Many people drink (whether they are alcoholics or not) to change their bad mood.

This way of drinking to get rid of painful feelings is called "avoiding drinking". As thousands of alcoholics anonymous members know, in fact, when we are in high spirits, we often like to drink a glass. If we carefully review the past drinking experience, most people can find that we are used to celebrating by drinking when we are in high spirits.

Based on this drinking habit in the past, we put forward another suggestion: pay special attention to happy, festive and cheerful times. When everything goes well, it makes us feel that we may not be alcoholics. Please pay attention! At that time (even after a few years of sobriety), the idea of having a drink seemed very natural.

We have temporarily forgotten the tragic memory of drinking in the past, and it shouldn't be a problem to have only one drink. Then we began to feel that drinking was not so serious or even harmful. For ordinary people, a glass of wine is certainly not a problem. However, it can be clearly concluded from our past drinking process that this seemingly insignificant glass of wine will have a serious impact on people like us.

Sooner or later, we will convince ourselves that it's okay to have one more drink, and then we will consider why we don't have two more drinks ... Happy and festive drinking is especially attractive to us. We have legitimate reasons to celebrate. We are among a group of happy relatives and friends who are drinking or can drink. Their drinking behavior seems to have brought us some social pressure and encouraged us to join the ranks of drinking.

Perhaps because of our traditional social customs, we often have the habit of drinking at weddings, funerals and festive occasions.

Therefore, even though we know that we don't need to drink any more, that deep-rooted idea remains in our hearts. There are many ways to get rid of the social pressure of drinking. Please refer to the suggestions in Chapter 26. We must remind ourselves that no exception can exempt us from alcohol addiction.

No matter what reason we have or no reason at all, at any time, once we start drinking again, our disease will get worse again immediately.

For some of us, whether on a particularly happy holiday or under social pressure, the impulse to drink when we are happy seems to be stronger.

This feeling may happen at the most unexpected moment, and we may never understand the exact reason.

We now know that when we have the idea of drinking, we don't have to be particularly alarmed. After all, in today's modern society, it is natural for anyone to have the idea of drinking, especially us "wine heroes".

However, the idea of wanting a drink does not necessarily mean wanting to drink, so there is no need to feel depressed or afraid. We might as well take it as a warning of the risk of alcoholism and remind us of the harm of alcoholism.

Danger always exists, even if you feel very good.

Remember the last time you got drunk?

Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".

For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for friends to laugh and laugh. We all have all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxiety) based on the age of each of us and the surrounding environment when we first drank.

It may remind us of cold beer, cocktails, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine or something like that.

Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual needs of drinking.

If every time is just right, we will naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies our desires, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and realize our various pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately think of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.

If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man with jeans, beard and long hair at a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, with flashing lights and smoke, and everyone screaming and screaming, which is exciting. A member of AA said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.

Another 78-year-old widow said that when she was in a nursing home, she often couldn't help but think of the habit of drinking a glass of sherry before going to bed. Although this kind of drinking is very natural in our minds, it is misleading in our current situation, and this is also the way some of us start drinking.

If this is the process of drinking, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem in the future. However, if we look at the process of drinking fearlessly, we will find that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical moment in our last few years or months of drinking.

On the contrary, we have repeatedly found that our actual drinking amount is far greater than this, which always leads to some kind of trouble in the end. Maybe we just feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.

But sometimes it will turn into a fierce quarrel, which will affect your work and even lead to serious diseases, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a suggestion of "drinking" appears, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.

General friends invite us to drink, which generally refers to the way of entertainment and a cup or two of tasting.

But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by the last drunkenness, we will not be confused by the long-standing impression of "drinking a glass of wine" in our minds.

Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup means that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.

Drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. A member of Alcoholics Anonymous once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same again, just spend a little time and some money."

This drink will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my reason and even my life. This is really too big, too expensive and too risky. "

He remembers the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.