No one is comfortable putting such a thing aside. It must be a lie to say no. As long as you are a normal person, you will have emotions more or less!
However, then again, uncomfortable is uncomfortable, emotional is emotional, but reality is also reality, and we must always face it and solve it. People's life is always entangled in contradictions and strives for survival in the cracks. The old contradiction has been solved and the new contradiction has come again. A person's ability is often related to your ability to solve problems and is directly proportional. The success or failure of your career is not only directly related to the objective conditions and your own abilities, but also related to your personality and temper. The success or failure of a career is linearly related to personality and inversely related to temper. Those who can control their temper will certainly be able to forethink and will not lose big because of small things. I won't let the momentary pleasure make me lose my temper, but I must grasp the long term!
Besides, it's just a meal. No matter what your usual position is in the boss's mind, you should take it seriously yourself, and others have no choice but to follow you seriously. If you don't care, others won't remember, and you don't care! You can deliberately pretend that everything is normal, take measures beyond ordinary people, and take it calmly. Your generosity will absorb other people's meanness, and your generosity will certainly conquer other people's pettiness, show your personality and find your self-esteem! As the saying goes, "inseparable"!
Only in this way can we be practical and have unexpected results! This is the best policy! You can't tear your face just because a meal is not notified, can you? No matter what your boss thinks, no matter whether you leave or stay, don't think about it for the time being. If the leader doesn't want to use you, it's no use thinking about it yourself! Anyway, you show generosity, and no one can say you are wrong! Everything has two sides. Which way do you look? ! All colleagues cannot be one-sided! Maybe bad things will turn into good things! Good is bad, bad is good, and good and bad can be transformed into each other!
"Cow dung", just because it is not smelly, or because it is grass!
Since it's a company dinner, as long as you know that there is silence among workers, don't worry about the boss's notice until you've had enough to eat and drink. We are the people, and food is the first thing for the people. We are employees of the company, and the company has dinner, not the boss's private treat.
Then, analyze the situation: first, the boss accidentally forgot? Second, the boss always despises us? Third, the boss took a holiday with us to vent his personal anger? Fourth, are we poor in technology or are we lazy, so we complain?
If the boss accidentally forgets to invite people often, we as the boss will inform him. If the boss always despises us, it depends on: arrogance? Strict management? Geographical discrimination? Make it clear before you try to communicate. If it is really impossible to communicate, change departments. Nothing more, just leaving the factory. "There is no one left here, but there is a place to live." If the boss has a problem with us, he can complain to his boss or boss. You can also consider "finding another job."
If our skills are poor or we are lazy, we must improve and correct ourselves. After all, the company is efficient and profitable.
Correct your mistakes and be a good comrade. The boss will change his attitude.
Before answering your question, let me tell my own story: 20 18, I work in a company in Hangzhou, and my position is not low. One afternoon after work, I suddenly found that several colleagues who had left together had not left, saying that something had happened. I didn't think much about it either. I get off work with my colleagues in other departments. In the car, this colleague told me that the big boss sent a notice to have a dinner. I was taken aback and thought, if we eat together, we can't live without me anyway. I was depressed. What dinner? Make it look like an inside gang?
After returning to my residence, the more I think about it, the worse I feel. So, I simply sent a message to the big boss with WeChat: "I heard that you had dinner with some people today, but I don't think it's easy. You are the boss, why do you pull some people and abandon some people? Maybe you feel more casual, but what do you think? Does the boss take the lead? " Less than half an hour later, the boss wrote back: "Brother, I didn't think so much. I especially want you to apologize and invite you separately in a few days! "
To tell the truth, I'm not satisfied with the boss's answer at all. I don't think he is aware of his misconduct. However, who let the somebody else is the boss, I will no longer be silent. In the workplace, nothing is satisfactory, and occasionally it is a bit embarrassing. Don't worry about it.
Combined with my own experience and description of the topic, I personally make the following interpretation. 1. The decision to have dinner was very hasty.
Maybe you didn't prepare dinner at first, or you didn't decide the time for dinner. But for some reason, the leader suddenly made up his mind and temporarily set the time for dinner.
Because things are urgent and time is tight, the notification process is very urgent. In one case, the subject said, "Dinner will be served at 8: 30, and you will be informed at 8: 33".
2. Leadership dereliction of duty
Leaders are busy with their own affairs, ignoring the responsibility of all notices in place. Only some people got short notice at their convenience. This means that the leader has no "convenient" way to inform you from the beginning.
Of course, it may be intentional or unintentional. In fact, some leaders are careless, careless and not serious. Lead to loopholes.
3. Inform you that entertainment is not the responsibility of the leader, and the leader is a temporary "body double".
According to the company's regulations, the responsibility of informing all employees to eat should be in the administrative and office departments, but the work of these departments is not in place. When leaders find that some subordinates have not received the notice, they will notify them temporarily.
Because the leader is not specialized in notification, he has to be busy with other work during the period, which leads to late notification to this person and late notification to that person.
Personal views on similar "problems" in the workplace 1.
There are many things involved in the workplace. If you are always angry and always serious, you will easily be troubled by messy little problems, thus ignoring or giving up the overall situation of personal career development.
Such questions have no real impact on themselves, and it is useless to care. It's best not to take it to heart, just let it go.
2. Can't "revenge"
Some people are obsessed with a little worrying thing and will put it into action. It is wrong to give problems to colleagues or the leaders are not good to themselves, and they will lose their due manners and cooperative attitude.
On the one hand, personal feelings cannot hinder the smooth development of work, which is your due principle and the standard for the company to judge you; On the other hand, if you "turn your face" with others because of this, it must be yourself who gets hurt, and your little arm can't twist your thigh.
Suggestions to the subject 1. Pay attention to your "big things".
What is your "big event"? Personal treatment, performance improvement, colleague harmony. As long as you don't understand your cheese, it won't be so frustrating to understand your feelings. You should learn to analyze the pros and cons and grasp the main contradictions. You can't lose big because of small things, and you can't "capsize in a small river ditch."
Now that I have received the notice, should I attend?
Remember, you go to the party not because of whose face you look, nor because of who you have feelings for, nor because who looks up to you and looks down on you, but because you are a member of the company and it is your right to attend the party. You are qualified to attend such a party. Going to the party is to give yourself face and show an attitude of "you can't live without me".
Keep your emotions in your heart.
Don't "blush" with some people for this. On the one hand, further investigation, to see what is the specific cause of the problem, it is really not possible to ask the leader directly (if you can't hold back); On the other hand, we should show our admirable qualities.
Don't complain in front of Zhang San or Li Si, and blame the parties in front of colleagues. This will only make people look down on you and even let people with ulterior motives catch you. You should be generous, treat it as nothing, and even talk about your good mood when eating.
In any case, for whatever reason, the workplace only accepts positivity and optimism, and only accommodates talent and efficiency. Right and wrong and personal grievances are not favorable factors. If you feel that you have "suffered a loss" in this matter, it will become the cornerstone of your growth and maturity, so that you can have a more thorough understanding of human nature and the workplace, not be humiliated in the face of other similar setbacks, and eventually become a great workplace person.
Being wronged can achieve the pattern. If you can't stand injustice, you will always be a child.
How to solve the problem that the company dinner boss deliberately doesn't understand you? How old are you? Why do you know how heavy you are, and you are also called a storm man? It is the happiness of her and others that the boss doesn't inform. I blame myself for not being able to do it … I hope I can find the reason first! My personal experience, I believe you treat it the same way in your heart: do it well!
This problem is a common thing in today's workplace. There will be gossip intentionally or unintentionally. If you meet a few people who like to gossip, then simple and imaginable things will spread in the circle.
As a company leader, his work must be a very busy link between the preceding and the following, and all aspects are thoughtful and stressful. The boss didn't inform you the first time for the company dinner, which made you feel stuffy and uncomfortable. You suspect it was intentional. Did you have anything unpleasant before? If not, maybe you were really busy and forgot. Didn't anyone tell you to eat later?
In this colorful materialistic era, it is really not easy to please employees who are not necessarily hard-working people. On the contrary, more bosses appreciate versatile people, who can do all aspects well, understand and feel better. I want to be more open, try to disguise my true feelings as I usually work in the company, drink less wine, and let myself and my boss and colleagues have a happy drink. After all, it's not bad to find a good job now. Cherish it and your personal future comes first!
I have experienced such a meal. My experience can make you get along with leaders and be good at observation.
When I first arrived in a company, Zhang was always my immediate supervisor, but in essence I was the person valued by General Manager Luo and the leader of General Manager Zhang, and she also asked to enter this company for development. During the interview, I never met Mr. Zhang. I didn't know him until I came in.
On the third day of coming to the company, general manager Luo arranged for me to have a meal. This dinner is a meeting of the company boss, who came from Beijing on business to understand the company's current situation.
I went with several old colleagues from different departments, and when I waited for the boss, everyone said, why didn't I see Mr. Zhang? Later they said, I asked. Mr. Zhang said that when Mr. Luo invited him, he was almost off work and had something to do at home, because there were two treasures at home, and he was still young and needed to be taken care of.
On the way home after dinner, everyone was talking about why they invited me to dinner, but later they invited Mr. Zhang. They also talked about that Manager Zhang and Manager Luo are always inseparable.
After coming to the company for three months, I heard that General Manager Zhang was leaving. When we learned that he was leaving, it took him only two days to go through the resignation formalities. One worked in this company for eight years and started a business together. President Luo said that if the company develops too fast, it will naturally eliminate some old employees with outdated concepts and absorb new talents.
It's just a dinner, big or small.
At this team dinner, it is very important to know the senior manager of the headquarters, one of the three bosses of the company. Come uninvited, not only from your own point of view, I feel that there is no problem getting along with leaders. Some leaders will not tell you what they want to tell you, but will remind you many times in secret. If you still don't understand it, you will naturally be rejected and it is difficult to develop further.
Normal team dinners will inform everyone in the department, but more employees don't want to go. It's not that the leader doesn't want everyone to go. He actually hopes that the team will have a good atmosphere, and everyone can get to know each other better through dinner.
Or talk to the leader privately and ask him to have dinner and chat together. Of course, like manager Zhang in my experience, I have decided to leave and find a good home, so I don't have to do this. However, I still think it is necessary to know what the truth is and avoid similar things.
The boss didn't notice that dinner was a good thing. Drinking less is good for your health. Eating too much will cause diarrhea. Maybe the leader cares about you. There is also whether you invited the leader to dinner. And a round-trip reservation!
A meal, so sad? I refuse all meals outside.
The boss of the company dinner party deliberately didn't inform you in advance.
First of all: first, think about the good situation. Maybe your boss will give you a surprise. I'll inform you at 8.30, dinner may not have started yet, waiting for you! It shows that you are still very important in the eyes of the boss. You see, I just told you that you were three minutes late, and the dinner hasn't started yet. In order to wait for your arrival, many people are waiting for you. Doesn't that mean that your boss has good intentions? As long as the meal hasn't started, it is enough to show your weight in the boss's eyes.