Senior people in a certain field apply for a job in a new company. Among many competitors, he has the richest work experience, the highest education and the most remarkable work achievements. After the second interview, he thought he could stand out, but he was finally hired. He was very surprised. He went to this company to ask about it and got such an answer. "Indeed, your experience and ability are the most outstanding, but from your description of the original company, we find that you are a person who likes to complain, complaining that no one eats lunch at noon, complaining about poor work and low salary, and complaining that you have a stunt.

The leaders of all companies will think that complaining is just a sign of incompetence. Everything can't go smoothly at work, and there may be problems for a while, but it can't be out of balance forever. Only by transforming it into motivation can we really improve work efficiency and achieve practical results.

A psychologist made a psychological test about complaining, and came to the conclusion that if you want to complain, everything in your life will be the object of complaint; If you don't complain, nothing in life will make you complain.

A successful person put it well: "Even if life gives you garbage, you can still step on it and climb to the top of the world." In fact, the world only cares whether you have reached a certain height, and does not care whether you step on the shoulders of giants or garbage. Besides, complaining blindly will not only help, but sometimes it will make things worse.

1. No matter what the reality is, you shouldn't complain. It is better to change our thinking, change the status quo and get happiness by our own efforts.

For example, to understand the truth of riding a donkey to find a horse. The experience of this job now is a stepping stone for you to start another job that suits you better. No experience is a complete failure. This job at least gives you a chance to sum up your experience. "Stones from other mountains can attack jade". It is possible to find your best position in constant adjustment, but this premise is that you must first have a position as a coordinate.

Don't waste too much time on boring things.

If your job doesn't give you a sense of accomplishment at all, try to change your job quickly instead of complaining constantly. Complaining will not improve your eloquence and will not give you any useful experience. It will only make you waste more time and miss more opportunities.

In addition, not complaining is to give yourself a benign psychological hint. Psychological suggestion is very powerful. We all know the positive effect of benign psychological suggestion, but seldom think of the negative effect of bad psychological suggestion. Do you know that the gas exhaled by people when they are depressed, angry or in a bad mood is toxic? Long-term complaints will erode your physical and mental health. If you haven't learned to give yourself benign psychological hints, at least you shouldn't force yourself with bad hints.

If you really want to vent and complain, then you must distinguish between occasions. See the object clearly

You can talk to your family or really good friends. They are people who really care about you, will listen attentively and may give you some good advice. Don't complain to people with ordinary friendship and working relationship, otherwise, it will only bring you harm.

-Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House "Success depends on yourself"