The custom handed down from ancient times can also be called "being a guest, going abroad or returning home" in three generations, which means that the newlyweds bring gifts to the woman's house to visit relatives on the third day of their marriage. At this time, the woman's family should also prepare a banquet (usually at noon, calling a mother-in-law banquet or inviting a son-in-law). After the mothering, the matchmaker's work is over, and the man will give the matchmaker a gift to express his gratitude.
The word mothering means that modern married women return to their parents' home. However, in the study of The Book of Songs, Ge Tan's heroine's woman is not necessarily married, but may also be married. Therefore, the word mothering has two different interpretations: "Go home to comfort your parents" or "get married to comfort your parents".
Custom of mothering banquet
Every region has different customs and habits about when the bride will go home after marriage. Generally, they choose to return to China on the second day, the third day, the seventh day and the ninth day after marriage. In some places, they can return to China at the full moon, but it will not exceed one month. As long as parents and couples discuss the time. When the bride returns to China, there will also be a return banquet at home, and some important relatives of her family will be invited to attend, so the bride and groom should dress up carefully, although it is not necessarily as grand as a wedding.
Mothering-in-laws, also known as being a guest, returning home (used in Minnan) or returning home in three dynasties, refers to the newlyweds bringing gifts to the woman's home on the third day of their marriage, and the woman's home should also prepare a banquet at this time (generally called a mothering banquet or inviting a son-in-law). After the mothering, the matchmaker's work is over, and the man wants to give the matchmaker a gift to express his gratitude.