And I am a stay-at-home mom who has interrupted her career for nearly four years. The present situation doesn't allow me to leave my children to work full-time. Moreover, at this age, if you want to fight with young people again, it is obviously beyond your power. So the anxiety is full, on the one hand, I am more and more worried about being out of touch with society and losing my ability to make money; On the other hand, children need the care of their mothers, and I can't leave my young children to make money.
The realization of knowledge mentioned in this book is actually how to sell your knowledge and experience and realize it directly under the background of the great development of mobile Internet and the rise of hedonic economy. How to be a slash youth and freelancer under the background of new media?
In my life, I am also a paying consumer of knowledge. I just look up at the glamorous appearance of these knowledge network celebrities, but I don't know how they really live, from ordinary people to network celebrities, and how they practice. This book tells me the answer and gives me new inspiration: I can combine my life experience to open up a freelance job.
Everyone can find their own breakthrough.
Sometimes, we feel that we have gained nothing, but in fact, as long as we are living seriously, we must have skills that we are good at. For example, the training at work is as big as the industry pattern and as small as a certain skill; For example, cooking and parenting experience in life can all be used as their own advantages.
The book mentions a stay-at-home mother in Beihai, Guangxi. For the sake of children's health and the cultivation of cooking skills, she made a meat sauce with excellent ingredients, no additives and low salinity. After being well received by her friends, she began to formally make and sell this sauce. Later, she expanded the variety of sauces, made full use of local seafood in Beihai and made more kinds of sauces. She named this sauce after her daughter, making her daughter crooked but full of childlike words and making a brand.
My own aunt, in her fifties, has been a housewife, bringing up three children and a grandson. Now that she is free, she participated in the monthly training and obtained the qualification certificate under the introduction of a friend. Now she has started the monthly training and earns a lot of money every month. Income and a sense of accomplishment gave her more confidence and foresight. Recently, she said that she had an idea to open a month club so that she could continue to exert her energy when she was in her sixties.
Therefore, we should all have the confidence and courage to try new fields and fully develop and tap one of our unique advantages.
Find your own advantages, and then, you must continue to put your energy into practice and dig deeper, and the diary will become a label of a realizable skill or personal brand.
For me, during my four years as a full-time mother, I have read a lot of books, accumulated a lot of parenting experience, and accumulated some family relationships and nutritious food, which can be my greatest advantage.
To understand your own advantages and determine your own direction, you must practice your corresponding skills in depth.
If you want to realize your knowledge or experience, you must have two abilities:
One is basic ability, including reading, thinking and expressing ability. This is an essential ability to learn any knowledge and skills. Reading is the input of knowledge, and thinking is internalized. On the one hand, expression can promote the absorption of knowledge, on the other hand, knowledge can be realized. What can be achieved if knowledge is not expressed?
Basic ability needs to be obtained by reading more books, learning from other people's experience and practicing frequently.
The author also recommended some books about these basic abilities:
1. The most classic reading skill is how to read a book. Zhao Zhou's "Open the Book" series: "This is enough reading" and "Open your communication skills".
2. The first lesson of McKinsey induction training, easily learn to think, think about technology, think, fast and slow, exceed knowledge, etc. It's all an exercise in thinking ability.
3, improve the ability to express, this book focuses on writing ability, don't recommend specific books, and I have read Liu Yang's "Learn to Write", how to write, how to write in new media is very thorough.
Knowing the skills, the most important thing is to practice more. I'm a novice at reading, and I just started setting reading goals this year. In just three months, I can only finish one book in the first two weeks. Now, I can easily read several books a week, and some books can be finished in one day. This is because the experience I have accumulated during reading can quickly extract the most useful information from the book. In addition, because of the accumulation of knowledge, the ability to understand has become stronger, the number of times to stop and think will be less and less, and the understanding of the views in the book will become profound.
On the other hand, professional competence refers to targeted knowledge and skills in a specific field. To accumulate professional ability, the suggestions given in the book are:
1. Build a professional knowledge map. Every field and post has its own professional knowledge, such as consumer analysis, economics, communication skills and so on.
2. Obtain relevant qualifications. There will be corresponding qualifications in many fields, such as certified public accountants, psychological counselors, and chef certificates. Textual research can be a stepping stone to enter this field, and at the same time, it can improve professional ability in the process of preparing for the exam.
3. Constantly accumulate cases. It refers to accumulating experience in practical work.
4. Try to write professional books. In the process of writing a book, we should do a lot of reading and observe and analyze the work itself. Books don't have to be published, and the process itself can systematically sort out its own knowledge. And if you have the opportunity to publish, it will become a powerful highlight of yourself.
After choosing a field or direction, you should determine specific goals. You can look at what the talents in the target field have achieved and how they did it. Do you have the advantages of cattle, or do you have any different advantages? Make your own goals and plans according to your own conditions.
The book gives an example of Uncle Akiba. Before he decided to cut into the field of PPT in 2009, he read the blogs of more than 30 people who did well in PPT in China at that time, and had a macro understanding of the development of this field. And through analysis and evaluation, it is found that in PPT design, logical conception, topic manufacturing ability and so on. Individual projects may not be as good as others, but taken together, the total score will be higher than others. So he cut in from this angle and wrote a book with PPT thinking to help him open his personal brand.
Looking for cattle people to benchmark, Alina Zhang, an efficiency management expert, also mentioned in the Handbook of Life Efficiency: List seven people you want to be, two of whom are your ultimate goals, two or three are role models that you may need five years to catch up with, and the remaining two or three are people who can catch up with you in a year or two. Then, see what advantages they have, how their advantages are cultivated, what are your advantages in comparison, or what efforts you need to make to catch up with them or even surpass them.
It is mentioned in the book that it is very fast to build a personal brand in five to seven years. However, many people don't know what kind of process it is to realize their dreams and how to go. Therefore, it is difficult for everyone to have the patience to make such a long plan. Moreover, in the process of implementation, once you encounter setbacks or fail to meet expectations, you will doubt whether you have found the right method and spend a lot of time to verify the correctness of the goal.
Once the path and goal are clear, don't change it easily. However, the plan can be adjusted according to the implementation. If you are fast, you can accelerate, if you are slow, you can slow down and then accelerate. Others use five years to be famous, I use seven years, seven years is no good, I use nine years. From the point of view of life, there won't be much difference between two years earlier and two years later.
To be a person with direction, you should also be a patient person; To be a passionate person, you should also be a person who follows the rules.
This is the part that benefits me the most. As a stay-at-home mother, my social interaction is very limited. Because of my inferiority and anxiety, I gradually avoid it. The description of social networks in the book has brought me the motivation and methods of change.
In today's increasingly interconnected era, it will be very difficult for a person to do one thing. Therefore, we should build a high-quality social network, which must include accurate and diversified people, and at the same time it must cross the boundaries of class, organization, intelligence and region.
Another author of this book is a fierce cat, and he has a wide network of contacts. Everywhere he goes, he associates with local influential people. If you don't know them, he will ask this person if there are any channels for charging, such as making an appointment. He did not hesitate to praise many WeChat official account articles in the WeChat group and sent a red envelope. Every message in his official article will be answered. Even if the fans say bad things, he won't scold back, but will give red envelopes to those who scold him and embarrass them.
Everyone has a very good impression of him and is willing to help him with publicity. Therefore, he was able to reach 500,000 WeChat fans in half a year, not only with extraordinary efforts, but also with everyone's help. However, in the final analysis, it is because of his personal charm in social life.
Build a high-quality social network,
First of all, you should cultivate yourself into an excellent person in some respect and help each other, so that others will be willing to associate with you.
Secondly, to consciously expand and cultivate diversified social circles, we can learn from the above-mentioned ways and expand the range of communication with a fierce cat.
Thirdly, classify the circle of friends with ABC. The most important friends are Class A. Such friends need to communicate frequently, remember important dates such as birthdays and give gifts. Class b friends can contact each other occasionally, just send a blessing on their birthday; Class c friends may communicate less, but at least they know something.
Fourth, learn to run social networks. Knowing all kinds of information about good friends, especially class A friends, may not be available just by asking. You can observe carefully in your daily life, carefully discover the needs of others and provide help. For example, the author mentioned that once a friend came to her house and praised her cushion for being comfortable, and the author immediately ordered it for her friend online. Another important way to run a social circle is to ask others for help in time, give others the opportunity to help themselves, and let them feel the sense of accomplishment in helping you, so that they will enjoy the process of interacting with you more.
The book gives a tool called "Jiugongge Gold Network Diagram". We can learn about our friends' personality characteristics, personal goals, concerns, worries, important experiences, professional fields, hobbies, family status and so on. For class a friends, you must know this information.
In fact, more than a year ago, I wanted to transform into the field of children's education and mental health. Engaging in a career with relatively free time in the future can not only help children and families, but also give themselves a space for development.
So, I chose the psychology graduate student who took the examination of Beijing Normal University as the first step of transformation. I studied for a year and took the postgraduate entrance examination at the end of the year. I just got the news that I was admitted.
Before I went to school in September this year, I made reading and writing my primary goal and improved my input and output ability. After the start of school, I will make use of all kinds of resources of the school, work harder to accumulate industry knowledge, practice and expand my circle of contacts, and move forward step by step towards my goal of getting a new life.