There is a saying in Buddhism: Life is alive. You are in the middle of a thorny road. If you don't move your heart, you won't move. If you don't move, you won't lose. In the final analysis, every day of life, external influences exist, and the most important thing is your own mood. Stay calm, don't listen, don't watch, and don't get angry with those people and things that make you unhappy. Maintaining a stable mood is the best health care for a person. People who understand vividly know "don't be angry".
0 1 What about the others? You can't control thousands of people. People live in different environments, different situations and different views, so they have completely different views on things and different standards for considering right and wrong. Just like that sentence: the three views are not standardized. In the world of vultures, snow-white feathers are innocent. It's not necessarily your own problem that others treat you coldly, accuse you and dispute you. Chances are, you don't live like them, and there is no room for you in his original norms.
When you meet a distant person, your passion is wrong; When you meet a depressed person, your efforts are wrong; It's wrong for you to be frugal when you meet extravagant people, and it's wrong for you to be independent when you meet people who talk nonsense. People's hearts are complex, and there will be right and wrong where there are people. As long as you are alive, it is inevitable that someone will find fault with you, and even someone will continue to slander you. You can't control what others are like. The only thing you can control is your own thoughts. You don't care, don't care too much, others can't hurt you; You struggled and took it to heart, but you were trapped by a villain and won a prize.
If you are angry, some people in the middle will have a hard time and their grievances will be dispersed, so they will try their best to make others unhappy. I think my hometown has a next-door neighbor, a bachelor in his forties. He is honest, lazy and unstable. He likes to drink a little wine every day, so it is not convenient to invite others in the future. He said rude things to people he didn't like. If you don't pay attention, he'll leave when he's finished. If you fight with him angrily, he can pester you for days.
The person who doesn't like to find fault the most is the person who doesn't care about her; What I want to meet most is the kind of person whose mentality is very easy to ignite. He deliberately angered you. If you are angry, you will fall into its trap. Because his purpose is to forbid you to feel better. Anger hurts his health like that. Why sacrifice his health to make him refreshed? Go back, meet someone who annoys you, and just turn a deaf ear. Let him do whatever he wants. You just do your own thing. After a long time, he can't find a sense of superiority here, so naturally he won't come.
Living your own life is the most powerful counterattack. I can't see what kind of person you are. I always want to ruin your mood and slander your integrity. This is the darkness of human nature. What can you do in this situation? If you follow his example and swear in public and behind his back, what's the difference between you and him? What is the practical significance of doing so? How precious people's time and energy are, why waste energy on villains? You have your own life to live and your own critical period to enjoy.
So the real counterattack is not insulting each other, not fighting with others in a rage, but being diligent, becoming a better self, living a better life, and leaving people who don't like you behind. You know, anger is worse than ambition. If you have the ability and strength, look back at those who have hurt you. I'm glad you can. At first, I didn't have so many entanglements. Otherwise, there is no better you now.
Associate with people and learn to be calm, and you will win the world, usually in an instant. Smart people can be optimistic, and stupid people are always bored and angry. Although emotion is not everything in life, it can affect everything in life. I like everything when I am in a good mood, and I am upset when I am in a bad mood. When dealing with people, you should still learn to be calm, and no one can escape the troubles in the world. If you can learn to face them frankly, you will win.
As Feng Zikai said: However, there is nowhere to hide, which is not comparable to silly joy; There is nowhere to hide, it is better to be comfortable; Since there is no pure scholar, it is better to calm down; Since I didn't get what I wanted, I can't compare with letting go. For the rest of your life, you should learn to let go of what you should put down, turn the page from a new beginning, and give yourself a happy heart, happy and comfortable.