What should children be raised at the dinner table? First, cultivate a sense of gratitude.
In the school canteen, students are often seen spilling the whole bowl of white rice on the ground and leaving their feet, but they have no intention to cherish it; At home, children leave rice grains all over the table, and throw them on the ground if they are not delicious. The puppy has been running around, but it just enjoys it. Everyone has learned this poem since childhood: it is noon when weeding, and sweat drips down the soil. Who knows that every grain of Chinese food is hard?
Paying attention to the gratitude education for children, the most common platform is the dining table. Life is the best textbook. Learn to live, and live to learn. Children who are always grateful will cherish every grain of rice and every leafy vegetable; Children who are always grateful will be satisfied and cherish today's hard-won life. Gratitude is the source of all morality, and "always be grateful" should start from every little thing in life and save every grain.
Second, cultivate civilized "eating"
At home, eat with parents; In society, have dinner with friends and classmates; If we can develop civilized and elegant dining habits, it is an important prerequisite to ensure that children adapt to social norms, have harmonious interpersonal relationships and succeed in various conditions. If we can form the habit of civilized dining from an early age, it is the most precious intangible asset left by parents to their children. This kind of asset is eternal and infinite. Beyond wealth, it can't be measured by money.
What good habits should children develop at the dinner table?
1. Before eating, the family should take their places, and the whole family can't move chopsticks until they are seated;
2. Learn the correct way to hold chopsticks and form a habit;
3. During the meal, keep the desktop clean and tidy at any time;
4. chew slowly when eating, and don't talk in your mouth; Eat and drink soup without making any noise; (Food can't talk)
5. Don't rummage for food in the dish, some dishes use male chopsticks and female spoons; Chopsticks don't pinch food when they touch it;
6. Speak softly while eating;
7. One hand cannot hold two kinds of tableware at the same time;
8. Don't wave tableware at people;
9. Eat three meals regularly and quantitatively, without partial eclipse or overeating, and cherish food without wasting;
10. When you leave the dining table, you should put away the residue in the bowl, straighten the chair and say "enjoy" to your deskmate.
Every little gesture in the process of eating reflects everyone's upbringing. Everyone's "eating" is not personal. In social occasions, eating with friends has become a social etiquette. Civilized "eating" should be cultivated from an early age, and parents should first set an example for their children.
Third, learn to share and take responsibility.
When I was a child, as long as there were fish and chickens, my mother ate fish heads and my father ate fish tails. The middle part belongs to the child, so you should tear off the chicken leg first. Although parents love their children, because of their excessive prominence, they encourage their children to eat alone, monopolize and enjoy themselves. In the long run, a culture of parent-child inequality will be formed in the family. At the dinner table, children are "self-centered", and it is difficult to realize the material sharing and spiritual sharing happiness among family members. Now as soon as the food is served, I choose the part I like to eat first. My grandparents always say, "If I can eat well, I will save it for you." This is a common problem of the elderly and children in China families, and the correction needs to start with the elderly.
Sharing at the dinner table is not only material sharing, but more importantly, it should also advocate spiritual sharing, cultural sharing and learning achievement sharing, which is embodied in: at dinner, family members get together and care about each other's life for one day; Talk about interesting things in life and create a harmonious and relaxed atmosphere at the dinner table; Exchange all kinds of information, what you have seen and heard, what you have learned this day. It can not only improve parent-child communication, but also improve children's communication and expression skills.
Many families call the one-hour dinner time every day a "dinner forum", which becomes a platform for parents and children to communicate, learn from each other and share. This is a time-saving and atmospheric parent-child time. I always say that my greatest happiness is to have dinner with my parents and brothers. However, there are some families. Every dinner, parents chew food in their mouths and hold rice bowls in their hands, and begin to give their children a "joint exam": "What's the score in today's Chinese exam?" "Why is math so bad?" "The class teacher called to complain again!" With the parents "extorting confessions" from their children step by step, the children tried their best to resist self-defense, and suddenly there were thunder and lightning and dark clouds over the dining table ... Such a dinner did more harm than good to the children's "body" and "mind". This is the worst. You must not scold your child when eating, which will affect your child's digestive system and have a negative impact on health and even psychology.
As every member of the family, he is the master of the family. Both adults and children can share the fruits and happiness in the family and bear the responsibilities and obligations in the family. It may not be trivial for children to undertake the task of washing dishes and sweeping the floor after eating, but it is an important way to cultivate children's sense of family responsibility from an early age. I've been cultivating this since school. I have formed a good habit and can help me do some housework!
Everyone has a mouth, and the mouth has two functions: one is to eat and the other is to talk. Everyone can eat, but talking is not an easy task. If you don't speak it well, it will make the atmosphere at the table tense. What should I communicate and say when eating?
First of all, say more words of encouragement, care, praise, tolerance, sincerity, humor and wisdom to children; Talk less, don't say rude words, false words, vulgar words, insulting words, slanderous words and stupid words. Secondly, we should speak with "love"-equality, respect, openness, magnanimity, generosity and sincerity. We should use discussion more than imperative. Knowing the situation and listening is the best strategy. We shouldn't jump to conclusions easily, and we shouldn't rush to criticize.