is said that I am now in a consulting company, living in a single apartment in Xujiahui, with a rent of 4K+, and never cooking for three meals a day. I always feel that such a life is far away from me.
One day last month, my deskmate at the university who had not contacted me since graduation suddenly sent me a message on WeChat. Everyone has always thought that she has disappeared, never sent a circle of friends, never praised her classmates, and had no idea what this person was busy with. When our classmates chatted, they all wondered if this person had disappeared. It's the same old story: Sister Juan, are you there? She said that she is now in Shanghai, and the company sent her to attend two weeks of training. I said: Oh, I haven't seen you for a long time. Let's invite you to dinner this weekend.
This time, I found a online celebrity shop online, and we waited in line for two hours before eating. Her hometown is Deyang, Sichuan, and now she works in Chengdu. It takes her a few minutes to get to her home by high-speed train, but she seldom goes home. After listening to her, I still don't know what she is doing now. It is probably related to the loan. It is said that the original boss left to start a new company. She came with many former colleagues and everything is familiar, so it is easy to do.
She said that she bought a house in Chengdu at the beginning of last year, and her parents supported her down payment. Now she pays about 3,111 yuan a month, and she will pay the house next year. I envy, the mortgage is only 3K, which is the price for renting a better house in Shanghai. She said that she would stay in Chengdu in the future. Anyway, it is close to home, and Chengdu is developing very well now. It's incredible that one of the few girls around me bought a house.
At the end of August last year, my college roommate sent me a message saying that I had gone to Shanghai, and I have been staying in Shanghai since then. I asked when I was free to get together. At that time, because I was busy with exams, I didn't have time to go to class on weekends. Later, she got a job, worked as an English teacher in a training institution and had classes on weekends, so we never got together. I changed my job and moved this year, and we are only separated by a subway station. While we were both on holiday, I cooked at home and invited her to dinner and a movie.
My roommate studied journalism and minored in English. I remember that we were all preparing for the TEM-4 exam in college. She stayed up late every day to catch up with the drama. Later, after failing TEM-4, she began to regret that she should study hard. Later, when we were preparing for the TEM-8 exam, she was still busy chasing dramas on Taobao. In the end, she seemed to have survived with 61 points. After graduation, she went to an educational institution in Shenzhen as a teacher, and stayed in Shanghai for almost three years, saying that she wanted to be close to her family. Her hometown is Inner Mongolia, and her parents are retired in her hometown. She has nothing to do with her old classmates to have afternoon tea and dance in the square dance (as she said in her original words), and sometimes she comes to help her brother's family take care of the children. My brother has settled down in Shanghai. It seems that I bought a duplex in Hongkou a few years ago, more than 8 million. Her brother went to college in Shanghai, and now she is an executive of Yili, and her sister-in-law is from Shanghai, who runs her own musical instrument store.
The other day, she said that she had resigned. I asked why suddenly, this job didn't last long. She said there was a new offer and it was still under consideration. Then on Friday night, she wanted to ask me out for a walk. I was eating with my friends outside, so we made an appointment to walk in Tongji playground on Sunday night. I've always thought that work and salary are personal, and I didn't want to inquire about them, and I'm afraid she didn't want to talk about them, but she said a lot herself. Her current salary seems to be similar to mine, saying that it was the 15k that was set at the beginning. Later, her supervisor saw that she was determined to leave, and just had a good opportunity to recommend it to her, or a training institution. That's what she said, which is lucky. People directly talked to her about her annual salary, 25W. God, I was so shocked after hearing it.
I was a little insomnia on Sunday night. I was thinking not only about my roommate, but also about the classmates in front. I don't know why there is such a big gap between us a few years after graduation, and I think I have worked harder than any of them since I graduated from college.
It was late that day, and I couldn't help chatting with my friends. My friends said you were jealous, but I said yes. Jealousy is because I think I work hard, but in the end it seems that I can't compare with them. On the contrary, the gap between us seems to be getting bigger and bigger. My friend told me that everyone lives in a different environment. Since she was a child, many of her friends played all day, but they were among the top in the exam. My classmates didn't get the college diploma, and now their salary is 31-41w. She said that she had long looked down on these things, because the society was unfair. Why did some people have a good family and pampered themselves from childhood, while others did not have enough to eat? What we have to do is to do well in the present and not to compare with others.
indeed, don't compare with others, otherwise you will be very unhappy, and you can control the pace of your life by yourself.
My university monitor stayed at home for half a year after studying abroad, and said that he always wanted to go out for a walk. I said go there, taking advantage of so much time now. She said that a person doesn't know where to go, and it seems that he doesn't want to leave when he is used to staying at home. She said that he is a little worried about going to work in September ...
That cultural and sports committee member is full of big names, and her circle of friends is also full of famous brands. None of our classmates give her praise and comments, because she always feels like floating in the air, and few people in the university are close to her.
My former university deskmate is a 11-minute drive from home, but she almost never goes home on weekends and holidays. I asked her what she did on weekends, and she said that she stayed up late to play drama and games, just like in college. She went to bed at several o'clock in the morning, and went to bed even later on weekends. When she woke up, it was almost afternoon. After several years in Chengdu, it seems that she has never been anywhere.
My roommate, who was fine in college, seems to speak a little ungrounded now. I said that I talked about several boyfriends, from Jiaotong University and Tongji University. It seems that they are all inappropriate, and I feel that I am too picky. She felt that it was inconvenient to live in her brother's house. She rented her own house not long after coming to Shanghai last year. The monthly salary was not high, but she was willing to rent more than 3,111 houses. One person lived in a spacious house of more than 41 square meters. On Sunday evening, she took me to her house to have a look. Last time she came to my house, I said that I felt that we couldn't compete with each other when I saw her house. She said that she just wanted to be nice to herself. That's what I said. Look at the rubbish piled up on her desk. Before she entered the door, she gave me a vaccination and said that the room was a little messy. When I opened the door, it was full of snack bags and unused napkins, and the shoes on the floor were all in a mess. I joked that it would take several minutes to find a complete pair. Why not buy a shoe rack?
With these thoughts in mind, I don't seem to be so envious of them. Because I think I am very happy now, and my work is getting started. I can take time to do yoga, read books and participate in various activities to meet interesting friends.
My friend said that there are a lot of bloated people these days, so don't compare with others, just be yourself.
Yes, no one can disturb the rhythm of your life, and walk firmly at your own pace.
PS: I finished reading a book "Change Your Clothes, Change Your Life" yesterday, which is very exciting. I recommend it to you ~
Just when I was writing this article, a very good friend of the university, WeChat, told me that I was getting married at the Dragon Boat Festival. We both come from rural families. Once she was very worried, saying that she was from a poor family and looked ordinary, thinking that she would never meet the right person again. Last year, she saw that her circle of friends finally found the prince charming, and wished her the best. I don't know where my TA is. I'll wait for you on the way to becoming excellent, okay?