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At our age, it is natural for many parents to have a person in their eyes.
So those who are lonely naturally have to face all kinds of children of Uncle Zhang, Aunt Wang and Uncle Li.
What's the matter? Blind date
Failure once, failure twice, and failure three times ... your family will inevitably blame you for being picky.
If you ask me, you should not only choose, but also choose well. When you go to the vegetable market to buy food, you should choose the right dish. People who want to live together all their lives can't be choosy.
If you like your looks, you can get along with your three views. It's not enough for you to get together. You have to get together for fun.
Below, I, a teenager who has been in love, will teach you the dating cheats of single men and women of school age and tell you what to pay attention to at the scene and in the follow-up after meeting the right person.
Note that I'm talking about the mode of falling in love first and then getting married. To get married, you must first find true love. Those who don't plan to fall in love after blind date and get married directly can not look at me. )
The story has to start here.
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Recently, a friend's family arranged a blind date for him.
We are all shocked to hear the news!
This fool who can't even speak in front of girls is dating!
So we have the following dialogue:
What about the girl?
-Beautiful, a teacher.
-If you don't wear makeup, say she's beautiful.
-I can't see it! It seems to be plain makeup.
Analysis: Here, a friend asked a question that straight male cancer patients generally make: What makeup do girls wear?
Usually in a slightly formal occasion, girls will wear BB cream and lip gloss even if they don't wear heavy makeup.
Lip gloss has so many colors, which one is red and which one is red, you can't recognize it? It doesn't matter, you just have to say "Your lip gloss makes people feel good today, and it really weighs your clothes".
After all, it is not appropriate to check other people's accounts in the first sentence of a blind date, so it is a good way to break the deadlock to praise the other person's dress that day. Who doesn't like being praised for being good-looking?
-What did you talk about?
She is a calligraphy teacher, so I will talk to her about calligraphy. How many kinds of wolf hair are there? After talking about wolf hair, it is all kinds of pen and ink ... (I won't list them here) In retrospect, she was completely at a loss.
Analysis: Here, he fully shows the problem that an idiot can't talk in front of girls.
Girls come here for blind date, not to study with you how many kinds of wolf hair there are, and whether it is necessary to write in Qing Yan ink and Guangdong ink.
In fact, I can still see that my friend is an expert, but it is best to show off the connotation in an interesting place. )
Therefore, you should start with the most frequent and insightful part of each other's life and start your topic.
Take my friend's blind date as an example.
She is a teacher, so you can ask the students if they are tired. I heard that students are still very naughty. When I was at school ... (list an interesting thing at school) Q: Have you ever met such a student?
As a result, the other person resonated, and at the same time, according to the answer, you can judge what kind of temperament the other person is.
After these topics have been discussed, you can continue to digress slightly. Like family, hobbies.
Take hobbies as an example, you need an incentive. For example, have you seen The Mermaid recently? If you don't read the answer, you shouldn't discuss the topic of mermaid further. You could say it was Deng Chao. He is very interesting, especially the runner. I watched several episodes, which was quite interesting. Maybe you'll get a sentence "I watch it, too?" But I prefer South Korea's ... ".
You can explore each other's preferences through these exchanges, so as to make the next deployment for your future actions.
Later, I asked her if she wanted to watch Star Wars, but she said she was not interested. So I went alone.
Analysis: After this blind date, my friend consciously asked the girl to watch a movie. But the ending was stupid. As a normal person, we should do this: There seem to be many movies recently, which one do you think you would like to see more? A: So-and-so, you can invite each other to watch it right away. If the other party readily agrees, the blind date will be quite successful. If the other party refuses, in most cases, the blind date will be yellow. If he comes again, the other party says he is not available at that time and will make an appointment next time. You can also make an appointment another day. Movies here can also be changed into restaurants or something.
So what else should we pay attention to?
a.
It is better for girls to be reserved, so that boys can guide the topic appropriately and then echo what they are interested in. Of course, if you meet a boy who you like better, you can take the initiative, but don't be too strong. After all, idiots need to set up slowly.
As a boy, it is appropriate to take the initiative, but there is no straight male cancer. The topic should be gradual, and take the initiative to avoid some embarrassing questions, such as whether there are any objects before.
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Don't dress too formally or casually, just be natural and show your true self. You won't recognize it if you don't wash your face and get married.
It is especially important for boys to wash their hair and face. Who wants to be dirty?
In addition, friends who smoke should not smoke directly. It's best to beat about the bush first and see each other's attitude towards smoking. For example, does your uncle smoke at home? If someone smokes nearby, you can ask him if he is uncomfortable.
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I won't say much about basic etiquette. Be careful when opening the door, moving stools, adding water and picking vegetables, especially when picking vegetables. Don't do it too often, as long as it makes people feel comfortable. Give it a proper clip (remember to use public chopsticks) to show respect. After the blind date, boys will look more gentlemanly when they check out. Before you leave, ask if you want to send the other person home, especially after seeing a movie and eating. When sending people home, boys should pay attention to: cross the road on the side where the car comes, don't ask why, feel for yourself.
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After the blind date is completed, we feel good about each other. What should I do next after leaving contact information with each other?
My friend boss Tian has encountered this problem. After the blind date, the other person looks good and I don't know what to do next.
a.
For girls, you can look at people's circle of friends, leave a message when you meet a topic of interest, and see if you have a common hobby.
Boss Tian told me that the man didn't make many friends. What should I do?
Then you can send more friends to show him. For example, you can send "I heard that this restaurant is particularly delicious and I really want to go." ...
If the other person is interested in you, he will definitely try to strike up a conversation with you.
If he sees your circle of friends and wants to travel with you, then you can have a good date.
What if the other party basically doesn't need a circle of friends?
You can euphemistically express your idea of dating and send him a selfie. Does my skirt look good? I just went shopping with my best friend and agreed to have dinner together. Something came up and she had to go home alone.
If he has a good impression on you and sees this message, I believe he is not a fool and will know that it is time to invite you to dinner.
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Boys should find common topics in girls' circle of friends, take the initiative to attack, and go out to see a movie and have a meal when they are happy. Watch more entertainment variety shows, and don't chat at that time. It's not boring at all What's the point of eating silently? Of course, you should also read more books. If you are poetic, you will look more handsome.
What if the other party does not send a circle of friends? You should find a way to continue, and digress from the topic that everyone talked very well last blind date. Remember, find a place to chat after work. It's almost time to chat. It's time for dinner, so I asked if you wanted to have dinner together. If you don't agree, the other party says we'll make an appointment next time, so just say, "How about this weekend?"
If the other person has a good impression, he will definitely agree.
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On the first date for dinner, boys usually let girls pick a place.
Then girls can take the initiative to pay the bill after eating. If the other person wants to rob, you can say: I'm sorry, it's obviously what I want to eat. Or I'll treat you/me to a movie next time (meanwhile, I've arranged the next date)! But you can accept the man's bill with peace of mind.
If the other party does not rob, it is basically certain that this person is an idiot.
In fact, girls want to pay the bill, which sometimes makes boys very comfortable. You don't have to pay the bill. You will make people think that you are sensible and considerate.
Of course, it is a good feeling for girls to pay the bill moderately. When paying the bill, remember not to go by yourself, but to give the wallet to the man. In this way, whoever has face will feel proud. (The local tyrant said, "I don't care. I just like that you like my money." Forget what I said. )
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Boys don't talk nonsense, just pay the bill, if not, don't fall in love. Whose girl are you going to make suffer?
So what else should we pay attention to?
a.
After more dates, the two sides can talk about the three views, work and life. So you can get to know each other better. As I said before, three views are very important, and love and marriage are spiritually compatible.
b.
Eating habits and hobbies are also important. After all, chatting, eating and playing together is a very happy thing. If there are differences between you, make it clear.
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Girls with makeup can properly expose their true colors. You can ask a boy to run together or take a walk and drink with him after fitness to see if he is a face-saving person without makeup.
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It is necessary to buy some small gifts appropriately, not an immaterial thing. You have to believe a truth: you can spend money without your heart, but who knows if you spend money without your heart? Not too expensive, just interesting.
In addition, if the gift for the other party is jewelry, you should show your face properly and tell the other party that you like the gift very much.
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Finally, confession is not taught here. Some things will happen naturally and you will do it naturally.
Do you like keeping dogs?
What dog?
-I this single dog.
How much love have you lost? I dare not say it, but I like it. Say it out loud. This matter, not afraid of shame! !
Remember, don't talk about terms in a hurry. It's best to fall in love first and then talk about the terms. After all, you like people, not conditions. When people are right, conditions will naturally improve. No matter how good the conditions are, it is futile for people to be wrong.
Of course, no matter what the conditions are, your father-in-law/parents-in-law always has some conditions. So, boys and girls, work hard for love!
I wish the majority of age-appropriate single men and women a successful blind date! Find true love! I hope you can forgive all my unknowns. After all, I am still single dog!
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The authenticity of this article is only for your own test, I am irresponsible!