Coordinates Lujia Village, Weishi County, Kaifeng City, Henan Province, Xiaohui, a 30-year-old boy, and Jingjing, his wife, have a great contradiction, and quarreling has become a common occurrence. Because Xiaohui couldn't solve the immediate problem by herself, she invited a mediator in desperation, hoping to untie this knot. However, after the mediator explained her intention, Jingjing went straight into the bedroom, closed the door and avoided it, swearing at her husband through the window. Not only that, when her husband came into the room to persuade, Jingjing began to punch and kick Xiaohui without saying anything.
Judging from this situation, the relationship between two people must be very tense at ordinary times. What caused Jingjing to be so angry? Xiaohui said that since marriage, his wife has been at odds with his father, and the two have not spoken for several years. Xiaohui's father said that he didn't know why and there was no contradiction, but his daughter-in-law just had a problem with herself and never even allowed herself to eat in the kitchen.
The so-called eyes of the masses are discerning. What are the two sides? I can't say it myself. The mediator decided to find a neighbor to know about it. Speaking of Xiaohui's parents, everyone said that the old couple were honest people. The family helped them clean up and the children helped them with it. Even the fields of Xiaohui and his wife were planted by the old couple. However, after the autumn harvest, Xiaohui and his wife bought food and put all the money in their pockets. In short, the villagers gave unanimous praise to the old couple.
What about this daughter-in-law When it comes to Jingjing, many neighbors have become secretive and avoided talking about it. Some people also commented that this daughter-in-law bullied others and told her husband to beat and scold.
Neighbor: "She hasn't come out in the house. She (Jingjing) has never been to the toilet. Regardless of her size, she is usually in that jar, and her husband takes it out for her every day. "
Mediator: "Is there no toilet in his house?"
Neighbor: "Why not? Just in the yard, she is dirty and there is no water in the countryside. "
During the mediation, Jingjing's mother also rushed to the scene, and she explained the root of the contradiction. Jingjing grew up in the county seat, and her parents divorced at the age of ten. This marriage was led by my grandmother. At that time, my biological mother came back to persuade her that there were no young men in the county and she wanted to marry him. However, because the two young people had been in contact for a long time, Jingjing was seventeen or eighteen at that time and did not listen to her mother's persuasion. As a result, I found out after marriage that the village is like this and the road is like this dirt road. ...
Jingjing's mother-in-law bluntly said that this daughter-in-law was too poor at home. Xiaohui said that because his wife is a city dweller, she may not be used to living in the countryside. Because of this, Xiaohui takes good care of Jingjing. She never lacks snacks at home and goes out to buy her breakfast every morning. However, Jingjing never took this family seriously, even her own son. According to Xiaohui's father, no one is allowed to eat snacks in her room, even her son wants to eat them.
She said directly to Xiaohui, "You should buy it for her early every day, and you should take it out regardless of the urine. It's not something you can't help. You are in bring disgrace to oneself. What she looks like today is what you are used to. This habit is to push her nose and face to the sky. If you persist, first of all, you have no dignity, and second, I don't think you can get her respect for you. Does she treat you like a man? Your home is a deformed home. I advise you to let go, give it to your parents and win yourself a face. "
Regarding the contradiction of marriage, others have always adhered to a principle, as evidenced by two old sayings, one is "persuade not to divorce" and the other is "tear down ten temples and not ruin a marriage". However, at the mediation site, Jingjing repeatedly lost control of her emotions, beat and scolded her husband, and even the mediator scolded her. This made the mediator lose the patience of "persuading peace". Perhaps the mediator thinks that such a marriage is unnecessary to save. Finally, Jingjing and Xiaohui simply reached a divorce agreement, and it's up to them how to go in the future.
For a girl who is used to using toilets, it may be strange to see rural latrines for the first time, but no matter how dirty the rural latrines are, I'm afraid I can't get in for nine years. As the saying goes, "marry a chicken with a chicken, and marry a dog with a dog." Although this view is somewhat outdated, girls have the right to choose a better life again. However, the author still believes that to accept a man, we must accept his family, his economic conditions and his living environment, which is the basis for them to live in harmony for a long time.
In other words, even if you really can't accept the poor living conditions of your husband's family, you should leave as soon as possible instead of making do with it for many years. Living in this state for nine years has become a joke in the eyes of neighbors. More importantly, the family is also restless, and it is also their own youth that is delayed. Writing here, I don't know whether Jingjing made a mistake in life or married wrongly.
Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. The reason is nothing more than talking about romance when you are in love. Once you get married, the topic will soon become a trivial matter. In fact, in the final analysis, it is caused by insufficient psychological preparation for marriage. Nineteen sisters think that marriage is not the grave of love, because obviously, many people, even if they live in the trivial things of oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and pots and pans, can still make them full of love and even make the love after marriage sweeter and mellow. The key is how you manage it.