The sentence "Don't go to the grave twice a month" means that you can't go to the grave twice a month. As some people say, "no two relatives a month", there is such a custom in some areas of rural areas, but this custom is not universal and only a few people will abide by it.
People in areas with this custom think that going to the grave twice a month is a very taboo behavior, which will not only remind people of sad things, but also make people feel sad for a long time, which is harmful to both body and mind. It is also because these people think that since the deceased has passed away, they should be in a quiet and peaceful environment. But if they go to the grave too often, this tranquility will be broken, which is also a very disrespectful thing for the deceased and an unfilial act.
Although the custom of "not going to the grave twice a month" is only a kind of pressure that individuals will abide by, it is also an expression of feelings. What we should do is to respect their manners and customs.
It means that in the countryside, someone gets married, and you can only go to the wedding if someone invites you. If you are not invited, you can't attend. This is because there are many requirements in the countryside, so when getting married, the countryside will calculate what is a good day. Moreover, people believe that some people will agree with these times or violate some taboos of newcomers, so they will not be invited, and these people will not be present spontaneously. Although it seems superstitious now, many people still maintain the attitude of "believing in it", after all, it is related to a happy life in the future!
The funeral is coming: and death means the end of a person's life, so no matter what kind of contradiction there is between the countryside and the deceased, I will choose to forget it at this time. Neighbors will burn paper to express their condolences uninvited, and they will give a hand to see if they can help, so that the funeral of the deceased can be held very smoothly without any trouble. In fact, at this time, it is often possible to put aside the previous contradictions and increase the feelings between neighbors.