I wouldn't want to go to a nursing home when I'm older and less mobile. Nursing homes do more harm than good for older people. Some people describe going to a nursing home as waiting for death, I think this description is very appropriate, do not go to the nursing home must have their own way, now look at me have these ways, currently in the daughter of the care of seven-year-old grandson, but also living in the daughter's home old age. The grandchildren are a little older, and my partner and I went back to the northeast to age in place.

I'm the same age as my own partner, and now we're both 65 years old. I've had a cerebral infarction for almost three years now, but now I'm basically able to take care of myself, and I can still do some housework. In as much as possible is to take care of each other, you help me, I help you, to the combined efforts of two people for the family pension, we have a pension, two people together close to 9 thousand dollars, back home have their own homes, the northeast of the county, prices are not very high. Financially there is no problem in taking care of yourself. With major illnesses and minor disasters, there is health insurance to protect, out-of-pocket expenses for the part of the river now stay money can also cover a period of time, I think, most of the family old two are alive, or one person is a little sick, the other is basically healthy, there is no need to go to a nursing home. To go to the nursing home is not only a waste of money, the mood is not good, so it is best for the elderly to take care of each other to age in place, spend the days before the age of 80.

With the age of the body will be more and more decline, this time it is necessary to hire a hourly wage to do some housework, in the northeast of the county to hire a hourly wage, an hour to two hours a day to do, 1,000 yuan of remuneration can be hired. That is, as wages increase, and as pensions increase at that time, it will be possible for us to accept the reality of hiring a part-time worker. In addition to hiring a part-time worker, since we have returned to our hometowns, we have many relatives and friends who are younger than us, and we keep in touch with them frequently. They will also help us with purchases, household chores, and so on, which will support us to age in place instead of going to a nursing home. The community is exploring and developing service programs for aging in place. This work will get better and better, and will enable the elderly to have a basic guarantee that we can participate in some of the community home care programs.

The old couple can not be at the same time all at once, so in the case of one person is no longer, our intention another person is the daughter of the elderly, if we can live to 80 years old, at that time there is a problem, my daughter has retired, so that he is a young old man to take care of us an elderly old man, it is also possible, if the time to go forward. A person to daughter home home old age, the daughter will also take to hire a bellhop, hire a nanny and other ways to solve the problem of the elderly home old age, although the daughter added trouble, but raising children to prevent old age, raising daughters to prevent old age in the end is so. Daughter will have to be left with an old man, received their own side of the careful care of the elderly, this and the daughter has been discussed many times, the daughter and son-in-law said there is no problem. Now not back to the northeast has been in Shanghai, they have been raised.

Why am I so reluctant to go to the nursing home, it is because I work with my partner exercise, often go to the nursing home side of the rest, several years often chat with those old people. The real see the old people in the nursing home mood depressed, and not happy, even chatting also seems to have no energy, in the nursing home in the middle of either this is not accustomed to the children to take back, or that a few days to the hospital, and a few days to go to the crematorium, whenever one of these things happen, the elderly are many days sighing, and feel that I can't say that one day will go to do the underground workers. Saturdays and Sundays, some children come to visit the elderly, after visiting, the elderly send children the expression of disappointment is difficult to express, no one to visit the elderly will be more disappointed, more sad, in that environment, easy to get sick. Not easy to get a sense of happiness, not to mention what to enjoy, so I don't have any old to go to the nursing home intention, now do the above these intentions. Elderly netizens, will you see if my plans are realistic? Will it work? I'd like to see your comments.

It is better to go to a nursing home when you are old and have mobility problems, if it were me, I would go to a nursing home.

There are several advantages of going to a nursing home:

1. It can reduce the pressure on children. At the current stage, the development of many nursing homes is still relatively mature, and the system is relatively perfect, so as to avoid the children having to take care of themselves while working.

2. You can make good friends and avoid loneliness. Older people who have their own homes and can afford a nanny choose to live in a nursing home, where they can make friends of all colors and have more activities to participate in, even if they have mobility problems, the caregivers will try to get you to participate in some of the activities suitable for older people with mobility problems.

3. Caregivers are more professional. In my opinion, more and more young people are joining the elderly care industry nowadays, and most of them bring with them professional skills and knowledge, and they will also be more patient.

I'm living in a nursing home now, and it's not a gift from anyone, it's my choice. My experience is that it's best not to be sent there only if you are totally immobile or have cognitive disabilities, as that can be very uncomfortable.

My husband and I had a discussion about this, and he said that when you get old, you can go to a nursing home, but I don't want to.

China has always had a sentence "raise children to prevent old age, enjoy the joy of family", this old saying. People as old as me have a lot of children, and when we get old, our children have already started their own families. They in order to live, in order to their own small family, in order to career, always have to leave home to run around, always can not always accompany us around, think how much acid and helpless, and how much reluctance and attachment. At that time, we have been elderly and can rely on who to support, rely on who to take care of, but we can not for their own bodies and feelings to prevent the growth and development of children. At that time, going into a nursing home may be the best way. What can you do if you don't want to go into a nursing home?

Unwillingness

Although old age is still a long way off for me, I wouldn't want to spend my later years in a nursing home. Some time ago, the company went to the nursing home to do lectures, each caregiver is responsible for several elderly people, some of the elderly were assisted to walk in, some were wheelchair was pushed into the, some barely with the help of crutches and handrails to walk in, which is already considered very decent. The lecture lasted 40 minutes, and some of the elderly couldn't sit still for 15 minutes because of incontinence, so they had to rush to the bathroom to change, and then the caregivers hurriedly pushed the elderly out.

During the event, I went to the nursing home to take a stroll. The sun was shining, the green hydrangeas were blooming so beautifully, the small fish in the pool were swimming uncontrollably, and there were ten or so old people sitting behind the rockery, with two or three caregivers playing with their cell phones and chatting together. These old people are about eighty or ninety years old, each of them sitting two or three meters away from each other, their eyes staring at the ground, occasionally glancing around, and then their heads slowly lowered. Waiting, waiting for loved ones to visit, waiting to die, was written on everyone's face.

I don't know if you have read Japan's Chieko's "A Man's Old Age", which mentions that no matter whether it is a hospitalized patient or a silver-haired person living in a care facility, he or she will always say that they "want to go back to their own homes", and the reason why the sick and the healthy old people are all concentrated in one place is not for the sake of the person concerned, but for the convenience of the caregiver and the person with the best interest. The reason for grouping the sick and healthy elderly together in one place is not for the sake of the person concerned, but for the convenience of care and attention. In the case of a medical institution, since the purpose of the facility is to provide treatment, the patient can tolerate the situation for a while, and then return home when he or she recovers. However, for many of the silver-haired people, once they are in a care facility, there is no chance of them ever leaving.

Near the end of each interview, Chizuko routinely asks the managers and directors of welfare organizations the question:

"Where would you like to live when you yourself need care?"

It was expected that they would answer, "I would like to live in the organization where I work," which is known for its state-of-the-art care facilities, but Chizuko never heard that answer.

"I guess I'd rather take my last breath in my own home." The administrator of the welfare facility replied back

It's a truly frank answer; no matter how highly regarded a facility is, the occupants are almost never there by choice. They choose to live in a facility that provides care services because they are worried about living alone and have no choice but to cooperate with the caregivers and receive care in a group. It is hypocritical of those who seek advanced care to say they want to be institutionalized when they can choose to be cared for at home.

Thank you for the invitation. I am not in favor of nursing homes for the elderly. I live in a rural area. The mindset. Not the same as others. There used to be an old saying that raising children to prevent old age. If I've struggled all my life and have no one to care for me in my old age, I think I've led a sad life. Go to a nursing home. Then I'd like to ask a question. Is the word heavenly happiness still useful. My mother died at the age of 96, three whole years ago. When she was alive, her children and grandchildren surrounded her on holidays. She was especially happy. My mother suffered a lot when my sisters were young. But I think she was especially happy in her later years. When she was dying. She took a bite out of me. She left happily, without suffering a single sin. Now I still often miss the days when my mother was there.

Willing, because there is no choice.

A child does not want to drag them down.

Unless you have a lot of money, you will have to take care of more than three babysitters, and you will have to take care of an elderly person who can't speak English, and you will not feel safe.

Young start to save money, to the old to a better to the nursing home, the service is relatively secure.

If you can't take care of yourself, a professional nursing home is still a worthwhile option.

I was born in 57, and will be nearly 80 in about 15 years. By then the children are still working, and their children are going to high school or college, and live a certain distance away, if both sides of the four old people living on their couples to take care of, it is estimated that there are a lot of problems, and it is also very difficult.

Therefore, a number of years later, the nursing home is the home of our old and frail people, but also the best choice.

1, with the development of our economy and society and demographic changes, people's concept of old age will also change. people born before 1950, that is, now more than 70 years of age are getting old, but they basically have more than two or even 5-6 children, each other take turns to take care of their elderly parents, I now have three parents over 80 years old and my mother in law, of which my father four years ago, he suffered from cerebral infarction, and now he can't live without his father. suffered from cerebral infarction and now he cannot take care of himself. Sisters on both sides take turns to take care of the old people in their old age. people born after 1960, which is now about 60 years old, basically 1~2 children, part of the countryside and most families in the city have only one child, not only to take care of their parents and in-laws, to undertake the task of support is relatively heavy.

2, we are now these people around 60 years of age, a number of years after the problem of old age, and now governments at all levels are actively responding to the concerns of the community, exploring, summarizing in accordance with the requirements of the proximity and convenience, small and varied, functional support to strengthen the construction of community day-care centers, activity centers for the elderly, and to increase the medical care, rehabilitation and assistive devices, sports and cultural recreation, clothing, food, food and beverage facilities supporting the efforts of communities to create the necessary conditions for aging in place, and to create the necessary conditions for the community. I saw on TV that Shanghai has already done this, and the results are quite good. We can according to their physical condition, economic conditions, choose to suit their needs of the elderly service products, familiar colleagues, classmates, friends are invited together, chatting, reminiscing about the past; when the life can not take care of themselves, and then move into a nursing home, so that professionally trained personnel to provide us with life services, the use of professional expertise in the use of medical personnel to provide us with health care services; children Sunday or holidays to visit and accompany. Children visit and accompany us on Sundays or holidays to enjoy the joy of family life.

3. I see that there are constant complaints in the media about the fees and service quality of nursing homes. We should believe that: as the government pays more attention to the issue of old age, and as the network information and automation continue to improve, the fees and charges will be in the direction of being accessible to ordinary people, and at the same time, the conditions of the nursing homes and the service attitude and quality of the services will be gradually improved and enhanced. We should be confident about our future retirement and admission to nursing homes and there is no need to be anxious and worried.

It's not a question of whether you can get in or not, it's a question of do you have what it takes to get in? Now first-tier cities nursing home costs are not low, take Shanghai has been graded .......

First-class nursing homes, living facilities (large gardens and lawns plus swimming pools), including medical auxiliary health exercise facilities, and 24-hour 24-hour doctor and nursing care, such nursing homes at least in the millions of occupancy fee (deposit collateral, attached to the nursing home to live in the property license), and usually need to pay the management fee of tens of thousands of dollars a month, so the high-end nursing homes can not afford to live, but to pay a lot of money. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal on a new home, and you'll be able to get a good deal on a new home.