First, the teacher came to the office and saw a bunch of flowers on his desk. He was very happy and said, "Is this from you?" Hey, it's better to have a girl. My son sent a message this morning, but it was gone. "There are nurses, aunts, and family members who come over halfway and talk about flowers. Yes, which woman doesn't love flowers, and which woman will refuse a full sense of ceremony? Ha ha.
After Mr. Hou sat down, he asked me what I wanted to eat (because we agreed to have dinner together in the evening, and then we could talk casually), Chinese food or western food?
To tell the truth, I'm still a little constrained, and then I'm not too embarrassed to let Mr. Hou spend money every time I come (because the teacher invited me to dinner last time).
Later, we agreed that eating cake was very suitable for this bunch of flowers.
The teacher asked me if I ate my father's candy. Say that toast is delicious?
I said I seldom buy these. Haha, the teacher knows more about snacks than I do. I'm really out.
You see, our DQ ice cream and dad's sugar toast are all here, and the teacher's exquisite settings are still very impressive.
Let's talk about my chat with Mr. Hou. I didn't record it on purpose, I just kept my memory by my brain (I can write whatever I want, whatever I want)
I decided to lose weight, but this time I was not as excited as usual.
This is the first thing to lose weight, hhh.
The teacher said that she lost control for two months last winter and gained ten pounds. She has lost weight after using it for two months now. The process is really painful. I'd rather not eat before and never indulge again ... I'm really convinced. Teachers are over 500 years old, but they still have high demands on their image and weight.
I used to be very taboo about talking about weight, because I was not very confident in myself externally, and I felt ugly, and I was too lazy to make an image, which was ugly. Recently, the mentality has changed a lot, that is, I feel good from the heart. Especially after I changed my hairstyle, many people said that it was cut well and looked better than before (Mr. Hou also said it yesterday). Then I found that making some changes on the basis of accepting my original situation will make me happier, so it has become a very pleasant thing to pay attention to my hairstyle, clothes and lose weight recently, that is, to know that I am fine now. Then I'm not afraid to weigh myself. If it is falling, I will be very happy. If it is rising, I will remind myself to watch my mouth these days.
By the way, yesterday I asked Mr. Hou how much weight I had kept (because I really felt my face was very big, and the meat seemed to be piled on my face), and the teacher said that it should be at least below 105 kg. At that time, I felt incredible, but now I think about it, is it impossible? The teacher is old and can reach 100 kg (of course, the teacher is younger than me). I might as well set a small goal for myself, weighing 52 kg. If I calculate reasonably according to the pace of losing four or five kg a month, I can reach it in two months.
I'm 56 kilograms now,
Ok, then my target weight at the end of May is 54 kilograms.
The target weight at the end of June is 52 kg.
"Losing weight is a woman's lifelong practice"
I used to have resistance when I read this sentence, but now I don't. When everything I do is to please myself, the process is enjoyable ~
I didn't want to take a photo with anyone before, and I thought I was too ugly to look straight. Now I like taking pictures. First, take a good picture. Second, it is very memorable. How nice.
2. Go all out and let nature take its course
This is Mr. Hou's work philosophy, which corresponds to the process and the result respectively.
Teacher Hou treats patients as doctors and students as teachers. He can be so conscientious and get a sense of self-satisfaction and self-realization from it.
You can't expand it here, you need to experience it yourself ~
3. Pay attention to cause and effect in everything
The teacher also said that doctors must be clinical-centered, and your object is the patient first, but in reality many doctors are not.
Everyone is different, everyone has their own choices, everything pays attention to cause and effect, and it is good to be responsible and willing to make their own choices.
4. Life has a direction.
The teacher asked, do you like gerontology and will you do it in the future?
I said, I don't know, but life is directional. I am closest to you now, and I am also doing narrative medicine and studying palliative medicine, including my own general background. Life guides me in one direction. I seldom ask myself what to do in the future now. Life has a direction.
5. Unique outlook on life and death
The teacher also shared with me his views on life and death, including how to continue life after death; How to keep in touch with their loved ones after their death; Memory, carrier, feeling, experience …
If being a doctor has more fringe benefits than other professions, I think this is it, outlook on life and values, thinking about the ultimate proposition ... Of course, only by devoting to being a doctor with temperature can we have these feelings, and only by really thinking can we become a doctor with temperature.
Therefore, Mr. Hou gave me the feeling of being cheerful, optimistic, true and natural. You see, she shuttles through all kinds of complicated and meticulous affairs every day, dealing with all kinds of people, but she doesn't complain. You can see that she takes good care of herself and feels her love for life. She actively strives to make every day colorful and interesting. Although it is not easy to describe a person with the word transparency, Miss Hou is close.
6. View on marriage
I also talked with my teacher about some personal topics. The teacher said that if you don't plan to have children and be a mother, marriage is a bondage. If I have no children, I can be alone, but if I have children, I must have a sense of responsibility and give my children a complete family.
Hh, I thought of myself. Well, actually, I don't want to fall in love at all now. Falling in love will distract a lot of energy, and now you need to improve yourself in many ways. But if one day I decide to be with someone, "rock solid" is the minimum requirement hh. I also need that person to appreciate me, be willing to listen to me, know what I am doing and support me unconditionally. Of course, I will do the same to him. There must be a spark on the spiritual level, otherwise I will live a good life alone. Why should I drag someone here?
Miss Hou and I have many similar ideas, interests and pursuits, and there are also many things I appreciate and want to learn from her. The word "mentor" suits us best.
Finally, let's finish in my usual way,
Everything is just right,
How wonderful everything is ~