In a jewelry store, a man is standing in front of the counter looking at jewelry, putting his schoolbag and some books beside him.
Just as he was choosing jewelry, a well-dressed and handsome man also went to see jewelry. He moved his schoolbag politely. But the handsome man glared at the man angrily and said loudly, "what do you mean?" Do you think I would steal your bag? I tell you, I am a gentleman, and I would never do that! " Then he slammed the door and left the jewelry store.
"Hum, psycho." Somehow, he was yelled at. Men are very angry and can't bear to see jewelry. He went out to drive home.
The car on the road is like a huge and stupid caterpillar, crawling slowly. Looking at the cars around him, he was angry: where did you get so many cars Where are these smelly drivers? I can hardly drive! That guy drove too fast, which killed him! This guy is too slow. How did he learn to drive? He should be deducted from the coach bonus. ...
Later, he and a big truck reached a crossroads at the same time. He thought, "This guy will definitely drive his big car."
When he subconsciously prepared to slow down and give way, the truck slowed down first. The driver stuck his head out of the window and waved to him to go first, with a cheerful and happy smile on his face. When he drove through the intersection, all the unhappiness suddenly disappeared, which made him very comfortable.
The handsome guy in the jewelry store infected his bad mood to the people around him, which made others bring bad mood, so that the world in his eyes was full of hostility. And the smiling truck driver "infected" his good mood to the people around him.
There is such a story:
A young man came to an oasis on the edge of the desert and met an old gentleman on the road.
The young man asked, "How is it here?"
The old man asked, "What's your hometown like?"
The young man replied, "It's terrible! I hate it. "
Hearing this, the old man said, "Then go! It's as bad here as your hometown! "
Soon, another young man came, met the old man and asked the same question.
The old man asked again, "How is your hometown?"
The young man replied, "My hometown is very good. I miss people and things in my hometown very much ... "
The old man said, "It's just as good here."
The bystander was surprised and asked the old man, "Why don't your answers agree?"
The old man said, "What are you looking for? You will find it!" "
With a happy mood, you can hear the birds singing. The world has not changed, but the mood has changed, and the mood is contagious.
After many investigations and experiments, Dr. Edward of Columbia University concluded: "The real reason for the decline in job performance is boredom."
If you are interested in work, your boredom will be reduced and your work performance will be improved a lot, which is what people often say now: "Living at work is interesting."
Barcas Arioux, the great philosopher of the Roman Empire, said, "Life is made up of thoughts." We have to say that whether you are interested in your job depends on what you think. As the protagonist in Jeremy Kane's musical comedy "Painting House in Gong Xuan" said, "The luckiest person is the one who can do what he likes. This is because they are more energetic, happier and less anxious and tired. "
Dr. Joseph Bamak of the United States made an experiment:
He arranged for a group of college students to take part in a series of experimental work that they were not interested in. As a result, all the students feel tired, have headaches, have sore eyes, and always doze off, want to lose their temper, and even a few people have gastrointestinal discomfort. By testing them, we know that when a person is bored, his blood oxidation will decrease.
Jin Man, president of Minneapolis Agricultural and Industrial Savings Bank, said one thing:
1943 In July, the Canadian government asked the Canadian Alpine Mountaineering Department to assist the Welsh Legion in mountaineering training, and Jin Man was one of the invited coaches. He and other coaches aged between 42 and 59 took these young soldiers on a long journey. Over many glaciers and snow, and then climb a 40-foot cliff with ropes and some simple tools. They climbed many peaks in the Xiaoyue Valley. After 15 hours of mountaineering activities, all the very strong young people who have just finished six weeks of strict military training are exhausted!
Do they feel tired because their muscles are not strong enough during military training? Anyone who has received strict military training thinks that this is not a problem at all. They feel tired because they are tired of climbing mountains. Many soldiers were so tired that they fell asleep without waiting for dinner.
But what about coaches who are twice as old as soldiers? Yes, they feel tired, too, but they are not exhausted. After dinner, they still sat there chatting for an hour. The reason why they are not so tired as to fall down is that they are interested in climbing mountains.
A person's interest is his ability!
When a person does a job that interests and excites him, he seldom feels tired. Even physical activities, such as mountain climbing, don't make you tired as easily as boredom.
I'd like to introduce you to a typing lady. Her story is really intriguing:
When she got home one night, she was exhausted. Headache, backache, not even eating, want to sleep.
Mother repeatedly mobilized, and she barely sat down at the table. Just then, the telephone rang. It was her boyfriend who asked her out to dance. Her eyes suddenly lit up and her spirit suddenly perked up. She rushed upstairs, put on her beloved sky blue dress and rushed out of the house like a gust of wind. She didn't come back until midnight. Not only did she no longer feel tired, but she was even too excited to sleep.
It's incredible: she was so tired just now, but she was refreshed after receiving a phone call. Was she really tired just now? Yes, but this is not because of work fatigue, but because I am tired of work and have no interest at all.
There are tens of millions of cases like this lady among us, but I wonder if you are one of them?
This story tells us that psychological factors often lead to fatigue more easily than manual labor. When a person is bored, his body's blood pressure and oxidation will decrease, and once he becomes interested in what he is facing, his metabolism will accelerate immediately. At this time, he felt excited, not tired.
This is another example of a typing girl:
She works in an oil company. Every day she has to do the most boring job: fill out the oil sales report. In order to improve her work mood, she thought of a way to turn it into an interesting job.
How? She competes with herself every day. She counted the number of prints in the morning and then tried to break the record in the afternoon. Then count the total number of prints on the first day and try to break the record the next day. In this way, her speed is much faster than others, and there is no fatigue caused by boredom, so she has saved her physical strength and spirit and gained more happiness in her work.
Haas Howard is an American. He made a bold decision that completely changed his life. He turned boring work into fun.
His job is really boring. He washes dishes, cleans counters and sells ice cream in a high school welfare club. He has no interest in this job at all. He also wants to play ball like other boys or date girls, but he has no other job to do, so he decided to take this opportunity to study ice cream-how it is made, what ingredients are in it, and why some ice creams are better.
He studied the chemical composition of ice cream, which made him a genius in high school chemistry courses. Gradually, he became interested in food chemistry. After graduating from high school, he was admitted to Massachusetts State University, specializing in food and nutrition.
On one occasion, new york Cocoa Company held a prize-winning essay activity on the application of cocoa and chocolate. Guess who won the first prize?
That's right. It's Hassie Howard.
Later, he found it difficult to find a job, so he opened a private laboratory in the basement of his home. Shortly after the opening up, the authorities passed a new bill: the number of bacteria contained in milk must be strictly counted. So Hassie Howard began to count bacteria for 14 milk companies, and he had to hire two more assistants.
What will happen in 25 years? Of course, most of these pioneers who are currently engaged in food chemistry experiments have reached retirement age, and many enthusiastic young people will take their place. But Hasee Howard is likely to become a leader in this industry. Some students who bought ice cream from him may be poor and unemployed at home, complaining that they have never been able to find a good job.
In fact, if Hassie Howard didn't try his best to make a boring job interesting, I'm afraid he wouldn't have a good job either.
There is a young man doing a very boring job in a factory. He stood by the bed of the car all day and screwed the screws. He felt that his job was boring and wanted to quit, but he was afraid that he could not find a job.
Since you want to do this boring job, let's make it more interesting! After he made up his mind, he started a production competition with a worker next to him. Their foreman appreciated his production speed and quality very much and soon promoted him to a better position. Of course, this is just the beginning of a series of promotional activities. Finally, this worker, Sam Vaknin, became the chairman of Baldwin Locomotive Manufacturing Company.
If he doesn't work hard to make his work interesting, he may just be a worker all his life.
There are always some problems in people's psychology. If it is not well conditioned, it will lead to a series of adverse reactions. Therefore, everyone should constantly and consciously adjust their psychological state. We should treat real life with a philosophical vision and a scientific attitude, combine ordinary, potential and unique ways of thinking, make a correct judgment on things, and then analyze and deal with them with a normal mentality.
When encountering problems, it is very important to treat them with what attitude. We often say to keep a normal mind, but it is very difficult to really handle things with a normal mind.
For example, if two people with the same identity have their mobile phones stolen by thieves at the same time, those who can't keep their peace of mind will definitely think: I finally saved money to buy a mobile phone, but the thief stole it. This thief is so wicked! I am really unlucky for eight generations! Such a thought, my heart must be more and more unbalanced, more and more troubled, and even unable to work normally. People who keep a normal mind will think: I just want to buy a new mobile phone, and this old one is fine and reluctant to throw it away! Great, the thief helped me solve this problem. I can buy a new mobile phone! Really old, don't go, the new one won't come! Besides, even if I am in a hurry, can the thief give me my mobile phone back? Once you get sick again, it will be too uneconomical! Although this person may not be rich, with such a thought, the depressed mood of the stolen mobile phone can calm down and work normally.
Where there is interest, there is happiness.
A survey shows that 70% people are not interested in work, 20% people are generally interested in work, and only 10% people are interested in work. Most successful people are interested in their work, such as Bill Gates, Shakespeare, Einstein and Yang Lan. This is probably the difference between winners and losers.
Sometimes, it's not that we are not interested in work, but that our work habits are not good. Bad work habits make us lose interest in our work and confuse us. In this case, as long as you develop good work habits, you will be interested in your work.
The following three methods can help you develop good work habits.
First, tidy up your desk, leaving only things that need urgent treatment;
Second, do things according to the importance of things;
Third, don't hesitate to make a decision in time when you encounter problems.
Since you want to do a job that you are not interested in, there is one way to try, and that is: pretend to be happy.
Faced with a job that we have to do and are bored with, if you "pretend" to be interested in it, this little pretend may make you really interested in it and reduce your fatigue, anxiety and boredom. Why not play a "pretend" game with yourself? Maybe you will get unexpected results.
Please look at the following example:
There was an insurance salesman who didn't like his job very much, but he couldn't find another job, so he had to bite the bullet and go on.
In order to increase his confidence, he said to himself before going out every day, "If you want to eat, you have to do it." . If you have to do it, why not enjoy it? Imagine you are an actor, standing on the stage, and there are many audiences watching you below. What you are doing now is like acting. Why aren't you happy? "
So he pretends to be interested in his work and tries to be very happy when he goes to meet his clients. Soon after, he found that he was really interested in the job, so he didn't have to pretend at all!
In fact, it is a challenge to turn something you don't like into something you like. On the one hand, you never liked it, which not only cultivated your interest, but also gained the joy of success. If you can't find interest in your job, it's hard for you to find it elsewhere. If you often cheer yourself up, you can improve your interest in work and bring yourself opportunities for development.
People can only succeed if they do what they are interested in. Psychology believes that when a person is engaged in the work he is interested in, his mood is happy and his attitude is positive, so he may give full play to his talents and create the best results in his work.
We might as well ask ourselves often: "What do I really like?" This is a question that everyone must answer when choosing life. It is important to know your own preferences and listen to your inner voice.
We often say that success is created by interest. Do what you are interested in, will we be far from success?
However, in fact, few people do the work they are interested in from the beginning. Most people's youth is spent in confusion. This is because:
First, when I was young, my interests kept changing, and I didn't know what I was interested in.
Second, although there are lofty and beautiful ideals, they are not allowed to enter the door.
Therefore, although I had the passion to work when I was young, it was a process of discovering interest. If you are not interested in what you are doing, either cultivate interest or find your real interest.
Cultivating interest in work and doing everything well in work will determine the success or failure of a person's future career.
No matter what you do, "interest" is always an important condition for success. Without interest, you will not work hard and it will be difficult to succeed. Interest is the best teacher, only interest can fully mobilize the passion and creativity of life, thus leading us to success.
Therefore, everyone should correctly understand themselves, analyze themselves, sum up themselves, find their own interests, and then work hard in the position where they can play their interests, make continuous progress, and realize their own life value.
Without Li Yang's madness, there would be no crazy English of Li Yang.
In recent years, Li Yang has become a big celebrity in China, and even participated in the Spring Festival Gala in 2002, which was very beautiful. But Li Yang also has a "terrible" past:
Li Yang was a very introverted person when he was a teenager. In the most popular words, he is "afraid of strangers". Already a teenager, relatives and friends still don't know that the Li family has such a child, which is a veritable "ugly duckling". For example, as long as he hears the phone ring, he will hide; After he watched the movie, his father always asked him to repeat the content of the movie. In order not to do such things that he doesn't want to do, he would rather not watch his favorite movies for many years.
There is a typical story: once he got rhinitis, his parents sent him to the hospital for treatment. During electrotherapy, the doctor accidentally leaked electricity and burned his face. Because he was shy, he held back the pain and never told anyone. He still has a small scar on his face.
He said that my biggest fear when I was a child was that I couldn't finish my homework. Therefore, I was often punished by the teacher, and I had to admit my mistake in a low voice every time, but I did it again the next day. ...
Li Yang repeatedly asked his parents to drop out of school. His parents didn't agree, and he didn't drop out of school. He barely survived until he graduated from high school and was admitted to the mechanics department of Lanzhou University. It seems that he is not stupid. But in college, Li Yang was still in a daze and didn't change his image. According to the regulations of the school, he was ordered to drop out of school if he missed 70 classes, but Li Yang soon exceeded 100 class and was almost "invited" out of the school by Lanzhou University.
So, is Li Yang's English particularly good?
Don't! Who can believe that the founder of Crazy English was once a person who couldn't even live for 60 minutes and often had to make up exams to pass? ...
When I was a sophomore, I had to take CET-4, or I was in danger of not getting my degree certificate. Why do you want to go to college? Don't you just get a diploma? But you can't pass level 4. ...
This time, he was forced to go to Liangshan and had to brace himself to learn English every morning. He used to be a lazy man, but now he can't concentrate easily. In order to concentrate, he ran to the Martyrs Pavilion on the campus of Lanzhou University, opened his throat and recited English aloud. This call does not matter, which evokes Li Yang's inspiration: this learning method is not only not easy to get distracted, but also effective!
-He just "roared" for a few weeks, and he actually "roared" out of confidence! Courage came out and he went to the English corner of the school. In fact, his English is passable: students who know his background are surprised and ask him for "fantastic tricks" quickly! Li yang has vaguely felt that this may be a wonderful way at this time. Although he can't say anything, he is determined to go on like this!
From then on, whenever he had time, Li Yang was like a madman, yelling at the Martyrs Pavilion and other places no matter whether it was windy or rainy, sunny or dusty. Sometimes, in order to increase his courage, he actually wears oversized American labor shoes of size 46, baggy pants and earrings, and shouts at the top of his lungs at Lanzhou University, a national key university-
No matter what others think, he just goes his own way: according to himself, he retells about 10 original English books in this way and won the second place in the CET-4. ...
English, which once frightened him the most, now brings him the joy of success. His crazy story goes out of Lanzhou University, Gansu and the whole country. ...
Li Yang has a motto: I like losing face! Li Yang's experience is a face-saving experience.
Li Yang is a naturally introverted and closed child. In order to challenge himself, he wrote more than 40 pages of speeches, telling his experiences in learning English and preparing to give a speech on the podium.
American sociologists have made such a survey that people in the world are most afraid of speaking in public. Li Yang wanted to break through himself, so he decided to give a speech to the whole school. He asked his classmates to help him put up a poster, saying that a man named Li Yang would give an English lecture. ...
That night, Li Yang was "so nervous that he was going to throw up" (Li Yangyu), but he went on stage anyway. Although he was panting, he persisted in the end: the speech was an unexpected success! Li Yang said this for dozens of times, so he became a campus celebrity. ...
What's his goal? Let hundreds of millions of China people speak fluent English! His success lies in his interest in English, although he didn't want to at first. It seems that even if you are not interested, you can force interest. Li Yang Crazy English has been popular for some time, which is to grasp the weakness of people learning English-they don't want to open their mouths and read aloud.
The key to happiness is to find your own interests. Many children, if they do what they like, are not only excited, but also absorbed, tireless and have amazing patience. This is all the magic of interest. A person, whether an adult or a child, can stimulate the enthusiasm for exploration and cultivate interest as long as he is interested in one thing.
It is found that the wisdom of babies is often developed on the basis of early interest, which shows the importance of interest cultivation.
Combining hobbies with career is the best way to get happiness. If a person can choose a career according to his hobbies, he can give full play to his subjective initiative. With interest, I can always be cheerful and happy even if I work hard. Even if you encounter difficulties, you will not give up, but try your best to overcome them with perseverance. Many people, because of their interest, have reached the point where they forget to eat and sleep and indulge in it.
If a person can combine his career and interests, it will be a very good thing, and work will bring him unlimited fun. Edison is a model of combining interest with career.
Out of interest, Edison worked in the laboratory for more than ten hours almost every day, even eating and sleeping in the laboratory, but he didn't feel bitter at all.
Edison once said that he "never stopped working for a day in his life" and declared: "I have endless fun every day!"
Because of his interest in work, Edison invented about 2000 kinds of phonographs, electric lights, movies, storage batteries and so on, which made great contributions to mankind.
1847 In February, Edison was born in Milan, Ohio, USA. When he was a child, he was thin and didn't like to talk, but he loved thinking and was always curious about things around him. He often sits alone at the crossroads in the village, watching how the big elm tree grows green buds and how the autumn wind turns the maple leaves red. He also thought about some big problems for a long time, such as the sun rising in the east in the morning and hiding behind the mountains in the west at night-why there are so many suns in the east, and how can it "rise" endlessly? How big is the mountain behind the west? When will it be filled in? Why are white clouds floating in the blue sky? What's on them? ...
It is this strong curiosity that has always attracted Edison! One day when Edison was five years old, he suddenly disappeared. Dad looked around anxiously and finally found Edison squatting in the chicken coop!
Dad asked strangely, "What are you doing here?"
Edison replied gently and seriously, "I'm incubating chickens ..."
It turned out that the day before, he suddenly found that the hen was lying on the eggs and hatched chicks. He wanted to try it himself. ...
Angry and funny, Dad pulled him up and said, "Silly boy! You can't hatch chickens! Go! "
Little Edison frowned. "Why can't I hatch chickens?"? How can a hen? "
Edison was curious and wanted to know everything. He wants to try everything himself.
Once, he found a wild beehive on the fence of the garden. He carefully put his head into the wild beehive, but the bees were not at home. Good chance! "I want to see what's good in it today." Boy, that young man grabbed a stick and stabbed it-what a shame! The wild bee flew out of the nest with a buzz and came at him. ...
This is the hairy doll who dares to stir up a hornet's nest. At the age of seven, she and her family moved to Port Huron, Michigan. Seven years old is the age to go to school, so it is natural to go to school. At that time, there were only three courses in school: reading, writing and arithmetic. The teachers in that school are boring, and they often punish students with wooden boards like teachers in private schools in China. Edison likes to get to the bottom of it. He often asks some puzzling questions, but the teacher can't answer them. He often became angry from embarrassment and thought Edison was a "fool" ...
Edison dropped out of school because of this. Although he dropped out of school because of this, under the careful education of his mother, he combined his hobbies and interests and eventually became a master!
If you are not afraid of not being able, you are afraid of not being in the state.
We often say that anyone who can do a good job must have a good state first, and then the ability. Without state, even if you have the ability, you can't play it; With the state, you can exercise without ability. ...
Scientific research has proved that the world high jump champion is a flea.
Scientists put fleas on the table. As soon as they strike the table, fleas will jump up at once, which is more than 100 times of their height, so they are called the highest jumping animals in the world!
The scientist experimented with a flea:
Cover the flea mask with a glass cover, and then make the flea jump. The flea hit the glass cover when it took off for the first time. After many times in a row, the flea adjusted the jumping height to adapt to the new environment, and then the jumping height remained below the top of the hood.
Scientists gradually lowered the height of the glass cover, and fleas actively adjusted the jumping height after hitting the wall several times.
Finally, the glass cover was so low that it was close to the table top that the fleas couldn't jump any more and had to climb on the table.
After some time, the scientist took away the glass cover and knocked on the table again. Fleas still can't jump, so they become "reptiles"
Fleas become "reptiles", not because they have lost the ability to jump, but because they are chastened and used to it, and finally become numb after repeated setbacks!
The saddest thing is that although the glass cover no longer exists, the flea doesn't even have the courage to "try again". The limit of the glass cover has been deeply engraved in its very limited subconscious and reflected in its mind-not jumping high, but jumping high.
Animals are like this, so are people: the desire and potential for action are killed by themselves!
This phenomenon is called "self-limitation".
Many people's experiences are similar to this.
When a person is growing up, especially when he is young, he is criticized, hit or frustrated by the outside world (such as parents and teachers), and his enthusiasm and desire for progress are suppressed and blocked by "self-restriction". Without timely guidance and encouragement, they will be afraid of failure, get used to failure, gradually lose confidence and courage, and gradually develop cowardice, hesitation, narrowness, inferiority, loneliness, fear of taking responsibility, lack of enterprising spirit and dare not fight.
Such a character, the most obvious performance in life is to follow the crowd, follow the crowd, have no opinion ... the innate courage has disappeared like this.
When she was over one year old, Helen Keller was blind, deaf and dumb because of illness. To this end, Helen's temper became very violent, and she easily lost her temper and broke things. The family didn't think this was the way to go on, so they hired a patient tutor, Miss Sullivan. Under her influence and education, Helen's character gradually changed.
She knows that her relatives love her very much, so she can't live up to their expectations. She used her only sense of touch, taste and smell to get to know the surrounding environment, tried to enrich herself, and then further studied writing. A few years later, when her first book, My Life, was published, it immediately caused a sensation in the United States.
Although Helen Keller has good facial features, she can overcome her misfortune and finish her college studies. In the future, I will devote myself to the social work of educating disabled children. This enterprising spirit is really worth imitating. Helen Keller is really disabled.
Helen Keller can't give up on herself because of her disability, but work harder and keep making progress, and finally achieve excellent results. Each of us is smart and healthy. If we don't know how to work hard, we should be ashamed!
When encountering difficulties, some people don't try to solve them, but all they can think about is difficulties and failures. Their courage and confidence disappeared in the imaginary difficulties, and their hope of success was lost in waiting for death. There is only one result: complete failure.
Psychologists call this phenomenon "human self-destructive behavior". So, what causes people's self-destruction behavior?
Through analysis, it is pointed out that human self-destruction behavior is caused by the following reasons:
1. Afraid of difficulties
In the face of difficulties, some people are at a loss, even if their retreat and exit are clear in front of them, they turn a blind eye and refuse to take advantage of it. They feel that they are facing an insurmountable gap and don't work hard.