(Chairman of Wang Pin Group) Dai Shengyi: Why did I cut off my children's retreat? Author: Li Cuiqing Source: Dai Shengyi, chairman of Wang Pin Group, who has a son and a daughter in the world, is very different from ordinary entrepreneurs' fathers. Other entrepreneurs are all trying to arrange their children to take over in the family business, but Dai Shengyi doesn't think so at all. Wang Pin is the largest restaurant chain group in China. In addition to Wang Pin Steak, its business bodies also include many brands such as Taobanwu, Chamonix, Xidi Steak, Yuanshao and Ju Hokkaido Kunbu Pot. There are more than 111 stores on both sides of the strait, with an annual turnover of more than 5 billion. However, Dai Shengyi resolutely refused to let his children enter his catering kingdom, not to mention "taking over" or even going to work in any institution. He not only blocked their "future", but even cut off their "financial path". Wang Pin stock will be listed next year, and Dai Shengyi announced that he would donate 81% of his personal property for public welfare, leaving only 5% for his children, and also set a restriction clause that he can only use it at the age of 35. He does not intend to turn Wang Pin into a family business; His children are just "Dai Shengyi's sons and daughters", and they will never be "Shaodong and Princess of Wang Pin Group". Wang Pin was built by himself from scratch. If the children also want a great mountain, then, I'm sorry, please work hard. Q. What kind of father are you? What is parenting philosophy? A I'm very democratic and almost tolerant of children. For me, children can do anything as long as they don't break the law. My outlook on education is quite different from that of ordinary parents. Many parents force their children to make up lessons, do homework and learn a lot of talents, but I have observed that many parents want their children to learn things just to satisfy their childhood regrets; However, many children who are forced to learn this and that are mediocre when they grow up. Why? Because he is too busy to meet his parents' expectations, he has no leisure to explore his real interests. My children didn't learn talent at first, and I won't let them take extra lessons. When they find their interest, he will speak for himself. For example, my daughter came to tell me that she wanted to learn piano and flute when she was in the fifth grade. When my son was in high school, he found that he was very interested in computers and began to study deeply. I only have one requirement for my children's schoolwork: as long as I can graduate on time, I can accept it no matter where I rank. Is class really the most important thing? I won the attendance award in primary school for six years. This award is like a chastity memorial arch. In order to get it, you can't "remarry" casually. So in the six years of primary school, I missed too many important things: in the third grade, my little aunt got married and I didn't attend; My grandfather and grandmother passed away, and I didn't send them off; It's a once-in-61-year farewell ceremony near my home. I can imagine what a lively scene it was, but I couldn't please it ... There are about a dozen things that will make people regret in retrospect in the past six years, but I missed them all for that boring "chastity memorial arch". Is it worth it? So I encourage children to take time off, as long as there are things that need family members to participate in: travel, dinner … no problem, try to take time off; Even if the company holds a shareholders' meeting, they can take time off to attend; Even as long as they feel that they really want to climb the mountain today, they can take time off. Both of them didn't win the first place in the class, but they both took the first time off. At the end of the day, the teacher called me and asked, "Mr. Dai, are you deliberately against the school?" In fact, I don't want to be against the school, but I think I should spend my time in places that are really valuable. This is also the case in our company now. As long as employees have important matters, such as the birth of a wife and children, the graduation ceremony of children and the meeting of mothers and sisters, they can give priority to leave, and they must never be absent at the critical moment of life. Q. Have you deliberately helped your children plan or guide their future careers? A My deliberate plan for them is to completely cut off their back roads. As early as a decade ago, Wang Pin made a "non-kinship clause", and all relatives of cadres were not allowed to work in Wang Pin. I don't even allow them to work in Wang Pin's business. Please! Which manager dares to boss the chairman's children? What's the point of working? And broke the rules in the store. Not long ago, I decided to donate 81% of my personal property to public welfare, leaving them only 5% each, and I can't use it until I am 35 years old. This completely cut off their retreat from inheriting the family property, so as to force out their potential! Otherwise, they will feel that they have a backer, and they don't have to work hard or struggle, and they don't even have to "imagine" what they will do in the future. Anyway, as long as they go back to be Wang Pin's heirs, they can live sitting and eating, even being a vegetable. Why fight? Q. Does your practice of "cutting off children's back roads" have anything to do with your personal life experience? A Let me tell a story first. When I was a child, my family kept a chicken, but my mother never fed it. Every morning, she let it out of the henhouse, and it "clucked" and ran to the back hill to feed. Because of enough exercise, its muscles are strong, its comb is bright red and its feathers are shiny. Later, my mother put the chicken in the barn. From then on, the chicken only needed to eat and sleep every day, but it became dejected and despondent, no longer alive and kicking, and soon died of illness. Do you think it's better for children to be barn chickens or pheasants? If a child becomes a barn chicken, it is not the child's fault, but the parents' fault. My family was very poor when I was young, but after junior high school, my father's hat-making career gradually got on track and his family became very good. It happened that my father didn't "cut off my back road", so I changed from a pheasant to a barn chicken. I studied Chinese at National Taiwan University, and the students in the Chinese Department had a narrow way out. The students in the class were very crisis-conscious, so I was the only one who changed departments and minored in the future. Anyway, I have three wins to make hats after graduation. What are you afraid of? It was not until I left the family business alone at the age of 39 and started a new business that I began to exert my potential and actively seek survival, from a barn chicken to a wild pheasant. Although I was already an "old chicken", I was really full of ambition at that time. I struggled before, whether to abandon my family business and start my own business, and then I thought of Love's poem: "If you are obsessed with thick roofs, you will lose the vast stars. "And I don't want to lose the vast stars. My experience is that children must be cornered before they can find their own way to survive. Every time I see the descendants of enterprises running, clubbing and playing famous brands in the media! News, I don't think so. I think it's expensive before you get rich. I'm used to this glamorous life. How can I work hard in the future? I don't want my children to know the sufferings of the world, but the way to let them know the sufferings of the world is to let them live a miserable life first. Q. How do you make them "understand human sufferings"? A Many of my friends send their children to private aristocratic schools, and drivers drive black-headed cars to pick them up and drop them off. The parents of my classmates are prominent figures. But before junior high school, my children attended the most common public schools. When my daughter was in junior high school, some students who sat near her had a father who was a plumber, a mother who sold braised dishes in the vegetable market, and some students had to work to supplement their families after class. I want my children to contact the society of the common people, not the upper class. I hope they understand that that is the real life of most people. I am very tolerant of children and seldom make rules for them, but I won't make them too comfortable. My son and daughter have only a thousand dollars in pocket money every month until high school. If they encounter any difficulties, I usually stand by and watch. My son once raised $1111 from his classmates and wanted to buy a computer on the Internet. The seller was in India. I thought to myself, it was a scam, but I didn't tell the truth. I watched him remit the money and was cheated. After that, he didn't help him clean up. He sold everything around him to raise money for his classmates. It is only after I have taught him a painful lesson that he will know what a "trap" is. This is a valuable lesson. Their brother and sister went abroad to study, and I didn't help them apply for a school or arrange a residence in advance; The only thing I did was to send them to the airport, give them a "guide to studying abroad", and then let them "die." After my daughter arrived in new york, she looked up information by herself and negotiated with seven schools for interview opportunities. Although she doesn't know much English, she got into a school by writing, talking and comparing her gestures. Solving problems is a kind of learning. If I help them with everything and even take them there myself, what will they learn? I told them that there are four purposes for studying abroad: diploma, language, international outlook and the ability to solve problems independently. I don't ask them to attend any prestigious schools, as long as they are recognized by the Ministry of Education and their homework is "graduation". Therefore, I told them not to stay in the library all day, but to broaden their horizons, experience more culture, make more friends, and go deep into local families ..... These are more important than their homework. Q. won't your children ask you for help when they are in trouble? A I seldom help them clean up the mess. They are used to it, so they seldom ask for help, because asking for help is not very useful. When my son was a soldier, he served in Guantian boot camp. In addition to cooking and cleaning the shooting range, he had to stand guard at night, which was very fuck. He often sends me short messages complaining that he has almost no time to sleep, and he is too tired to go crazy. "Isn't dad very resourceful?" Why don't you find a way to get me to transfer my unit? "I always ignored him, but encouraged him to be patient. It was an intensive study. I didn't go to his commander until three months before he left the army. As soon as the commander saw my business card, he stood in awe and asked me, "What can I do for you? "I said," No, I just heard that my son is going to be fucked to death by you. I'm here to thank you. Being a soldier is all about fuck. If it's cold here, I'll try my best to transfer him. "That evening, the commander asked the squire in Guantian area to hold a table to welcome me. After that, I transferred my son to the officer's office to repair the computer. He didn't have to wear a helmet and leggings, and he also had his own dormitory, which made his last life as a soldier more enjoyable, but there were only three months left. The reason why I went to Guan Shuo three months before I left the army was to make my son feel that this father actually cares about him. Now that the training effect has been achieved, I can't do it too "completely", hahaha. Q. What do you think is the difference between your children and the second generation of pampered enterprises? A They are really worried. As early as in high school, my son began to explore his life with a "bereavement" attitude. Dad is so "heartless" that he really has to rely on himself in the future. How can he not be nervous? He is very interested in computers. When he graduated from high school, he worked hard to get a CCIE (Cisco Certified Internet Work Expert) license. This license is very difficult to test. He was admitted at the age of 19, and he is the youngest Chinese to get this license. I asked him, "Why did you take this license? "He replied," Ah, you've cut me off. I have to find my own way! My son and daughter are studying in new york now. Every time I go to see them, they tell me a lot about their future plans. They are so thoughtful because I cut them off, and they have to help themselves. They are also more tolerant of material lack. I went to new york to see them last winter vacation, but my daughter still carried a big bag she bought at Fengjia Night Market, which was less than NT$ 511. She dares to hold this night market bag in new york, a fashionable metropolis, so confidently and without inferiority. I am proud of her spirit. My son and his girlfriend got married in new york, and even tied flowers themselves. Because American brides are very expensive to hold flowers, a bunch costs 151 dollars, and the cost of making them is only 71 yuan. On the day of registration, I saw that everyone else was wearing a luxurious tuxedo. Only he was wearing a 41-dollar H&M suit with a plain coat with a round neck. Because he didn't have a tie, he took a Mike pen and "drew" a tie on his clothes. The onlookers applauded him hard. I also think my son is really creative! This wedding is guaranteed to be unforgettable for his life. When they came back this winter vacation, I called them over and announced my property disposal plan. In fact, they can "Zhang" (in Taiwanese, cheat) with me, or at least bargain to see if they can raise the proportion. After all, they could have got half of my property in law, but they all agreed without thinking. Because they know that I do it because I love them. They understand that it's for their own good that dad doesn't give them wealth or let them into the company. After all, a life with blood, sweat and tears is a wonderful real life!