I casually replied, "Yes, what's the matter?"

"How time flies! This month will pass again, "he said.

At this time, I just came to my senses. He lamented that time passed so quickly.

When I was a child, I always felt that time passed slowly and wanted to grow up quickly. When I grew up, I found that time passed so fast that I ran to four o'clock in the blink of an eye. This feeling is really "a day passes when you close your eyes."

There is still more than a month, and it will be more than half in 2020. Looking back on the past four months, I don't remember anything except staying at home. I have made up my mind to do one thing countless times, such as writing and reading. As a result, it was defeated by mobile phones every time, and everyone was so delayed during the epidemic.

At the beginning of the month, I applied for a book for free in order to force myself not to delay any more. Because after receiving the book, you have to output an article and open the book online within one month. If you can't do it, you must send a red envelope with the same price as the book in the group. It's over after the red envelope is distributed? Too young and too simple, I have to write about opening red envelopes, and it is precisely because of this external force that I have this article.

The book applied for is called How to Learn to Learn, which, as its name implies, is to teach people how to learn. The author of the book is a liberal arts student and is not good at math. Later, because of his career development, he chose to retake mathematics and eventually became a doctor of mathematics.

This book stems from her experience in learning mathematics. The purpose is to help people like her who are not good at certain subjects and learn what they want to learn. This book talks about 10 learning skills and 10 misunderstanding, one of which is how to overcome procrastination.

Why choose 10 when you have it? It is because of the delay before that I struggled in the whirlpool of self-indulgence and self-annoyance every day. When I saw this content, it was like getting a lifeline. At the same time, it also inspired me that procrastination is not only not a disease, but also just proves that you are a normal person.

20 14 went to Chengdu on business for four times, and what impressed me the most was not the beautiful scenery but the food, especially the dish "Ji Bo". Because of the epidemic, I wanted to try to cook by myself, so I found a recipe. There is a step of frying Chili oil in it. I accidentally spilled oil on my hands while cooking. At the moment when I felt pain, I threw the pot out, scaring my family out to see me.

When people feel pain, their first reaction is to avoid it, in order to ensure life safety. Similarly, procrastination is also to ensure life safety. Why do you say that?

In retrospect, under what circumstances would you delay? Most of them are doing difficult and boring things, which will make people feel uncomfortable. This uncomfortable feeling is the same as physical pain, because they wake up the same pain sensor-insular cortex.

Delaying and avoiding injury belong to the same protection mechanism, aiming at avoiding pain and ensuring life safety. If you have procrastination, your physiological mechanism is normal, that is, you are a normal person.

Since procrastination is a normal protection mechanism, can it be delayed with peace of mind? No, although delay is normal, its consequences are harmful.

The book says: procrastination means putting things off until late. There is nothing wrong with putting it off until late. The problem is that procrastination will make things unfinished or unfinished, which will lead to more harm, usually damage to interests, such as promotion and salary increase.

My main job is to write market analysis reports. Once, I had to give a report to my client three days later. This report is very headache and needs to analyze a lot of data. Such a troublesome and early idea has been put off again and again, and as a result, there is only one day left, which can only be completed in a hurry. When the client got the report, he found that there were several mistakes in it, so I was informed criticism, the company, and cancelled all the excellent appraisals in that year.

Procrastination is normal and can avoid causing pain, but the consequences of procrastination will cause deeper harm and greater pain. The easiest way to delay is to judge which is more important and which is not. Everyone has a ruler in his heart. In most cases, procrastination will cause more harm, which is why procrastination is considered bad.

As you may recall, procrastination is to escape the pain, so if you don't delay, you can only keep suffering. No, the brain is smart and has given a solution.

There was once a classmate who was always the last to hand in his homework. Suddenly one day, she was the first to hand in her homework, and then she said in the group, "Before I started writing, I was particularly resistant, just didn't want to write, but after I started, I finished it smoothly." It's so cool that there is no homework. I have to hand in my homework early next time. " Since then, she has handed in her homework in advance every time.

I'm like this myself. Before I actually wrote this article, I kept thinking, "There are many things to do, such as outlining, looking for information, modifying, coding, typesetting, or brushing my mobile phone for a while;" Eat something first; Sleep for a while first, and the result is half a month. But when I really started writing, I actually wrote from 3 pm to 1 1 half past ten in the afternoon, and I didn't listen for a moment. The whole process is very focused, and there is a hearty feeling after writing, which is very cool. I want to continue writing.

Doing nothing is more painful than doing something. If you don't do it, you will always miss it, and you will blame yourself and be annoyed because of procrastination. Although it will hurt, it is only temporary, it will disappear in about 20 minutes, and it will be pleasant at the same time. Therefore, the best way to solve the delay is to act immediately.

So how to act immediately? Just mentioned, the reason for the delay is brain pain; In addition, the pain will disappear after the action, resulting in pleasure. Then, as long as you trick the brain into not feeling pain or doing more pain, it will move. The specific operation has two dimensions:

1. mobilize the internal force of subjective initiative;

2. External force, increasing load, has to be done.

First, internal forces, ice and fire. Mobilize subjective initiative. Two directions:

1. Imagine the benefits of this. When you imagine, you must be specific and mobilize all your senses. For example, what is the best result of things? How will you feel when you get the results? How will people around you react? What reward will you get? Wait a minute. The purpose of doing this is to arouse desire and generate motivation to do it.

2. Imagine the disadvantages of not doing it. We should also mobilize our senses as much as possible, such as: what is the worst result of not doing it? How would you feel? What will people around you say about you? What punishment will you receive? The purpose of doing this is to arouse a stronger sense of pain and make up your mind to do it.

Second, external forces, Taishan coping. Increase the load and have to do it.

Setting a deadline is a good way to overcome procrastination, but its application effect is not ideal.

My work and rest time starts at 6: 30, 1 1 sleeping. Some time ago, I fell in love with an online novel "The First Daughter of Forensic Medicine". I don't go to bed until two or three in the middle of the night and start at ten. Whenever the alarm clock rings at 1 1, I will say in my heart, I will fall asleep after watching for another half an hour, then put down my mobile phone and watch for another half an hour until I can't stand it.

Setting a deadline only in your own world will be overturned at any time and will not achieve the effect of overcoming procrastination. Deadline is effective only if it cannot be overthrown. For example, the boss said to hand in the report before going to work. The school stipulates that classes begin at 9 o'clock; Or everyone around you knows your deadline. In other words: it is to establish death in other people's world. How to do it, three tips:

1. Promise before you finish. Make a promise before doing something. The object of commitment should be related to what you do, such as work and colleagues' commitment; Life and family and friends promise. A little more popular, that is, blow the cow out before doing things, with the aim of using face to urge implementation.

2. collect money first and then develop. Nowadays, many people make their own products, such as paying for knowledge, and they can collect money before developing it. Collecting money is equivalent to making a contract. If you don't implement it, you will be scolded less and your integrity will be lost. You will stick to it for honesty, otherwise you may not get along.

3. Deposit commitment. Find a trustworthy friend, tell him you have to do something and let him supervise you. At the same time, transfer him a sum of money that makes your flesh ache as a deposit. If it is completed on schedule, the money will be returned to you and you will be invited to dinner. If it's not finished, the money will go to him. Be careful, it must be a sum of money that makes your flesh ache. It doesn't matter if it doesn't hurt, just like the n fitness cards you have handled.

As mentioned earlier, forcing yourself to act by taking a book is an external force and a compound external force. The first is to send red envelopes. This book is priced in 50 yuan, which is equivalent to a week's meal (the price in Changchun is relatively low), especially when there is no income, which is very painful; After that, promise first and then finish. If you rob it, it means that you have to write an article and disassemble it, just like the consent clause when registering the APP, and everyone in this group knows that everyone has seen the result. Therefore, these three technologies can be used in combination.

In addition, the sense of accomplishment gained after finishing will promote the motivation to continue and stimulate internal force. In other words, it is possible to promote a virtuous circle and keep it. If you feel lack of motivation again, use these two methods to motivate yourself. The combination of internal force and external force can really move, and when it moves, the task is half finished.

Procrastination is a self-protection mechanism, a normal phenomenon and inevitable; Most delays will have bad consequences. Although procrastination is inevitable, it can reduce the harm it brings. The best way to reduce harm is to act immediately. There are two ways to act immediately: internal force and external force, in which internal force is to mobilize subjective initiative; The external force increases the load and has to be done.

Have you learned?