How does psychology see through a person? In the process of interpersonal communication, everyone's face has a trace of getting along, but we can see through each other from all aspects. After all, know yourself and know yourself. Let's share how psychology sees through a person.
How does psychology see through a person 1 1 and see his friends?
Psychological research shows that to see through a person, you must look at his close friends. Birds of a feather flock together. Different ways, no common goal, two of a kind. You can't be friends with different personalities. Knowing what kind of person his good friend is, you will have a general understanding of him.
If his good friend is a heinous person, then he is not a good person. On the other hand, if his good friend is a kind person who likes to help others and is ready to help others, then he will not be bad, even if he is not so good. If he goes near Zhu Zhechi, the people near Mexico will be black.
2. Look at his eyes
You should look at a person from the details he unconsciously reveals. What can be achieved can be disguised, and what is not achieved is generally more reliable. The eyes are the windows of the soul, and we can perceive each other's inner world through observation. Psychological research shows that no matter what a person is thinking, his eyes will reflect it truthfully.
Eyes are an important tool for human spiritual communication, and the purpose of exchanging opinions with each other can be achieved through eyes. As I said just now, no matter how beautiful what the other person says, human eyes will betray themselves.
3. Look at his physical behavior
Behavior can best reflect a person's heart. Everyone's behavior is transmitting a kind of information, which includes intuitive expression and objective expression. A lot of unintentional information is true inner feedback.
Through a person's unconscious behavior, you can judge what this person's living environment, educational environment and family environment are, and these three factors are the real "see through" this person's thought, education and cultivation.
4, look at a person's mind,
Seeing through a person depends on his mind and tolerance. It depends on how he faces failure and betrayal. People with great minds know that the sun is shining, parents are generous, gentlemen are generous, and villains are successful.
It is easy for people to forgive themselves, but it is difficult to forgive others. It goes without saying that when a person can forgive others faster than himself. Those who can't grasp failures and setbacks are naturally narrow-minded.
How can psychology see through a person? 2 1. Openness: Are you willing to explore?
Openness usually refers to whether a person is exploratory. The more open he is, the more curious he is and willing to accept new things.
Because the world and vision he sees are broad, his understanding of things will be more diverse.
A person's openness is often related to the level of self-awareness education. An open person is often more educated. He will not stick to right and wrong completely, but will experience himself, feel himself, like challenges and toss himself.
Generally speaking, people who are less open are more conservative. They like to stay in their familiar comfort zone, don't like adventure, respect routine, and like to live step by step.
2. Responsibility: Is there a sense of responsibility?
The second aspect of a person depends on whether he is responsible or not. A responsible person is often responsible for others and himself. He is what we often call a reliable man.
Responsible people are often popular people. Because he is always worried, he tries to accomplish the goal of self-planning every day.
The same is true of team and family members. They will pay more attention to whether something has been done. If no one has done it, they will always feel uneasy and secure after doing it.
This strong sense of responsibility is related to self-demand and conscience. Generally speaking, the stronger the sense of responsibility, the higher the self-demand. So with him, you will find it very worry-free.
People with a weak sense of responsibility like to rely on others, and only emphasize completion when dealing with things. They seldom think about how to do better, and they are very lazy.
3. Extrovert: Is it introverted or extroverted?
The third way to look at a person is to look at his internal and external tendencies.
We may all have heard a lot about the standards of introverts and extroverts. Psychologists believe that everyone has two dimensions: introversion and extroversion.
Introverts and extroverts may be talkative and sociable, which is not an important criterion to distinguish them.
Whether a person is extroverted or introverted depends mainly on where his energy comes from.
The way for truly introverted people to regain their energy is often to repair and adjust themselves through self-quietness. They regain their energy and don't like others making too much noise. Liu Ye once told me that he likes to stay in a quiet angle when he is nervous after filming, even if he doesn't come out for a few days.
Extroverts, on the other hand, will find more people to find their own energy. For example, Liang Dong told us that the best way to restore his energy is to talk to a more advanced teacher. The more he does this, the stronger his heart becomes.
4. agreeableness: whether it is moderate or not.
The third characteristic of a person is whether he is gentle, kind and modest.
Generally speaking, the more gentle, kind and modest a person with a high pleasant index is, the more popular he is in the crowd.
However, people with high agreeableness tend to pay too much attention to human nature, and without an iron fist policy, it is often possible and unprincipled.
I once had a teacher who started a company, and then the company closed down. He told us that it was because he was so kind that he approved anyone who asked him for leave. There are basically no people in the company who can work overtime, and then the company can't continue to operate.
He once said that people who start companies should be ruthless and have a werewolf culture. On the one hand, they must have a bodhisattva's heart, on the other hand, they must have drastic measures, so that the company can operate normally.
5. Nervous: Are you emotionally stable?
The fifth characteristic of a person is to see his nervousness and whether his mood is stable. Some people may be emotionally stable and nothing will happen when they meet.
But some people are naturally sensitive, such as Lin Daiyu, whom we are familiar with. Her personality is very easy to be worried, kind, and a little thing can stir up inner waves.
A person with stable emotions often feels dull, and he may be more able to withstand setbacks and blows.
People with sensitive emotions are vulnerable. Because their nerve endings are very sensitive.
This is what we often say, because they tend to overuse their feelings and be disturbed by their emotions. If they can't get out, they will hurt themselves.
So is San Mao. He is a writer. Actually, her mood is very sensitive. After her husband left her, she finally committed suicide, which made us deeply sorry.
Generally speaking, if we want to see through a person, we can use this five-factor personality model:
Open, whether you like exploration or conservatism; Responsibility, whether you like to take the initiative or rely on others;
Extrovert: whether it is introverted or extroverted; Pleasure, whether gentle and modest or narcissistic;
Nervousness, emotional sensitivity or emotional stability.
Generally speaking, through careful identification, we can clearly understand what a person's essence is, which is also the most important way to help us understand people.
Of course, personality itself can be adjusted, and we can also shape our own personality through these aspects to keep ourselves in an elastic space.
This represents a person's plasticity. When you know more about human nature, each of us can become the master of human nature, adjust ourselves according to the environment and shape ourselves.
How psychology sees through a person 3. The way to see a person's character from a circle of friends.
People who often take selfies.
A person's narcissism can be roughly judged by the frequency of self-portraits in his circle of friends. If he often takes selfies with P, it means that this person stinks and is hopeless.
Often send a circle of friends, with a lot of content.
Normal people are busy with their work and career, and they don't send n friends a day (except WeChat business). People who often send friends circle must be very eager for attention in life, impulsive, emotionally unstable and impatient.
Often turn to "chicken soup"
Most people who like to transfer these articles have some experience and will share it after they have a certain understanding of life. Most of their hearts are full of positive energy, and they usually like to use "chicken soup" to guide others, which is a bit embarrassing.
Send only work-related content.
This kind of person must be a workaholic, using social tools as a platform to develop his work. They are generally indifferent and will use the resources available around them to complete their work. Even more frightening is that when choosing the other half, you will also consider whether it is useful.
Concerned about national affairs
Lose your temper easily. Chatting with this kind of person, you will feel that he "knows astronomy above and geography below", and then it is useless.
Seldom send a circle of friends.
Just because he seldom sends a circle of friends doesn't mean he doesn't look at it. This kind of person likes silence in life. The only way to get in touch with him is to open his heart. When you get to know him, you will find that this product is so man show.
A person who spreads negative emotions
Such people usually have a lot of dissatisfaction with life and social phenomena. If you are such a person, it is recommended to talk to people around you more, which can relieve anxiety and release stress.
Like to comment on other people's dynamics.
This kind of person's life is easy to enrich and optimistic. They have more say in communication and are good at communicating with others.
Purchasing, WeChat business
Er … I don't know how much money I can earn, and I tirelessly send out various advertisements every day. The circle of friends is a platform for sharing life, and commercialization always makes people feel bad. This kind of person is hardworking, optimistic and enterprising. The only bad thing is that he is easily brainwashed.