Zhuge Liang's name is a household name, and he became the embodiment of wisdom and loyalty. He assisted Liu Bei's great cause and eventually made the Shu-Han regime a pole of the three countries. There are many anecdotes about his life, and "Kong Ming chooses his wife" is one of them.

Zhuge Liang is not only talented, but also handsome. According to the biography of Zhuge Liang in the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang was "eight feet tall, like a pine and cypress". But he chose an ugly woman, Ah Chou, a "thin, black and short woman with yellow hair" as his wife. Why did Zhuge Liang marry an ugly girl? According to the traditional view, Zhuge Liang valued talent over appearance and emphasized the inner beauty of people. Ah Ch 'ou has only known others since he was a child, and he is quite calculating. Zhuge Liang heard about it before he got married. This is not unreasonable, but it is not all. In fact, Zhuge Liang married Achou for political reasons. Pei Songzhi quoted the Records of the Three Kingdoms to praise Yang's record: "Huang is listed as a celebrity in Miannan. Kong Ming said,' Wen Jun chooses a wife, and there are ugly women with yellow heads and blackheads who can match her.' Xu, that is, to send it. At that time, people thought it was funny, and the village said,' Don't choose a wife for Kong Ming, you will get an ugly girl'. "

Another way of saying it is that Zhuge Liang was born in poverty and lost his father in his childhood. As a teenager, he lived a life of exile and migration, suffering from the melee of warlords and being oppressed by strong ethnic groups. Later, I lived with my uncle Zhuge Xuan, the magistrate of Zhang Yu. /kloc-at the age of 0/4, my uncle was cut because of his official position and took refuge in Liu Biao; 17 years old, my uncle died. From then on, he was helpless and settled in Longzhong, twenty miles west of Xiangyang City. Although living in the countryside, he doesn't want to live in seclusion all his life. He always cares about the rise and fall of the country and has the ambition to serve the country faithfully. With such a thank you, Sir, he is determined to make a contribution to the political arena.

This political consideration will undoubtedly affect Zhuge Liang's marriage, and even involve his family's marriage. This is also to gain a foothold in the upper class of the landlord group, so as to make great achievements in the future. To this end, he did three things in family and marriage: First, he married his sister to the son of Pang Degong, the leader of Jingzhou landlord group, which is famous in Xiangyang area. Pang Degong greatly appreciated him and called him "Wolong". From then on, he gained a firm foothold in Jingzhou. Second, Zhuge Liang married the daughter of Lin, a famous figure of Jingzhou landlord group, as his brother in Nanyang. Third, and most importantly, he chose his wife to get married, of course, subject to the political goal of staying in Jingzhou and making friends with famous families, which is why Zhuge Liang stayed in Jingzhou instead of going anywhere else. So Zhuge Liang married the ugly woman Huang.

Why did Zhuge Liang marry Ugly Huang instead of being laughed at by everyone? If he were someone else, maybe he would hesitate, but he would marry Huang's daughter. First, because Huang is quite famous in the local area. Second, because Huang's wife Chua and Liu Biao's stepwife are sisters, they became the son-in-law of the Huang family and climbed the door of Liu Biao.

According to the New Biography of Zhuge Liang, Huang asked Zhuge Liang face to face and immediately "thanked Mount Tai" and made a decision to invite Ah Chou, who had never met before, thus giving Zhuge a "green light" to enter the landlord group, and he would never give up this "rank" anyway.

From the perspective of feudal history and culture, a good wife, a beautiful wife and a true wife should all help her husband manage the family. Influenced by traditional culture, Zhuge Liang naturally followed the custom of "being a good wife and mother" in his marriage. According to the Records of the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang did have a concubine afterwards. However, Zhuge Liang's motive for wanting ugly girls is still controversial, which needs to be studied and explored by future generations.