Recently, I read a story about a 3-year-old woman in a small county town with a monthly salary of less than 2, yuan. The only advantage is that she is close to her parents' home, but she can't give them a better life. She has no marriage, no savings, no investment, no house and no car. This woman used to be a college student, but because she pursued a stable life, she was not admitted to the right civil servant, so she worked as an supernumerary in a government unit until she wasted her twenties.
people who pursue stability like this will eventually become sardines, and often live under no competitive pressure. Even if they really want to compete, they will gradually lose this ability. If you want to escape from this circle, you must get rid of this limitation that you don't want to compete, because this limitation has always been a fortress that you can't break.
why are people who pursue a stable life not families above the middle class, but the lower class below the middle class? The reason is that people of the low-income class have always lived a turbulent life when they were young, while families above the middle class have lived a stable life since childhood. When they grow up, they are more likely to pursue their dreams and will not give up their dreams for stability.
In psychology, there is an effect called "catfish effect". This means that after fishermen salvage sardines, because sardines are very lazy, there are almost no catfish alive on land. If a catfish is put in the salvaged sardines, most of these sardines will survive. The reason is that catfish like activities, and sardines find that their lives will be competitive, so they won't die so soon.
Because this sardine has no sense of hardship or competition, if this group is put together, they will decline in any aspect, whether it is their physical quality or the speed of work, especially in an enterprise. If there is no catfish in it, the enterprise will die sooner or later, and these sardines will die sooner or later.
Many people think that those who are pursuing stability are very good, because they have a stable job and can live a carefree life. This cognition is really limited. If these people who pursue stability are suddenly laid off for work reasons that day, life will become even worse because they live like sardines, and the final result will become "boiled frogs in warm water." I don't even know how I died.
blindly pursuing stability, they will eventually become so lazy that they will eventually become sardines.