Refers to the third and ninth days of a baby's life. Bathing babies on the day of the "Three Dynasties" is called "washing three". One is to wash away the dirt, and the other is to learn from the water when you are young. When you grow up, you are not afraid of water ghosts and the like, and you will be safe all your life.

On the third day after the baby was born, the family picked mugwort leaves and other herbs and decocted them in water, and asked an experienced old woman to bathe the baby, which was called "washing three". After washing, wipe the baby's joints with ginger slices and mugwort leaves, and then pat them with onions three times to get the meaning of cleverness. Then, roll a number of boiled and shelled eggs on the baby, saying that it is to moisturize the baby. The rolled eggs are given to the children in the neighborhood, which is called "rolling eggs". Many people are scrambling to eat "fuck off". Because people think that eating "fuck off" is a symbol of wealth and good luck.

On the day of the Three Dynasties, the host always gave a big banquet to celebrate his "promotion" (becoming a parent) and having a "daughter" (referring to a daughter) or "son" (referring to a boy). It is used to entertain relatives and friends who go to congratulate. This is the so-called "positive three dynasties" (or "positive nine dynasties"). Relatives in each room go to dinner, which is called "three dynasties (or nine dynasties) meal". Of course, guests who go to dinner must give gifts and red envelopes. Of course, on the day or the next day of the baby's birth, the father must bring a "whip" and a gift to his father-in-law's house to report good news. This is the so-called "good news". Tell my parents-in-law that my daughter gave birth to a child, and congratulate them on becoming parents-in-law. And comfort parents-in-law, mother and child are safe, so that they don't have to worry. Before entering the parents' home, "meatball heads" are set off on the roadside or on the floor, which is the first procedure of "reporting good news". At the same time, Xiao Ming's neighborhood and his parents-in-law became grandparents by setting off firecrackers. My parents-in-law will be extremely happy when they learn that they have grandchildren. Then, the parents-in-law killed chickens and ducks to entertain the son-in-law. After dinner, my mother-in-law will sort out the gifts she has already prepared for being a grandmother and prepare to visit and take care of her daughter and grandson at her son-in-law's house. There are always some gifts around Qixian Lake: three or five sets of underwear, shoes and hats, cradles, cages (wooden walkers) and even a lot of baby diapers! Daughter "confinement" eat hens (7-8), eggs (200-400), noodles, pears, longan, cuttlefish, red dates, brown sugar and other supplements. Parents-in-law take these gifts and send them to their son-in-law's house to visit their daughters and take care of their grandchildren. This is the so-called "sending them to the Three Dynasties". The ancestor's "Farewell to the Three Dynasties" ceremony is still popular in the surrounding areas of Qixian Lake, and the food has not changed, except that the cradle and cage sent have been replaced by modern new-style cradles and "walkers".

2. The baby is "out"

Going out of the nest originally means that when a bird reaches a certain age, the husband and wife take it out of the nest to practice flying, finding its way, preying and other activities outside the nest, so that it can live independently from its parents in the future and stand the test of wind, frost, rain and snow. The "coming out" of a baby means that after the baby is full moon, its parents take it to grandma's house to recognize relatives. It is said that after this procedure, the baby will not forget grandma's relatives when he grows up. I won't forget Zun. In addition, children can travel to visit relatives from an early age and be healthy and strong in the future; On the road of life, you will be fearless, have a strong ability to live independently and stand the hardships of life.

On this day, the baby's parents will give him or her a good dress. Dress up and rub some blame ashes between the baby's eyebrows (in Tang Yin), which is a bit like wrapping black charcoal. You can avoid exorcism along the way and bless your child's good health and long life. In addition, it is a decoration, and a small black dot on the white forehead has the effect of "finishing touch".

At grandma's house, grandpa's relatives and friends will get together and kiss him, making the baby cry and the adults laugh, which is very lively. Grandparents watched from ear to ear, happy to kill chickens and ducks, set up a sumptuous banquet and entertain relatives and friends. Big JIU, second JIU, full JIU treat, kuya didn't hold a banquet for nine days. It can be said that it is a great joy! Staying at grandma's house is ten days and a half months.

On the day of going home, grandparents, uncles and aunts will also give the baby red envelopes, clothes, candy and cakes. When going out, wipe off the black spots on the baby's forehead, commonly known as "removing black spots", and then light a cinnabar erythema, indicating that Guanyin Bodhisattva has cast spells, which means that her life will be bright, happy and safe.

In addition to giving out red envelopes, farmers in Qixian Lake area also presented large and round "Ciba" written with red yeast or pasted with red paper. Most of them are blessings, blessings, longevity and happiness. I wish the baby and the whole family a happy life and a bright future. The more you get, the richer you become.

The baby's father is full of "send" and "flash, draw, draw", and the baby's mother goes home with her baby in her arms. Grandparents went out all the way to meet them, and when they saw their grandson coming back, they were so happy that they kept smiling. While catching my grandson, I plan to distribute most of those Ciba to my relatives, friends and neighbors. Its significance lies in sharing the happiness and joy of children's families and devouring the misfortunes and disasters of babies. In this way, under the careful care of parents, the baby will turn the tide and thrive.

3. "Become China Week"

That is, to make a birthday toast to a one-year-old baby. On the birthday, the whole family was busy and held a banquet to celebrate. Relatives, friends and neighbors who came to celebrate were very busy. Especially the baby's grandparents, uncles and aunts came to drink with rich gifts and red envelopes, and sat on the big side happily. The host and guest gathered together, talking and laughing, and it was very lively.

After the banquet, the baby's parents put various items on the table, such as stationery, food, toys, books, labor tools (models) and so on. And let the children catch it themselves. Used to test children's hobbies. If the child catches a pen and a book first, it means that the child likes reading and studying in the future and is expected to be a cultural person in the future; If you catch the labor tools first, it means that the child is expected to work in the future; If you catch the food first, it means that the child is a person who only knows how to eat, drink and have fun ... This is a popular baby "grab the week" ceremony in Qixian Lake area. In fact, this is just a way for adults to have fun. No one can stipulate what children will do when they grow up, and how to do it can only rely on their own struggle and the tempering of the day after tomorrow. At the age of one, children generally begin to babble, learn to walk slowly, and can recognize family members and some things.

Birthday usually: The local people in Qixian Lake area follow the lunar calendar (lunar calendar or ancient calendar), and rarely celebrate their birthdays with the solar calendar (solar calendar). When a child has his first birthday, until he 19 years old, nothing is bigger than the first birthday. Even at the age of 20, I just live with my family or classmates and friends, and I have no habit of eating and drinking.

4. "Hundred Clothes"

In the old society, children in rural areas, especially young babies, were very easy to die, because they were deeply influenced by Buddhism and Taoism, and because medical and health knowledge was not popular enough. In order to show that children's life is very contemptible, parents often call their children by the names of such despicable animals as "dog yazi", "cow yazi" and "tiger yazi". Probably because dogs, cows, tigers and other animals are cheap, but they are healthy and not sick. Parents don't regard them as "little ancestors" now, but as young monks. Therefore, they want a rag from the east and a piece of cloth from the west-called "begging for a hundred pieces of cloth". Mother cut rags ("Hundred Clothes") with different colors and textures into various geometric figures (mostly small triangles, diamonds or squares) and spliced them into clothes (coats or towels) suitable for children, commonly known as "Hundred Clothes". It is generally believed that children wear this kind of patchwork, just like the patchwork worn by young monks handed down from Buddhism. Although it is a supplement, it can be blessed by buddhas and bodhisattvas and escorted by "a hundred schools of ancestors". In this way, ghosts and gods generally believed by the people will not dare to infringe on young children, so that children can live and grow smoothly. And like Buddhist disciples, they are disease-free, healthy and live a long life.

This custom reflects a deep-rooted superstition among the people that the premature death of children is caused by evil spirits. But I don't know if it is caused by poor food hygiene and other reasons, so I blindly expect the blessing of "gods" such as Taoism and Buddhism. As a result, the treatment opportunity is often delayed and the beloved son (daughter) is lost. Fortunately, this superstition gradually faded with the popularization and improvement of people's science and technology culture and the improvement of people's living conditions. As soon as children and adults feel unwell, they go to the doctor for medicine, instead of counting on the protection of "God". It is worth noting that the old "hundred clothes"

Spelling rules, fine workmanship, durable, novel patterns, bright colors, unique and exquisite, never tired of seeing, it is really a rare folk handmade art.

In the old society, there was a custom of wearing a silver collar and a "hundred locks", but few people can see it now.

5. Middle-aged Life Day

On the topic of "birthdays" of adults and adults, there are some common sayings among urban and rural people in Qixian Lake area: "Women are eighteen feet long and men are thirty-six". There are customs such as "men don't do three, women don't do four" and "men do, women do".

"The female is eighteen feet long and the male is thirty-six", which means that when the girl reaches eighteen, she is mature enough to be married with her husband's family. Men are mature at 36, and they can marry late and have children late, even if they get married at 36. This custom has made great progress compared with the old society's "referring to the belly for marriage" or "child bride", but it conflicts with the current marriage law. This old custom should be changed.

Men don't do three, women don't do four. It's about the birthday custom of married men and women. Generally speaking, when men reach the age of 30, they don't hold birthday celebrations. When a woman turns 30, she wants to celebrate her 30th birthday. Because in local folklore, "men spend thirty vines and women spend thirty vines." A 30-year-old man is only 30. It is the beginning and development period of my career, just like a flower just growing on a vine, full of energy, quick thinking and still early! It is the golden age of "picking a burden and letting go of it", which is promising. People will laugh at your birthday at this time. When a woman reaches the age of 30, due to the drag of childbirth, housework and productive labor, the former prostitute of Huanghua is no longer young and bright, and even shows signs of aging before she is old. While she is still young, enjoy the happiness of her birthday and the blessings of relatives and friends; At the same time, it is also the affirmation of husband and in-laws to their daughter-in-law and the praise of their contributions. Therefore, when a woman celebrates her 30th birthday, she will have a big banquet and many programs, which are especially grand and lively.

"Male 36", when a man reaches the age of 35, it should be celebrated grandly. Because men's birthdays are popular, "men are not full." It is said that it is of special significance for men to spend their birthdays in vain, which stems from old customs. Because from ancient times to now, the Han people have always been "men are outside the house and women are inside." Men take care of the outside production or business, earn money to support their families, and the whole family depends on the male owner. Therefore, men celebrate their lives in vain-the so-called "man's progress" means that a production (career) dominated by men is improving every day, and every month, they will "make money" and their careers will continue to rise.

This man's 36th birthday has just passed four years. What is worth celebrating is his 40th birthday. After more than 20 years of study, work and entrepreneurship, I have gained knowledge, love, established a family and achieved my career, and entered the "year of no doubt". As a man, it is time to make a phased summary and evaluation of this life ladder. So the hostess came forward in person and dressed her husband (put on a new suit) from head to toe, just like a "groom's official". Then he showed great diligence and made the birthday party extremely rich. The wine and meat are fragrant and the wedding atmosphere is warm. The purpose of doing this is to give the most comprehensive evaluation and affirmation to her husband's hard work over the years; Another meaning is that husband and wife love each other and help each other. I also hope that my husband will make persistent efforts, bravely shoulder heavy burdens, continue to be responsible for the overall work of family study, production and life, and create brilliant career again.

There is a local folk proverb: "A flower in July is rhapsody, and a woman is forty tofu dregs". Obviously, this is an exaggeration of male charm and an unfair and unscientific evaluation of women. But this is a very positive encouragement and spur for a man who has a career pursuit. Men in their forties are stable, think twice before you act, have rich experience and make ends meet. As long as they persist in their efforts, they can easily achieve greater success in their careers.

6.50th birthday

Few people are willing to celebrate their 50th birthday, probably because people are getting older every year after "half a hundred"! Of course, no one wants to be old! Therefore, people in most places generally do little or nothing on their 50th birthdays.

There is a saying circulating in Qixian Lake area: "The old man is weak, only praise Yuan Tian (Ni)". When people live to 60 or 70 years old, their physical strength declines and they get sick, so they have to stop some heavy physical labor, recuperate and spend their old age safely. Old people who have nothing to do may get together and chat with young people. They often talk about their experiences in productive labor when they were young, dealing with people and anecdotes about mortals. Often when they are excited, they will be very happy and smile. Some old people like to exhort or educate young people in good faith, but some young people don't listen. On the contrary, he sneered: "I am old and weak, but I only praise the original days." Young people mean, "those old people are old and useless, and they still care about other people's affairs." They always pretend to be old-fashioned and teach others the same lessons. I'm afraid they didn't have any skills in those days! " Even if the technology is superb, it has become history. There is nothing to show off. As a result, the old people say that young people still do what they want according to their own ideas.

7. Birthdays of the elderly

People live to be sixty or seventy years old, and they all have children and grandchildren. At this time, it is time for the old people to enjoy their lives. In order to honor and please the elderly, children will take the initiative to hold birthday ceremonies for their parents. A banquet was held for relatives and friends who came to congratulate. The banquet lasted for three days and three nights. People with better economic conditions will also invite professional troupes (or troupes) to sing big plays and add movies. Three days and three nights, a series of wonderful performances. Sing big plays during the day and show movies at night. The main dramas are mostly local ancient painting dramas, Huangmei Opera, traditional Peking Opera and so on. The songs that are often sung include Five Women's Birthdays, Chopped Ribs with bangs, Hanging Red Lanterns High, etc., which are the most popular among middle-aged and elderly friends. Most of the movies shown in the evening are comedies (love stories), detective films and battle films, and middle-aged friends can never get tired of watching them.

Whenever someone has a birthday, men and women nearby, even people ten miles away, help the old and bring the young, and rush to the threshing floor or wider terrace at the door of the "birthday girl" to watch a play or a movie. A sea of people, packed. At night, loud gongs, drums, horns, flutes, rumbling firecrackers, noisy crowds and colorful fireworks burst in the blue sky, drawing colorful patterns and setting off couples dressed in ancient costumes on the stage. I'm afraid it's many times more wonderful than the social drama written by Lu Xun.

Once every ten years, few people do "scattered life", so the eightieth, ninetieth and centenary birthdays are more lively. The older you get, the rarer you get. Therefore, on the ninetieth and centenary birthdays, not only friends and relatives will be here, but also villagers from far and near will come to congratulate and join in, hoping that they will live a long life.

The custom of "birthday": eat "longevity noodles". On the night before the birthday of the birthday girl, friends, relatives and neighbors will set off firecrackers and fireworks. Close friends will also send fireworks, fireworks and other red envelopes, plaques, couplets and so on. To celebrate. And send auspicious words "every year has today, every year has today", and so on. In the evening, the lover (or wife) of the "birthday girl" personally makes "longevity noodles" for the "birthday girl" and guests to entertain relatives and friends. "Longevity noodles" are cooked with high-quality slender noodles, accompanied by seasoning, four round "fried eggs" (fried eggs), and rich wine and dishes as supper. Some of them stayed up all night. Noodles are slender, symbolizing the longevity of the "birthday girl", which is longer than Nanshan. A round egg means that the "birthday girl" has all the best, and the left and right sides are round (source). In the bowl of noodles for the birthday girl-longevity noodles, poached eggs are covered under the noodles. After eating noodles, there will be "poached eggs", which means that the life of the "birthday girl" and his family will be sweeter and taste better.

8. In ancient times.

In ancient times, people always referred to the changes of human hair length, hairstyle and hair color as the age of generations, such as:

Overall perspective: infancy. The ancients didn't shave their heads. They regard hair as the essence of their parents' blood and can't throw it away at will. So ancient children, regardless of gender, tied their hair in a bun, like two horns. It's different now, but there are still some little girls who like to tie their horns, which is also called "dying".

Look down: boyhood. From infancy to adolescence, people grow taller and their hair grows. Children's long hair is tied into a drooping pattern, which is called "drooping".

Bundle hair: refers to teenagers, generally refers to teenagers around 15 years old. At this time, the hair is tied up with a hair band.

And logistics: also known as "waiting for years". It means that girls can get married when they are 15 years old. At this time, women usually pin their hair on their heads with hairpins. (C: That's the hair clasp).

Weak crown: a man of about 20 years old, 20 in ancient times.

A man of twenty should be crowned. From now on, you should wear a hat or headscarf when you go out. It is called "weak crown" because it means that you are just an adult, but not yet mature.

Li: The age of 30 refers to the age of 30. This sentence comes from "The Analects of Confucius for Politics". A person should be in this world at the age of 30.

Not confused: that is, the year of not confused, refers to 40 years old. This theory should be found in the Analects of Confucius-Governing. Of a person reaching the age of 40

/kloc-I am 0/8 years old, with rich experience in all aspects, steady personality, smart and capable, and I am not easily disturbed by the outside world.

Half a hundred: fifty years old, half a hundred years old. Also known as "the year of know life". Because the fate of people who live to 50 years old is almost certain, it is time to accept the fate of know life.

Flower armor: 60 years old is a nail, and people's hair will turn white when they are 60 years old. Therefore, people who are 60 years old are called the elderly.

Gu Xi: That's 70 years old. From Du Fu's Qujiang Poems: "Wine and debt together, life is seventy years old." Under the working and living conditions in ancient times, few people can live to be over 70 years old.

Very old: 80 or 90 years old. Shuowen contains: "At the age of 80, I entered the cave". "90 years old."

Phase I: refers to centenarians. "Period" refers to a complete unit of time. "Righteousness" means to support one's own life.

Hao Shou: The hairs on my fingers are all white. Use its characteristics to refer to the "elderly" group.

Yellow hair: lack of long-lived elderly people. Especially long-lived old people have the phenomenon that white hair turns yellow and green.

Tao Yuanming's poem "Peach Blossom Garden" contains the words "yellow hair drooping, enjoying yourself". The words "yellow hair" and "drooping" refer to the elderly and children respectively.

9. Commonly used birthday couplets;

People's health and longevity increase wealth, and Sun Xianzi is filial and happy;

Gui Lan Qifang met a prosperous time, and the couple enjoyed their old age together.

The crane is a long-lived child, and the pine posture is ancient.

Fukuyama lives forever, and life lives forever.

Longevity is not as good as that of Nanshan pine, but happiness is like flowing water in the East China Sea.

In spring, children are not old, and cranes often grow new.

Beautiful scenery, long spring, and long life.

A long life is the luck of a good society, and the old age depends on the new China.

Happy new year, see thousands of flowers and trees, smile and raise a glass in life.

Cranes have a thousand years of life, and pines and cypresses are evergreen.

Horizontal criticism: people have the blessing of longevity, such as the East China Sea, not older than Nanshan Song Qing.