Indeed, wine, as a media, plays a unique role in welcoming guests, gathering friends, communicating and passing on friendship. Therefore, exploring the "mystery" on the wine table will help you seek the success of communication.
1, enjoy the whole people, don't whisper.
Most banquets have more guests, so try to talk about topics that most people can participate in and get the approval of most people. Because of different personal hobbies and knowledge, the topic should not be too biased as far as possible, so as not to be dominated by one family, far apart, and talk endlessly, leading to digression and ignoring everyone. Tip-Party Adventure
In particular, try not to whisper to others and give others a sense of mystery, which will often cause jealousy of "just the two of you" and affect the effect of drinking.
2, aim at both sides, grasp the overall situation
Most banquets have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When you go to eat, you should first look at the expressions around you and prioritize. Don't drink for the sake of drinking, and you lose a good chance to make friends, let alone let some grandstanding drinkers disturb the host's meaning.
3. Appropriate language and humor
Sprinkle on the table, you can show a person's talent, common sense, self-cultivation and communication etiquette. Sometimes a humorous language will leave a deep impression on the guests and make people feel good about you invisibly. Therefore, it is very important to know when to say something, to use appropriate language, and to be humorous.
4, moderate persuasion, don't force.
On the wine table, we often encounter the phenomenon of persuading wine. Some people always like to regard the wine field as a battlefield and try their best to persuade others to drink more, thinking that it is unrealistic to drink enough.
"Talk about heroes with wine" is ok for people who drink a lot, but it is difficult for people who drink less. Sometimes, excessive persuasion will completely destroy the feelings of the original friends.
5. Toast in an orderly way, with clear priorities.
Baking bread is also a science. Generally speaking, a toast should be made in the order of age, position and the status of the guest and the host. Before toasting, we must fully consider the order of toasting and distinguish between primary and secondary. In order to drink with people you don't know, you should first inquire about your identity or pay attention to what others call you so as not to be embarrassed or hurt your feelings.
When toasting, you must grasp the order of toasting. If you want to have a guest at the dinner table, you should be respectful to him, but you should pay attention to the fact that if someone with higher status or older people is present, you should not only be respectful to those who can help you, but also propose a toast to the respected elders first, otherwise everyone will be embarrassed.
6. Read words and understand people's hearts.
If you want to get everyone's appreciation on the wine table, you must learn to read and read. Because when dealing with people, we must understand people's hearts, so that we can play a good role on the wine table.
7, the edge is gradually exposed, sit firmly on Mount Tai.
At the banquet, you should see the occasion clearly, correctly evaluate your own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to keep some alcohol and talk, don't let others underestimate yourself and don't show yourself too much, choose the right time and gradually radiate your own edge, so as to sit firmly on Mount Tai and not give others the idea of "this ability", so that everyone can't underestimate your strength.
Praise the Lord's name before meals and praise the Lord after meals.
Not picky about food is commendable.
Guests who fast may not fast.
Eat nearby and advise people who don't know the etiquette of eating.
It is forbidden to continuously feed dates and other companions into your mouth.
Eat from the edge of the plate, not from the middle.
You can't eat by yourself.
Eat with three fingers
Blow it into a disgusting drink.
It is better to sit down and drink water than to stand and watch.
It is very stressful to be proposed a toast without preparation. The best solution at this time is to say how you feel. Toast never takes long. If you are asked to make a toast unprepared, you can say something simple to get out of trouble, such as "I say hello to Ken, and God bless you." Or "Say hello to our good friend and boss Greta"
But if you want to be more elegant and eloquent, you will want to add some memories, praises and related stories or jokes. However, a toast should be appropriate to the occasion. A sense of humor rarely seems out of place, but the toast at the wedding should focus on emotion, the toast to retired employees should focus on nostalgia, and so on.
At dinner parties, toasting is usually the priority of the host or hostess. If there is no toast, the guest can toast the host. If one of the hosts makes a toast first, the guest can make a toast in the second place.
There is usually a hostess when a ceremony is held. If there is no hostess, the chairman of the organizing Committee will make the necessary toast after the meal and before the speech. On less formal occasions, you can propose a toast after wine and champagne are served. The toaster doesn't have to drink the wine in the cup. One sip at a time is enough.
You can't touch any alcoholic drinks, including wine, even when toasting. When handing wine, of course you can refuse, and raise the goblet with soda water when toasting. In the past, there was no toast unless it was an alcoholic drink, but today all kinds of drinks can be used to toast. In any case, you should stand up and join this activity, at least you should not sit in your seat with great disrespect.
"Catering Etiquette" is the general term of catering etiquette, catering etiquette system, catering etiquette, catering etiquette and other concepts. Among them, food etiquette is the social norm and moral norm that people should follow in their food activities; Food etiquette system is a food system and an important scripture confirmed by the national etiquette law; Dietary etiquette is a variety of ceremonies held ceremoniously at the banquet to show some respect; Dietary customs and habits are related to etiquette, etiquette system and etiquette, and have been circulating among the people for a long time. Catering courtesy is a daily code of conduct to show respect and friendship in catering activities. Dietary etiquette is a comprehensive evaluation of the degree of dietary etiquette and dietary etiquette. In a word, food ceremony, as an important part of "ceremony", is a vivid embodiment of social norms and laws and regulations in drinking and feasting, civilized education and communication norms in catering activities, as well as the appearance, manners, demeanor and temperament of people and hosts attending the banquet.
Dietary rituals cover a wide range and can be classified in many ways. If divided by time, there are primitive social food rituals, slave social food rituals, feudal social food rituals, capitalist social food rituals and socialist social food rituals; According to ethnic groups, there are Han people's food rituals and ethnic minority food rituals; According to the class, there are royal palace dishes, government officials dishes, military camp soldiers dishes, academy literati dishes, market merchants dishes, bank craftsmen dishes, urban residents dishes and rural farmers dishes. Geographically, there are food etiquette in Northeast China, North China, Northwest China, East China, South China and Southwest China. According to their uses, there are various kinds of food gifts, such as offering sacrifices to ancestors, respecting teachers, respecting sages and supporting the elderly, birthday banquets, wedding and funeral banquets, New Year's greetings, farewell banquets, poetry and songs parties, social gatherings, catering by various gangs, folk entertainment and so on, with rich forms and contents. From emperors and princes to ordinary people, they all have extensive contacts with it and rely on it for social communication.
China has been a "state of etiquette" and a "state of food etiquette" since ancient times. Understanding ceremony, practice ceremony, observation ceremony and attention ceremony have a long history. The Book of Rites records that "the beginning of husband's ceremony begins with diet." The earliest food ceremony was directly related to the ancient ritual of offering sacrifices to the gods. In this regard, there is a general description in the Book of Rites, to the effect that the ancestors of primitive society baked millet and pork pieces on burning stones for food, dug holes in the ground as wine bottles for drinking with their hands, and beat the earthen drums with long mallets tied with thatch to show their reverence and sacrifice to ghosts and gods. Later, the food ceremony expanded from the communication between people and ghosts to the communication between people, in order to adjust the increasingly complex social relations, and gradually formed the "five pre-Qin ceremonies" such as auspicious ceremony, fierce ceremony, military ceremony, guest ceremony and good ceremony, which laid the cornerstone of the ancient food ceremony system.
After the birth of the food ceremony, in order to make it better play the role of "governing the country, governing the country, making the people and benefiting future generations", Duke Zhou first revised his theological concept, put forward the ideas of "respecting morality" and "respecting Taoism", and made some specific regulations on the banquets of the royal family and princes through the system of rites and music. Then, the three masters of the Confucian school-Confucius, Mencius and Xunzi-continued to standardize food etiquette, supplemented the connotations of benevolence, righteousness, propriety and law, expanded the ethical relationship between adults, and "separated by etiquette" to eliminate disasters and solve problems. Their students also elaborated and enriched the predecessors' theories, and finally formed three classic works, Zhou Li, Yi Li and Li Ji, which became the core and soul of the feudal patriarchal clan system for thousands of years. Because of the emphasis on "people are rude, things can't be rude, countries are rude, and there is no peace", etiquette such as food ceremony has become the social norm and moral norm of the aristocratic hierarchy in slave society and feudal society, and has become an ideological tool to maintain the system of oppression and exploitation. However, there are some positive and healthy contents in ancient food etiquette, that is, the code of conduct between people and the etiquette of banquets and restaurants. In the long-term spreading process, it has been accepted by the broad masses of working people and evolved into various reasonable food etiquette and customs, which has become one of the outstanding cultural traditions of the Chinese nation.
"Catering Etiquette" is the general term of catering etiquette, catering etiquette system, catering etiquette, catering etiquette and other concepts. Among them, food etiquette is the social norm and moral norm that people should follow in their food activities; Food etiquette system is a food system and an important book affirmed by the national etiquette law; Dietary etiquette is a variety of ceremonies held ceremoniously at the banquet to show some respect; Dietary customs and habits are related to etiquette, etiquette system and etiquette, and have been circulating among the people for a long time. Catering courtesy is a daily code of conduct to show respect and friendship in catering activities. Dietary etiquette is a comprehensive evaluation of the degree of dietary etiquette and dietary etiquette. In a word, food ceremony, as an important part of "ceremony", is a vivid embodiment of social norms and laws and regulations in drinking and feasting, civilized education and communication norms in catering activities, as well as the appearance, manners, demeanor and temperament of people and hosts attending the banquet.
Dietary rituals cover a wide range and can be classified in many ways. If divided by time, there are primitive social food rituals, slave social food rituals, feudal social food rituals, capitalist social food rituals and socialist social food rituals; According to ethnic groups, there are Han people's food rituals and ethnic minority food rituals; According to the class, there are royal palace dishes, government officials dishes, military camp soldiers dishes, academy literati dishes, market merchants dishes, bank craftsmen dishes, urban residents dishes and rural farmers dishes. Geographically, there are food etiquette in Northeast China, North China, Northwest China, East China, South China and Southwest China. According to their uses, there are various kinds of food gifts, such as offering sacrifices to ancestors, respecting teachers, respecting sages and supporting the elderly, birthday banquets, wedding and funeral banquets, New Year's greetings, farewell banquets, poetry and song parties, social dance parties, catering by various gangs, folk entertainment catering and so on, with rich forms and contents. From emperors and princes to ordinary people, they all have extensive contacts with it and rely on it for social communication.
China has been a "state of etiquette" and a "state of food etiquette" since ancient times. Understanding ceremony, practice ceremony, observation ceremony and attention ceremony have a long history. The Book of Rites records that "the beginning of husband's ceremony begins with diet." The earliest food ceremony was directly related to the ancient ritual of offering sacrifices to the gods. In this regard, there is a general description in the Book of Rites, to the effect that the ancestors of primitive society baked millet and pork pieces on burning stones for food, dug holes in the ground as wine bottles for drinking with their hands, and beat the earthen drums with long mallets tied with thatch to show their reverence and sacrifice to ghosts and gods. Later, the food ceremony expanded from the communication between people and ghosts to the communication between people, in order to adjust the increasingly complex social relations, and gradually formed the "five pre-Qin ceremonies" such as auspicious ceremony, fierce ceremony, military ceremony, guest ceremony and good ceremony, which laid the cornerstone of the ancient food ceremony system.
After the birth of the food ceremony, in order to make it better play the role of "governing the country, governing the country, making the people and benefiting future generations", Duke Zhou first revised his theological concept, put forward the ideas of "respecting morality" and "respecting Taoism", and made some specific regulations on the banquets of the royal family and princes through the system of rites and music. Then, the three masters of the Confucian school-Confucius, Mencius and Xunzi-continued to standardize food etiquette, supplemented the connotations of benevolence, righteousness, propriety and law, expanded the ethical relationship between adults, and "separated by etiquette" to eliminate disasters and solve problems. Their students also elaborated and enriched the predecessors' theories, and finally formed three classic works, Zhou Li, Yi Li and Li Ji, which became the core and soul of the feudal patriarchal clan system for thousands of years. Because of the emphasis on "people are rude, things can't be rude, countries are rude, and there is no peace", etiquette such as food ceremony has become the social norm and moral norm of the aristocratic hierarchy in slave society and feudal society, and has become an ideological tool to maintain the system of oppression and exploitation. However, there are some positive and healthy contents in ancient food etiquette, that is, the code of conduct between people and the etiquette of banquets and restaurants. In the long-term spreading process, it has been accepted by the broad masses of working people and evolved into various reasonable food etiquette and customs, which has become one of the outstanding cultural traditions of the Chinese nation.