Marriage system. The Mongolian people have two marriage systems: marriage by robbery and betrothal. Marriage robbery is a form of marriage in a slave society. Before the 13th century AD, most Mongolian society was based on a system of robbery. For example, Genghis Khan's father Yesugei arranged the marriage between Adul and Mrs. Hoelun, which was a form of robbery. Betrothal marriage is a form of marriage in feudal society. After the 13th century AD, the Mongolian people entered feudal society, and the betrothal system was widely implemented. But there are still remnants of the marriage-robbing system. In inter-tribal wars, marriage abduction or robbery is still common.

Ask for marriage. Before young men and women get engaged, the man must propose to the woman. Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, the man's parents or a matchmaker usually went to the woman's family to propose marriage. If the woman's family agreed, the marriage could be engaged. According to the traditional marriage customs of the Mongolian people, the man must propose to the bride's family many times before he can get the bride's family's promise. Volume 1 of the "Secret History of Mongolia" records: Yesugei brought his son Temujin (Genghis Khan) to the house of De Xue Chan to propose marriage. De Xue Chan said: "If you ask a few times more, you will be given something, and you will be respected; if you ask a few times, you will be given something, and you will be looked down upon." Later, a Mongolian proverb was formed: "Ask a lot, and you will be despised." "It's expensive, but it's cheap if you don't ask for it." After the marriage proposal is reached, the man will bring Hada, milk wine and five-forked or whole sheep to the girl's house to "make the decision". The bride's family invites relatives and friends to accompany the guests to drink, which is a formal engagement

Brophy gift. After young men and women get engaged, the gifts given by the man's family to the woman's family are also called betrothal gifts. The amount of the betrothal gift depends on the financial situation of the groom's family. In agricultural areas, gold and silver jewelry, cabinets, and clothing are often used as betrothal gifts; in pastoral areas, cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock are often used as betrothal gifts. Herdsmen regard "nine" as an auspicious number, and the betrothal gift starts from "nine". From "one nine" to "nine nine", the maximum number should not exceed eighty-one. Taking "nine nine" as the meaning of longevity. If poor herders do not have the betrothal gift of nine livestock, they can also choose an odd number less than nine, with three, five, or seven livestock as the betrothal gift, but they must not choose an even number.

Dowry. The bride's family accompanies her daughter as a wedding gift. The Mongolian people are very particular about giving dowries. Whatever the betrothal gift given by the man, the woman must accompany it with a corresponding amount of dowry. Usually the things given by the woman as a dowry are more than the things given by the man to the woman's family. Therefore, the Mongolian people have a saying: "If you can afford a wife, you can't afford a girl."

Choose an auspicious day. One of the Mongolian wedding customs. Also known as choosing a happy day. Before liberation, after the couple got engaged, they first asked a lama to perform divination to choose an auspicious day and determine the wedding date. After the auspicious day is chosen, the groom's family sends matchmakers, relatives and friends to the bride's family with gifts such as khatas, fine wine, candies, etc. to discuss marriage matters with her parents. After the negotiation was completed, the male and female families began to prepare for the marriage. Usually, the wedding room is cleaned, a new yurt is built, cattle and sheep are slaughtered, betrothal gifts, dowries and other wedding supplies are prepared, and relatives and friends of both parties are notified to come and congratulate them.

Get married. One of the Mongolian wedding customs. In the past, Mongolian marriages were very grand, and they still retained the traditional marriage custom of a man staying at a woman's home to get married. The wedding usually takes place the day before the wedding day. In a joyful atmosphere, the groom put on a gorgeous Mongolian robe, a ribbon on his waist, a round-top red tassel hat on his head, high leather boots, and a bow and arrow. The groomsmen were also dressed in festive attire. They ride on horses together, carry floats and gifts, and go to the bride's house to get married. When the bride goes to the bride's house, she first goes around the yurt and presents a "door-touching sheep" and other gifts to the bride's family. Then, the groom and the groomsmen held khatas and fine wine in their hands, toasted to the bride's parents and eldest relatives one by one, and knelt down to worship. After the ceremony, the newlyweds sit down for a meal. In the evening, a banquet of five-forked sheep was held. And held a traditional ceremony of asking for names and asking for help. In the early morning of the next day, when the bridegroom sets off, the bride is carried onto the float by her uncle or uncle. The groom has to ride his horse three times around the bride's float. Then, the bridegroom and the sender set off together.

Wedding. The Mongolian people attach great importance to wedding ceremonies. Although the forms vary from region to region, they are all very grand and lively. The general wedding custom in pastoral areas is: after getting married and returning to the groom's house, the bride and groom first circle the yurt three times without dismounting. Then, the groom and the bride both walked through two piles of fire and accepted the cleansing of the God of Fire. Represents the purity of love and the prosperity of new life. After the bride and groom enter the yurt, they first worship Buddha and worship the stove, and then meet their parents, relatives and friends. After the ceremony, the groom will comb the bride's hair. After freshening up and changing clothes, wait for the wedding banquet to begin. Wedding banquets usually feature sheep's backs or whole sheep mats, and all kinds of dairy products and candies are available. At the wedding banquet, the groom carries a silver pot and the bride holds a silver bowl, presenting hada and toasting the wedding wine to the elders, relatives and friends one by one. The young men held their silver cups high and drank happily; the girls sang loudly along with the morinouqin. The wedding banquet often lasts for two or three days before relatives and friends leave one after another. The bride's bride-to-be will also have to leave someone to stay with the bride for one to three days. Sometimes, the bride's mother also sees the bride off and stays there for more than ten days. When they parted, mother and daughter hugged and cried bitterly, expressing their reluctance to leave.

Worship fire. An important ceremony in Mongolian weddings. Although the forms of fire worship vary among Mongolian people in various places. But it is an indispensable part of the wedding. After the bride marries the groom's family, she must first hold a fire worship ceremony. The bride and groom pass between two piles of fire and receive the baptism of fire, making their love more pure, steadfast, happy, and growing old together. The fire worship ceremony of the Dulbert Mongolian people is unique. When the bride enters her husband's house, a fire is set up in the yard. The groom and the bride must pour milk and wine into the fire together and kneel down and kowtow. The master of ceremonies stood beside him and recited "Praise of Fire": The flint discovered by the Holy Lord Genghis Khan, the fire preserved by Hoelun's mother and wife, and sacrificed with white hada and milk wine, the national fire has been from ancient times to the present.

Please pray for the bride and groom! The divine fire is the witness of your marriage; please kowtow to the bride and groom! The light of the Buddha will carry on the family lineage for you.

Ask Geng for his name. One of the Mongolian marriage procedures. Ask for the bride’s name. Also known as asking for a seal. It's a fun jaunt. On the night when the bride is staying at the bride's house, a five-fork or whole-sheep banquet, also called a famous banquet, will be arranged in the bride's boudoir. The groom, the bride, the bride, her brothers, sisters-in-law, and sisters are all peers and attend this banquet. At the banquet, everyone played tricks on the groom, forcing him to kneel or half-kneel and ask for the bride's baby name or nickname. The bride is shy and silent, or deliberately refuses to answer. The bride's sister-in-law and sisters also didn't answer, deliberately stalling for time. At this time, the man's congratulator and the woman's sister-in-law answer each other's questions and sing antiphonal songs. The name-seeking party does not end until the woman reveals her true name. Seeking fame and asking for Geng is actually an intellectual competition to express the intelligence and wisdom of Mongolian young men and women.

Naughty hat. Also called hat grabbing. In the past, when the Mongolians were on their way to get married, the bride-to-be and the bride-to-be would gallop and chase each other, trying to get home first and become the winner. For this reason, the two sides will have a hat-trick competition on the way. Usually the bridegroom senders try their best to snatch the bride's hat, pick it on the riding crop, or throw it to the ground, forcing the groom to get off his horse to pick it up, thereby affecting his speed. Married people protect each other and don't let the bride-to-be take away the hat. Along the way, you chase each other and play with each other, giving you a strong atmosphere of grassland life.

Choose auspicious days and avoid unlucky days

The ancient Mongolians chose auspicious days to judge by the profit and loss of the moon, because they believed that the appearance of the moon was closely related to human actions. When the new moon appeared in the sky, or when the moon was full, they set out to do whatever they wished. "The Story of the Black Tartars" says: "When he chooses a day to act, he will proceed based on profit and loss."

The Mongols also used this method to determine the date of the campaign. Regarding this, "History of the Heart", "Historical Records· There are similar accounts in "The Biography of the Huns", "The Biography of the Turks in the Sui Dynasty" and "The History of Mongolia" by Garbini. "Historical Records·Biography of the Xiongnu" records: "When the moon is about to be full, you will be waiting for the star and the moon. When the moon is strong, you will attack, and when the moon is weak, you will retreat." "Book of Sui·Biography of the Turks" says: "When the moon is about to be full, you will often be copied by the bandit."

This is a psychological state in which shamans use natural phenomena as divination, and is a manifestation of primitive religion filling people's lives. However, until modern times, there is still a custom of predicting the harvest of the year based on weather changes at the "Beginning of Spring" and "Qingming Festival". This has resulted in some taboos that restrict agricultural and animal husbandry production.