Most families are grandparents or parents who take care of their children. The problem of intergenerational education is a thorn in every mother's side. I believe this is the personal experience of every mother. What should a mother do when her child's education conflicts with her mother-in-law? Smart mother has four clever tricks. Let's learn them.
"Grandparents' educational concepts are backward and not suitable for babies." "What do you know so young? I taught your husband! " ..... "intergenerational education" is really a thorn in every family's heart!
Case 1: the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law "conflict" and call the police to leave us.
Fuqing Wei Qiao Border Police Station received an alarm from Wu Mou, a villager in its jurisdiction, saying that there was a "conflict" in his family and asked the police to stop it. Border guards rushed to the scene and found an old lady and a young woman fighting! It turns out that one is his mother and the other is his wife. They often quarrel about how to educate their children. Daughter-in-law loves to buy toys and clothes for her son, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law, it is really a waste; The daughter-in-law pondered teaching the baby to count, write and draw, but the mother-in-law said, "Why learn these useless things?" In this way, the differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law grew bigger and bigger, they quarreled endlessly, and then they fought.
Case 2: Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law argue all day about baby education, and her husband is afraid to return to China.
Mr. Long of Caijiashibao in Yuzhong District looks depressed. In order to cultivate her son's independence, since he was two years old, his wife asked him to do what he could, such as washing his socks and handkerchiefs, but every time his mother would intervene. When the son does something wrong, the mother will act as an umbrella for the child when his wife educates him. In the end, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reached the point of "with her without me, with me without her", and Mr. Long, who was in a dilemma, had to leave home and live in a hotel.
Grandparents dote on their grandchildren, hoping to give them the best and not let them suffer a little; But nowadays, most of the daughter-in-law are professional women with high academic qualifications and IQ. They are avant-garde and demand independence. When there is "intergenerational education" in the family, it is inevitable that there will be "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fighting".
Mom, look here! Clever mother skillfully solved four small problems of intergenerational education!
Question 1: heavy taste! Complementary food is always cooked too salty.
Mother-in-law's reason: children should have good taste and eat salty food vigorously.
Smart mother has a coup:
Coup 1: Open the Tik Tok mode. Eating salty food can cause all kinds of diseases, blabla…… ... ...
Eating too much salt is bad for the heart and kidneys. First of all, spread this concept to the elderly. Don't just say that children should eat less salt. When they accept this view, they will further "brainwash": children who eat so salty at such a young age will probably get high blood pressure, heart disease and kidney disease when they grow up. ...
Coup 2: skillfully use the aura of the doctor's "imperial edict", you have to accept it!
Baby's delicate skin will inevitably have some rashes and acne. If you take your baby to see a doctor, even if it's not because of salty food, you should "convey" the doctor's words when you come back: "If you eat salty food again, there will be more and more acne on your face, and it will become ugly if you can't cure it." Who doesn't want his grandson to be clean in vain?
Question 2: Enough! Adults and babies wash clothes together.
Mother-in-law's reason: save water.
Smart mother has a coup:
Coup 1: The person who can't see it is sauce. Wash it yourself, dear!
Although the old man helps to look after the children, he still has to do what he can. And this will not only give you a good reputation of "diligence", but also ensure the cleanliness of your baby's clothes. Why not?
Coup 2: I am a local tyrant. Who am I afraid of? Buy buy will buy it!
To buy a special washing machine for children, just wipe off the spots on the baby's clothes, then put them all in a small washing machine and rinse them with soap powder for the baby several times. Mother-in-law is carefree and happy, and there will be no problem.
Question 3: Spending money indiscriminately? Should I buy branded toiletries for my baby?
Mother-in-law's reason: How can a child be so melodramatic and so mean?
Smart mother has a coup:
Coup 1: Get to the point, Virgo daughter-in-law!
Patiently put facts and reason, and told her mother-in-law: "I also bought a cheap one. But after giving it to the baby, he always scratches his head and body, which is almost rotten. And you can only use one or two bottles a year at most. If you catch yourself with something wrong, it will be more expensive to see a doctor ... "Believe me, as long as you persist enough, you will win one day.
Coup 2: Shrimp? You are always mistaken. I didn't buy it.
Killing skills! Don't let the old man know the price, or tell him it's from the company or friends. I just want to bury the owner of the flower, Qian Qian, in my heart.
Question 4: Great difference! Should I wear more clothes or less clothes?
Mother-in-law's reason: the child is weak, and it is easy to freeze if she wears less.
Smart mother has a coup:
Coup 1: "brainwashing" at the right time
When the whole family goes out to play or exercise together, find an opportunity to let an old man undress when he feels hot: "Why don't I feel hot?" Oh, that's because you are very active. It is estimated that the baby is active and must always feel hotter than us. "Older people are more likely to be persuaded when they have personal feelings.
Coup 2: asking too much is a protracted war!
Tell the elderly that children who wear too much clothes and don't like to talk and don't like sports will develop slowly, move slowly and be more stupid than other children. After going to kindergarten, you will be very wronged. Any bigger, if the physical education is not up to standard, it will not be able to go to a key school ...
Grandma, look here! Nine unavoidable problems in intergenerational education!
1. Old people need to avoid telling their children. If they don't listen, they won't kiss you and don't want you-undermining the children's sense of security.
2. Old people need to avoid everything for children's daily life-affecting the formation of children's sense of responsibility, the cultivation of self-care, the development of hand-eye coordination and motor coordination.
3. Old people need to avoid worrying about children's safety and hygiene, and don't let children move here and play there, for fear that children's clothes are dirty and their bodies are unsanitary, which limits children's normal exploration-affecting children's curiosity, exploration spirit, adventurous spirit, self-confidence and immune development.
4. Old people should avoid loving their children and being unwilling to eat delicious food, or saying that grandparents are unwilling to give their babies delicious food when their children have delicious food for the old people-let children form all bad habits of self-centeredness, selfishness and ingratitude.
Old people should avoid Chinese etiquette and force children to say hello to strangers-etiquette should be cultivated, but the formation of children's self-awareness and self-protection awareness can not be ignored.
6. Old people should avoid indulging their children too much and not adhering to principles and rules, especially when children are crying-affecting their sense of order, rules and self-discipline.
7. The elderly should understand the basic knowledge of emotional management, correctly understand emotions, and avoid suppressing children's reasonable emotions. For example, say to your child, don't cry, hold back, cry again and you will be beaten, and cry during the New Year, jinx-suppress your child's normal emotions.
8. Old people should not treat junk food as treasures, carbonated drinks, candied fruit, snacks, fried dough sticks, fried dumplings produced by KFC, McDonald's and small workshops. As long as the children say they want to eat, the old people try to satisfy them-pigments, essences, preservatives, excessive fat, waste oil and reused oil, which are harmful to the children's health.
When parents discipline their children, the elderly should avoid playing the role of protector. When their parents discipline their children, they can't tell right from wrong, which makes them feel supported by others and learn to exploit loopholes. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if everyone is more considerate, there will naturally be fewer disputes. Family harmony can provide a healthy environment for the growth of babies. Since everyone is good for the baby, why not think of him and give him a healthy and happy family atmosphere?