Socrates once said: Don't get friends by giving gifts, you must contribute your sincere love and learn how to win a person's heart in a proper way. ? It can be seen that social etiquette is the scale and criterion that people should violate in the social process. China with its? An ancient civilization, a state of etiquette? Famous in the world, talk? A gift? Heavy? Musical instrument? It is an excellent tradition handed down from generation to generation by the Chinese nation, and the long-standing etiquette culture is a rich legacy left by our ancestors. Today, when China is more open, etiquette not only embodies rich and excellent historical traditions, but also has distinct connotation of the times. With the increasingly frequent communication between people and countries, it is particularly important to pay attention to etiquette and reciprocity and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship. Therefore, it is one of the basic prerequisites for everyone to stand on the society, and it is also an important condition for people to achieve their careers and get a better life. Below, I will elaborate the related introduction and personal etiquette experience of modern social etiquette from various aspects. Keywords: an overview of the origin, necessity and practical significance of etiquette knowledge

First, an overview of social etiquette

So-called? Social etiquette? At first, it refers to the ceremonial ceremony held in accordance with some conventions on larger grand occasions to show respect and friendship to the guests. Later, according to the needs of interpersonal communication in social life, it gradually developed into a broad sense of etiquette, that is, moral norms, codes of conduct, etiquette, rules and regulations formed by customs and habits in social life and observed by everyone.

Modern social etiquette generally refers to the code of conduct and norms that people should abide by in the social process. Specific performance is etiquette, courtesy, ceremony, instrument, etc. It can be said that etiquette is a business card for interpersonal communication. Politeness can help us? Standardize behavior and learn to treat people; Create a good image and win social respect; Building a bridge of friendship is the road to success. ? Etiquette can also help us succeed and create a happy life? Pass? . Therefore, it is one of the basic prerequisites for everyone to stand on the society, and it is also an important condition for people to achieve their careers and get a better life.

Etiquette is the premise of interpersonal communication and the key to communicative life. Social competence is the ability to live in harmony with others in a group or group. People are social people. It is hard to imagine what a person's life would be like without society and communication with others. If someone exists, he must associate with others. When we go out into the society, we will deal with all kinds of people. Whether you can get others' support and help in dealing with people will involve your own ability. It can be said that etiquette is a business card for interpersonal communication, and civilized etiquette can help us? Standardize behavior and learn to treat people; Create a good image and win social respect; Building a bridge of friendship is the road to success. ?

Second, the root and necessity of etiquette

Human etiquette develops and changes with the development of productive forces, the expansion of interpersonal scale and the change of people's aesthetic standards. The ceremony can be traced back to ancient times. Since the emergence of man, the relationship between man and nature, the communication between people, etiquette has occurred and developed. From the relationship between man and nature, etiquette originated from the primitive religious sacrifice movement; From the perspective of interpersonal relationship, etiquette stems from the need of human beings to coordinate the contradiction between subjective and objective. Etiquette, in short, is to be civilized and decent in the social process, so that the other party can accept you sincerely, so as to truly achieve the same purpose of communication and make the whole process harmonious and beautiful. Modern social etiquette generally refers to the code of conduct and norms that people should cooperate with and abide by in the process of social movements. Reflected in etiquette, courtesy, ceremony, appearance and so on. I think I have developed a lot during my study. First of all, I realized that due to regional differences, civilized manners have their limitations. We should grasp the scale of civilized etiquette and understand that civilized etiquette also has its limitations, that is, the etiquette of meeting requires us to conform to the general rules and do as the Romans do?

College students are a group with high level of knowledge. In today's China society, they have been regarded as intellectuals, and they are also the leaders and pillars of China's future development. On the moral level, they should put forward higher requirements on etiquette cultivation. The pursuit of individuality is the characteristic of contemporary young people. Some college students regard ugliness as personality in the process of pursuing outstanding personality. Many uncivilized, impolite, even ugly, stale and vulgar things are regarded as? Fashion? 、? Handsome? In today's university campus, you can often see disheveled people, misbehaving people, swearing people, spitting people, and so on. For example, it thunders when the door is closed, you never introduce yourself on the phone, you are no longer polite to the teacher, and you take a lunch box while eating. These undesirable phenomena are not isolated, but are becoming more and more common.

So it is ready, eager to learn etiquette and inherit culture.

Third, the relevant etiquette knowledge [2]

The social etiquette we have learned involves all aspects: including personal etiquette, public etiquette, communication etiquette, communication etiquette, social etiquette, party etiquette, catering etiquette and so on. Through these studies of etiquette, I understand that etiquette is a routine that must be observed in interpersonal communication, and it is a conventional form, that is, a conventional practice in interpersonal communication.

Etiquette can be divided into several parts, personal etiquette, communication etiquette, catering etiquette and so on.

Personal etiquette, including a person's appearance, manners, clothing, etc. Each of us should pay attention to our personal manners. A person's dress and behavior are not only related to the other person's impression of his personal image, but also the most vivid display of personal education and quality.

Catering etiquette, as its name implies, is the code of conduct that should be observed when eating. Seating arrangement, toast etiquette and dining rules are often used in social occasions. If you can follow the etiquette rules, others will think you are a very polite person. On the contrary, you will think that you are impolite and even affect your study and career.

Public etiquette refers to the etiquette norms that people should abide by in public places. It is one of the important parts of social etiquette, and it is also the basic quality that people should have in communication and entertainment.

The content of social etiquette is very universal and profound, pointing directly at our civilization accomplishment, containing our cultural accomplishment, interpreting our personality and mentality, and marking our life taste. {Other specific etiquette details are not detailed here}

Fourth, the practical significance.

Wang Shouren, a great scholar in Ming Dynasty, said? Knowing is the idea of doing, and doing is the kung fu of knowing; Knowing is the beginning of doing, and doing is the achievement of knowing; Knowing and doing is noumenon and kung fu. Knowing and not doing it is just unknown. ? To learn social etiquette, we must be one of knowing and doing, be consistent in words and deeds, and behave gracefully. Self-confidence is a valuable psychological essence in social situations. A confident person can be modest and generous in communication, not ashamed of the strong, not discouraged when encountering difficulties, dare to stand up and fight back when encountering bullying, and lend a helping hand when encountering the weak; A person who lacks self-confidence will touch his nose everywhere, causing shit to run out. Self-confident, but not self-confident, people who think they are great and have always been confident tend to go to the extreme of self-confidence, being pretentious in everything, disrespecting others and embarrassing them.